How to show your wife off.

[ThunderPark]

My wife won't wear short shorts or miniskirts, she thinks that is too slutty for professionals with kids. She will go without a bra(when not at work), she ocasionally wears corsets, shelf bras, lace bras, I have used liquid latex to paint bra cups on her and when not at work she will forego knickers. The issue is this, she is afraid if her nipples show through the fabric. I am not asking her to wear sheer tops, just ones where you can see the outline of her silver dollar sized nipples. This I believe is the next step for us. We have been married 12 yrs, at first she wore loose jeans and t shirts, now she wears dresses and nice tight tops w 4-5" heels(she wears 5.5size), my goal eventually is a collar and really sexy clothing to go shopping in a town 2hr away. What would you suggest I say or do to encourage her to make this next step to allowing the outline of her nipples to show through her top?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Is she aware of your plans / desires for future changes? I am thinking if you are having problems now, she isn't likely to be slipping into a collar anytime soon unless she is OK with it...and if you are thinking of it (a collar round her neck) being a sign of submission from her but not telling her, then you are likely in the wrong place here as consent is a big thing for most here. Perhaps you need to talk with her more about why she is reluctant, what she feels, what she fears, why, and what her desires might be.

Catalina

 

[graceanne]

Is she aware of your plans / desires for future changes? I am thinking if you are having problems now, she isn't likely to be slipping into a collar anytime soon unless she is OK with it...and if you are thinking of it (a collar round her neck) being a sign of submission from her but not telling her, then you are likely in the wrong place here as consent is a big thing for most here. Perhaps you need to talk with her more about why she is reluctant, what she feels, what she fears, why, and what her desires might be.

Catalina

You mean . . . people should communicate? But that's outrageous, outlandish! What would this world come to if people had to communicate with their lovers? OH THE HORROR!

 

[ThunderPark]

She is aware and the collar thing is a very far off goal, like when the kids are in college or later. I don't consider the issue a problem either just a step on the road of life. I did say she will go braless, in fact last weekend she wore a pink tank and some shorts while teaching our youngest to ride a bike without training wheels at a nearby parking lot. I did not ask her to wear it that way she just did. She got some pretty good stares, too. I'm looking for ways to encourage the showing off. I tell her how hot she looks and she has tops that her nipples look awesome showing thru. I have suggested going out of town to do this look. Of course we need to do it in a manner were we don't cause issue with our children.

 

[rosco rathbone]

My wife won't wear short shorts or miniskirts, she thinks that is too slutty for professionals with kids. She will go without a bra(when not at work), she ocasionally wears corsets, shelf bras, lace bras, I have used liquid latex to paint bra cups on her and when not at work she will forego knickers. The issue is this, she is afraid if her nipples show through the fabric. I am not asking her to wear sheer tops, just ones where you can see the outline of her silver dollar sized nipples. This I believe is the next step for us. We have been married 12 yrs, at first she wore loose jeans and t shirts, now she wears dresses and nice tight tops w 4-5" heels(she wears 5.5size), my goal eventually is a collar and really sexy clothing to go shopping in a town 2hr away. What would you suggest I say or do to encourage her to make this next step to allowing the outline of her nipples to show through her top?

Personally, I would tell her "wear what I tell you to wear or prepare for an ass whipping", but not everyone has that kind of rapport.

 

[ThunderPark]

She mostly wears what I set out however she makes minor changes sometimes, as I mostly pick out clothes for the work week. I leave for work before she awakens. It is more afternoons and weekend that I am concerned with. Last Saturday she picked a tight sheer sweater that matched her nipples, then as I got in the car she ran back for sunglasses. She came back with a cardigan. One moment she was more than willing, then she killed the view. You think I should punish her for that. We have gotten to where we are through positive reinforcement. I thought her action is a baby step. Would it be productive to make her wear a tight shirt without a bra to a store across town that we don't frequent. Would this encourage or discourage her, what do you think?

 

[BiBunny]

I'm just trying to figure out why her showing her nipples is so important. I mean, is this really a sign of "ultimate submission" for you? Honestly, it just looks trashy as fuck to me.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

She's clearly reluctant and uncomfortable and yet you're still pushing her. The question here is how far you're willing to shove her out of her comfort zone to get what you want. A sheer top on a night out is one thing, in the park with your kids, other kids and other parents, it's something else altogether. You need to look past what gets your cock hard and have a think about how your wife is being perceived by others. There's a time and a place for flaunting your nipples and IMO the park with a young child is not it.

