How To Stop Premature Ejaculation

[AsianWorshipper]

I'm one of the few guys that will openly admit that sometimes he has a premy problem. The big problem is due to my girlfriend. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I am very much in love. However, the girl freaking rapes me in bed, and I mean in a good way, she's rough, brutal and down right agressive which is a big turn on.

THE PROBLEM is however, that the foreplay can be so intense that by the time I actually get to the deed I suck. I never had this problem before I met her, foreplay was always soft and gentle, this is down right agressive stuff and I've never experienced it before so it's sensory overload.

With that, does anyone have a suggestion. I don't want to tell my girlfriend to tone it down because I ENJOY every aspect of what we do...I just want to be able to please her without embarassing myself.

Any suggestions are appreciative.

 

[Pepsico]

I heard somewhere that bringing yourself almost to orgasm, and then holding back repeatedly can help "train" your penis and help with premature ejac.

Just something I heard.. but you could look into it more!

 

[Darksage]

Zoloft and Trazodone are making it so it takes a long time for me to cum... maybe you should try going to a shrink and convincing them to put you on it...

 

[Eilan]

The big problem is due to my girlfriend.

Don't blame your GF for this.

However, the girl freaking rapes me in bed, and I mean in a good way

There's no such thing. Just sayin'.

 

[tanyachrs]

I think he's just saying that his girlfriend really turns him on and he gets a lot of stimulation through foreplay. Sounds nice.

To the OP: if you don't normally have a problem with premature ejaculation, I think this over-excitedness will wear off as you get used to her. Unfortunately.

 

[Goldy4545]

rinse and repeat

I've had this problem before as well. If you have a fairly short recovery time then the solution is easy.

We came to an arrangement where my first ejaculation was "for me". Her task was to think of new and interesting ways to make it happen. Then the my 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc was for her. My task was to get her as high as possible on the estacy of orgasims. Together we could go for hours - I still miss her.

 

[human_male]

Have you tried wanking before hand? And when you do cum launch into some afterplay, like oral. That way when you cum she knows it doesn't mean it's over, it means she's going to get some tongue, so she won't be disappointed.

Hope that helps.

 

[Tall_One]

Dude

Two words: Kegel exercise (I think that is how it is how you spell it).

 

[Bobby_Davro12]

Penis Exercises

Yep I'll second that Kegal Exercises really work by strengthening your pc muscle. There are exercise guides that you can buy on the net which can help sort out premature ejaculation. One of the products that my company sells is an online penis exercise routine. It's only for a couple of minutes a day and you can really train your penis.

Not Bobby

 

[webber1998]

I learned to distract myself by thinking of something *weird or funny * if I was getting too close...too fast... worked pretty well for me.

 

[SweetErika]

I think he's just saying that his girlfriend really turns him on and he gets a lot of stimulation through foreplay. Sounds nice.

We know that, but associating the word 'rape' with something good or using it in the context he did can be offensive to assault survivors and their loved ones. We're not terribly PC around here, but we do try to be sensitive to the fact that far too many of us know what rape and abuse is like from experience. To me, it feels like poking at a wound, even if completely unintentional. It's just something to be aware of.


You've been given good advice, AW. My hubby's never been a marathon man, even with condoms. I take it as a compliment, and sometimes have him come during oral or have sex multiple times, being close or him pleasing me in between. He usually gives me an orgasm or three before sex, so even if sex is short, it's very sweet. I actually prefer a couple of shorter rounds to one longer one, so it works out fine.

 

[landgirl]

Hi! This is my first post on this forum, and I have to say it's a pleasure to find such a frank and friendly place to chat.

AW, there is a technique you could try - I've used it on my husband once or twice, and it does seem to work. When you feel yourself reaching "the point of no return", get hold of your penis with your first two fingers on the top, slightly apart, with your first finger against the glans, and your thumb underneath and positioned between them, and squeeze firmly (not so firmly that you find yourself hanging from the light fitting with all thoughts of lovemaking gone from your mind, though!) Hopefully, this should calm things down a bit and give you more time.

Hope this helps!

 

[Cowbi]

I had this problem before

Same type of thing girl just drove crazy and I couldnt hold on.
I talked to my doc about it and he told me to practice more .
Yep I got a prescription to masterbate.
He said the same thing another person said in the thread.
When masterbating taking your self to the edge then stop it. Leave it for a couple of minutes and then start again.
You will see the results instantly.

Koodos by the way on your honesty

 

[Pearljwah]

there is no specific thing you can do. Everyone is different.

what works for me is not masturbatin gmore, that has for some reason just made me even more damn sensitive.

And first..theres nothing wrong with cumming quickly, just get it giong again.

but, what works for me is just having her give me a hand job during foreplay. We fool around for many many many many minutes and usually just ends up stroking my cock till i cum all over her. its not as intense, my dick is always hard after, i released alot of the pressure and cum....i can then usually have sex for as long as our little hearts desire.