I've had 10 sexual partners in my life, all male, but still I am not very experienced. Most of those have been brief and far between, and I don't think that excluding my current partner, I've been with the same man more than 15 times. While I've never had a one night stand, sexually speaking, things for me haven't been all that consistent.
With my past partners, most of the "attention" has been focused on me, with him doing pretty much what he wants, and then we have sex. My current partner wants me to be more "proactive" as he puts it, and just let him lay there once in a while, while I do all the "work"...if one can call it that.
I'm fine with that, but I don't know what the fuck I'm doing. For one thing, I'm submissive, so taking initiative doesn't really come that easily for me. For another thing, though he and I have talked (and no, we didn't break up, if you were wondering, we're trying to find a happy medium right now) and he's told me some things he likes, but I feel like I'm stuck in a rut. What could I do for him, even a small act, to spice things up a little to break out of the kiss-neck-69-receive oral-fuck routine?
Another thing that's hampering me is that I'm REALLY insecure. I don't want to be awkward, do something he doesn't like, or not have the skill at something that he might be accustomed to. Is that really an issue with guys, or is the fun in just trying?
A small aside...my guy is an older man, so it sometimes takes him a while to get an erection (which he always can unless he's been drinking...but I think that's most guys). Stimulating his penis directly is about the only thing that works all the time, oral always works. 69 is great, but sometimes distracts me from enjoying it as opposed to when I'm just receiving and not giving, and "taking turns" invariable gets one of us out the mood to some degree. How do we solve this?
With my past partners, most of the "attention" has been focused on me, with him doing pretty much what he wants, and then we have sex. My current partner wants me to be more "proactive" as he puts it, and just let him lay there once in a while, while I do all the "work"...if one can call it that.
I'm fine with that, but I don't know what the fuck I'm doing. For one thing, I'm submissive, so taking initiative doesn't really come that easily for me. For another thing, though he and I have talked (and no, we didn't break up, if you were wondering, we're trying to find a happy medium right now) and he's told me some things he likes, but I feel like I'm stuck in a rut. What could I do for him, even a small act, to spice things up a little to break out of the kiss-neck-69-receive oral-fuck routine?
Another thing that's hampering me is that I'm REALLY insecure. I don't want to be awkward, do something he doesn't like, or not have the skill at something that he might be accustomed to. Is that really an issue with guys, or is the fun in just trying?
A small aside...my guy is an older man, so it sometimes takes him a while to get an erection (which he always can unless he's been drinking...but I think that's most guys). Stimulating his penis directly is about the only thing that works all the time, oral always works. 69 is great, but sometimes distracts me from enjoying it as opposed to when I'm just receiving and not giving, and "taking turns" invariable gets one of us out the mood to some degree. How do we solve this?
No one taught me how to do it, it's just instinctive. I just do what feels good to me...... 
