I'm a male who is a relative newbie to BDSM. As I've gotten more interested in it and am wanting it to play a larger part in future relationships, I've started wondering how I could go about meeting a dominant woman, be it at work or elsewhere. The idea of going to a munch or whatever doesn't appeal to me, and my line of work (professional) doesn't allow me the freedom to go to BDSM clubs, and I live in a good sized town, but it's not like there's a huge population where I could find someone on craigslist.
So my predicament is that it's hard to tell if women would be into BDSM. I understand that a lot of women who might make killer Dommes aren't into BDSM (yet), but given the opportunity, they'd be quite good at it and enjoy it. But the trick is, how do I spot those women? And how do I spot the women who are already into BDSM?
What I'm asking is, are there general signs & character traits I should look for, keeping in mind that I am in a professional environment and nobody I come into contact with there is wearing collars to work. A broad question, I know. I also know that some dommes may not fit the "mold" and be different from what most would expect. Put simply (and humorously) - what are the subtle signs that should alert me to the fact that the woman in the office next to mine would like nothing more than to bend a man over her desk and screw him with a strapon?
I suppose the same question could be asked on behalf of ladies looking for a dominant male - what are some signs the person in the office next to you is a dominant male and wants nothing more than to tie up his lady coworker and have his way with her....
Hopefully this gets some discussions going. I'll throw in my two cents tomorrow, if I'm not as exhausted as i am today.
-LW
So my predicament is that it's hard to tell if women would be into BDSM. I understand that a lot of women who might make killer Dommes aren't into BDSM (yet), but given the opportunity, they'd be quite good at it and enjoy it. But the trick is, how do I spot those women? And how do I spot the women who are already into BDSM?
What I'm asking is, are there general signs & character traits I should look for, keeping in mind that I am in a professional environment and nobody I come into contact with there is wearing collars to work. A broad question, I know. I also know that some dommes may not fit the "mold" and be different from what most would expect. Put simply (and humorously) - what are the subtle signs that should alert me to the fact that the woman in the office next to mine would like nothing more than to bend a man over her desk and screw him with a strapon?
I suppose the same question could be asked on behalf of ladies looking for a dominant male - what are some signs the person in the office next to you is a dominant male and wants nothing more than to tie up his lady coworker and have his way with her....
Hopefully this gets some discussions going. I'll throw in my two cents tomorrow, if I'm not as exhausted as i am today.
-LW