How to use a vib? First time

[Cardinal]

My wife and I are going to try a vibrator for the first time and I would like to know how to use one. Where do you get the most pleasure from the vib? Inside or outside. I want her to be comfortable and enjoy herself so we can continue expermenting.I appreciate any advice...Thank you.

 

[ethicalslut]

Generally, most traditional vibrators are used "outside," on or near the clit. The only way to find out what works for your wife is to experiment with it!

 

[SweetErika]

Ditto. For me, outside, specifically on and around the clit produces the most pleasure. When we bought our first toy, I was a little uncomfortable, so my husband left me alone to masturbate with it a few times and then I taught him what I liked. That may not be the best approach for everyone, but it worked great for us because there was no pressure to make it work.

 

[wicked woman]

And don't forget a vib can be fun for you too.

 

[Beloved]

Unless it's made of the softer materials, latex, cyberskin or gel of some type I'd recommend use on the outside only. A thick, unyeilding phallus penetrating your wife as her first sex toy experience will likely turn her off them for good.

If it's a harder plastic dildo start by turning it on at the lowest setting. Some toys have a mighty irritating hummmmmmmm to them and this may be off-putting. While at the low setting begin by tracing slow circles on the inside of her thighs. The skin there is quite sensetive to the vibrations and should help get her receptive to have the toy placed on her vagina. If she responds well to this I'd go ahead and turn the vibe up a little bit more and trace just outside her lips with it. Watch her body and look for signs that she's becoming aroused by it. Do her legs fall open a bit more, her breath quicken? Do her vaginal lips pink up or swell a bit? If so then you can try very gently running it over her clitoris and seeing how she responds. Does she enjoy it? If so the same treatment as before. Trace slow circles around it, slide up and down it, increase the speed a bit more if you think it's doing the trick.

Be prepared to not have the thing go full throttle the first time out. Some women are very sensetive to vibrations on the clitoris and while it may be intensely pleasurable it may also irritate or tickle if you use it to long or at to high a speed. Also, make sure you continue to touch, stroke, kiss and talk to her. Don't let the encounter become all about the toy, this is an AIDE not a substitute.
It may take your wife a bit to warm up to use of the thing if it's her first time but if used right I'm sure she'll come to enjoy it in time.

 

[Cardinal]

Thanks

This advice is better than I had hoped for. Thank you, I am confident that your advice will make the expereince better.

 

[ethicalslut]

Also (shoudl have noted this earlier)... depending on how comfortable your wife is with this, you might want to let her experiment by herself the first couple times, just to figure out what she likes/doesn't like.

Again, depends on the person

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

Ditto. For me, outside, specifically on and around the clit produces the most pleasure. When we bought our first toy, I was a little uncomfortable, so my husband left me alone to masturbate with it a few times and then I taught him what I liked. That may not be the best approach for everyone, but it worked great for us because there was no pressure to make it work.

I TOTALLY agree