How To Tell

[ThatGirl1890]

So I have a lot of gay/bi/undecided friends. I've always loved guys (although I'm a virgin there's nothing better than a hot hunk to keep you busy with other things ;-]).
Recently, though, I've found that I have an attraction to girls. I'm not really sure how to word it but I've fantasized about being with girls. To some that sounds weird since I was pretty sure I could never swing that way but I'm not so sure anymore.
How do you tell and is this normal?

 

[emap]

Normal rather depends on who you ask. Basically yes it is very normal to have thoughts on same sex sex. The key here is, do you look at a woman you find attractive and start thinking about stripping her down to nothing and using your fingers tongue and toys on her?

If the answer is no, then you are straight and are just having the thoughts because you are horny, if it is sometimes you are in between and desire men and women, if it is a yes then you are a full bore homosexual and you do not really like men.

Going by what you said, I would say you are either straight or in between, and a tomboy.

 

[Esperanza_Hidalgo]

emap has it good

But hard to truly know, only you know you. For most truly queer, we simply know, at least that's what my lez buddies tell me and how I felt--I always knew I was different than other girls. It's like they just always knew, though some say they didn't until later. The reason for the former, in my opinion, is societal suppression, so we think we can't be because of how we were raise. I'd say be cautious in telling, until you figure out what you are my sweetie. Perhaps a tryst might flesh it out? Sate the curiosity? Or perhaps find the true you, whoever you are. Love and desire know few limits, unless we place them on ourselves.

Espie