The issue here is also consent. Random people in the park have not consented to be part of your public nipple fetish. It probably makes them uncomfortable like watching a teen couple make out does. What you do as adults is only your business if it has no impact on anyone else.

 

[ThunderPark]

I think that you folks are right there are many possible effects to the display of nipples. The more I think of it, I believe that the efforts she has made are more than satisfactory given present circumstances.

 

[Adakgirl]

Talk to her about the possibility of posing for nipple pics without showing her face...you can take them and post them up in the Amateur Pic forum here on Lit. You can start your own thread there and it can be as anonymous as you want it to be. You children won't see them..if your computer has parental controls on it, no-one will know who she is if you keep her face and any personally identifiable things out of the pictures.

 

[wicked woman]

My wife won't wear short shorts or miniskirts, she thinks that is too slutty for professionals with kids. She will go without a bra(when not at work), she ocasionally wears corsets, shelf bras, lace bras, I have used liquid latex to paint bra cups on her and when not at work she will forego knickers. The issue is this, she is afraid if her nipples show through the fabric. I am not asking her to wear sheer tops, just ones where you can see the outline of her silver dollar sized nipples. This I believe is the next step for us. We have been married 12 yrs, at first she wore loose jeans and t shirts, now she wears dresses and nice tight tops w 4-5" heels(she wears 5.5size), my goal eventually is a collar and really sexy clothing to go shopping in a town 2hr away. What would you suggest I say or do to encourage her to make this next step to allowing the outline of her nipples to show through her top?

Sounds like she's got good taste and knows how to dress in public. Frankly, I'd be thankful and leave her alone. If her nipples turn you on, ask her to wear that stuff in private for you.

 

[nanette09]

Just out of curiousity here....why would you pick out her clothes for work?
I wear lose jeans and a raggedy t-shirt on my off days, dress professional at work, and dress wild in the bed room.

My man has asked for me to wear clothes that he likes, but I'm not comfortable in them and it begins to ruin our time together.....

Clothes reflect attitude, do they not?

Getting her to wear more revealing, should the persuasion come from having her attitude match what she is wearing, do you want other looking at her? Does she?

 

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[Mansa Musa]

One piece of advice: Different timezone, different rules. if you want her to get wild, it's always a good idea to go to a different country, with a beach.

 

[ThunderPark]

I really like that idea Adakgirl, thanks.

Nanette09 I find that looking nice on her down time is like foreplay. My wife sleeps in sexy lingerie and I find it exciting. We married young and back in the nineties it was the thing to wear baggy clothes, mainly shirts and jeans. I felt that fashion hid people in potato sacks. After the kids she suddenly started exercising and losing weight. When we would go shopping for clothes that fit her better we found that she looked stunning in blouses and nicer tops. She feels comfortable in them, so I asked her to leave the sweats and raggedy t-shirts behind. Now she is into skinny jeans, and nice dresses. She is proud of her body and likes to look good.
Yes, we both like it when others admire her. She tells me about the guys who get flirty when they visit her practice. I tell her of the guys in the mall that turn to get a second look when she passes them.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I think that you folks are right there are many possible effects to the display of nipples. The more I think of it, I believe that the efforts she has made are more than satisfactory given present circumstances.

I'm glad you see it that way. It's clear that you love her very much and find her sexy as hell but there are ways of expressing that publicly that won't cause embarrassment, offence or make your missus look like a trollop.

Just a couple of ideas...

As to the collar thing, many female subs wear a choker or similar piece of jewellery that symbolises a collar but is acceptable in public. So long as you both know what it means to you, a special piece of jewellery can be just as effective as a collar. There's no reason why she can't crawl around on a leather collar and leash in the bedroom however.

You could maybe put the ball in her court. Your wife knows your tastes and she knows what she's comfortable wearing. Why not give her some cash and tell her you want her to buy a sexy outfit to go shopping in the other town in? That way she will be dressing with you in mind but will be able to retain a degree of control over what she is happy to be seen in. She might pleasantly surprise you if you let her find her own style that genuinely makes her feel sexy, rather than simply over-exposed.

 

[ThunderPark]

I like the jewelry idea. Being most don't really know what jewelry means beyond adornment. I find it peculiar that macy's sells so much coin oriented jewelry. From eastern society women wore strands of coins to show that they were available for "hire". I sometimes go up and down in the intensity of what I have in mind. Right now I feel that a smart outfit with a collar would be equal to a sheer shirt and lace bra. Both being blatant just in different ways. This morning we talked about short shorts and this afternoon I got my kicks off of watching her try them on and we came home with sexy yet appropriate shorts.

 

[Marquis]

I think that you folks are right there are many possible effects to the display of nipples. The more I think of it, I believe that the efforts she has made are more than satisfactory given present circumstances.

Don't let these people cut your dick off dude.

If you want sheer nipplage and collar action, you go for it. Your wife wants to do it too, she's just scared. She just needs a little encouragement and understanding.

If John Q can't handle seeing a woman in a collar they can look the other way.

 

[ownedsubgal]

Don't let these people cut your dick off dude.

If you want sheer nipplage and collar action, you go for it. Your wife wants to do it too, she's just scared. She just needs a little encouragement and understanding.

If John Q can't handle seeing a woman in a collar they can look the other way.

i do not think that i have EVER used this term before, but...word.

 

[Netzach]

Personally, I would tell her "wear what I tell you to wear or prepare for an ass whipping", but not everyone has that kind of rapport.

And I'd offer her things she really really likes - points redeemable for valuable prizes, the sluttier and more to my liking the look. I would emphasize out on the town more than out with the kiddies, though, merely because why invite other people's insanity?

 

[JMohegan]

Don't let these people cut your dick off dude.

Haha - I was just thinking the exact same thing.

 

[intothewoods]

One piece of advice: Different timezone, different rules. if you want her to get wild, it's always a good idea to go to a different country, with a beach.

I would love this - I'm all about the escape.

Don't let these people cut your dick off dude.

If you want sheer nipplage and collar action, you go for it. Your wife wants to do it too, she's just scared. She just needs a little encouragement and understanding.

If John Q can't handle seeing a woman in a collar they can look the other way.

What people? The people on this thread? Not being snarky, I'm just confused.

And I'd offer her things she really really likes - points redeemable for valuable prizes, the sluttier and more to my liking the look. I would emphasize out on the town more than out with the kiddies, though, merely because why invite other people's insanity?

Personally, I would tell her "wear what I tell you to wear or prepare for an ass whipping", but not everyone has that kind of rapport.

Both of these comments made me giggle.

To the OP - Professionals (well, professional what is the question, I guess...) don't wear short shorts or skirts...to work! I mean, those that care about appropriate attire and all that. It's not like I've never seen a short skirt in the workplace. But I don't actually spend my whole life in the office or pass out my business card everywhere I go.

As to the kids, well, they are just nipples, after all. I'm not one to get that worked up about breasts. I think the concern for you as a dad would only be what attention does this bring to my kids, and balance that with your interests. I don't think your whole life needs to be dictated by your kids. It's just a question of how you want to balance things.

If you do want to keep that stuff separate from your kids, there are plenty of ways to do so. Leave the kids at home and go out to a bar and have her dress however you like. Join a kink group and take her to a party or find a group of like-minded friends and have a show off your wife party. Lots of options!

 

[SimonBrooke]

I like the jewelry idea. Being most don't really know what jewelry means beyond adornment. I find it peculiar that macy's sells so much coin oriented jewelry. From eastern society women wore strands of coins to show that they were available for "hire". I sometimes go up and down in the intensity of what I have in mind. Right now I feel that a smart outfit with a collar would be equal to a sheer shirt and lace bra. Both being blatant just in different ways. This morning we talked about short shorts and this afternoon I got my kicks off of watching her try them on and we came home with sexy yet appropriate shorts.

A friend of mine (sadly, only a friend) wears a collar which looks like jewellery - she wears it all the time (as she can't remove it), and says that it doesn't get noticed as something odd by people who don't know what it is. It's polished stainless steel, quite narrow, and fastens with a concealed allen-head screw.

It is German made and was quite expensive - but is extremely sexy.

 

[ThunderPark]

My wife saw an ad in Elle, touting nipple pasties as a way to not get tan lines, great. Is it legal to wear just these on California beach?

 

[callinectes]

Don't let these people cut your dick off dude.

If you want sheer nipplage and collar action, you go for it. Your wife wants to do it too, she's just scared. She just needs a little encouragement and understanding.

If John Q can't handle seeing a woman in a collar they can look the other way.

See, my issue with this is, where is this happening? At the bar at 10 PM or in the mall at 2:00 PM on a Saturday afternoon?

Dude talks about going somewhere that it won't cause an issue with his own children..what about everyone elses? Why is it cool for my kid to be subjected to the woman's nipples but not his own?

Time and place, yanno?