How to seduce a man for dummies

[ourladyoflust]

So I've never attempted to seduce a man in my life before. I've been with two guys in the past (I was in a long distance RL with one for a long time before we met, and the other one it just happened and he sucked) and there's a guy I like but I have absolutely no idea how to appeal to him. How do girls seduce a man? This is terrible, I know, I'm just hopeless and clueless at this.

 

[Icarus_Fallen]

Well, there are a few things to take into account! If you don't mind me asking, how old are you and the man, and what is your relationship?

 

[NippleMuncher]

Bailadora - You've been warned!

Men are complicated creatures. It takes a precise combination of alcohol and nekidness before we're interested. Ok, technically any amount of alcohol OR nekidness and we'll do just about anything, but you didn't hear it from me!

Seriously, I'm not sure if you mean seduce or if you mean flirt and get a guy's attention. Seduction is more or less the act of a enticing person, without the use of physical force, to consent to sexual intercourse. If that's all you're looking for, then definitely a few too many drinks on either persons part will likely culminate with this result.

If you're more looking at flirting or getting the guy to be interested in you, that's a whole different story. Being self confident is always attractive to the opposite sex. Some guys like women to be a little more assertive or aggressive when it comes to the chase. Do you carry yourself with confidence? Are you strong enough to strike up a conversation? Can you flirt without being lewd (unless lewd is the order of the day )?

 

[subwannabe]

I'm going to be the dummy here and ask you what does seduce mean? What are you trying to accomplish? To me seducing means acting or looking (or both) in a sexy manner because you want to have sex with the other person. If you are wanting to start off by dating then just ask him.

 

[PhilGarlic]

If

if you just want to hang out with the guy, get to know him better ask him out for a coffee after work, or at the weekend. If the guy has any interest he will say yes.

Might be hard to just come out with it, but a lot better then not having given it a go.

(oh don't ask in front of his wife )

 

[NippleMuncher]

(oh don't ask in front of his wife )

But some guys like that ...

 

[Mac98]

I would say seducing a guy is perhaps the easiest thing to do. Sometimes I wish I were a chick so I wouldn't have to put so much work into it . But I'm also kinda' lazy, so...

This all being said, I'm 21... so of course I'm always a little more willing and always much easier to seduce. All a girl needs to do is flirt with me and get a little close and I'm sold (Mistake not: I have to be physically interested at LEAST).

OR

She can challenge my thoughts and beliefs, share her own opinions about shit (aside from Lady Gaga and shopping). I can usually read in a girl's eyes if she's interested or not after a long-enough discussion. Then I'll make the move if I'm interested. But intellect is also a good way to seduce me.

The other, more easy approach, however, is really to just be flirtatious and then to get a little closer (physically) without going overboard. A chick who gets on my lap and caresses my neck after meeting her only 30 minutes ago is a Red-flag for STD's...

 

[marianthelibrarian]

Sorry to rely so much on stereotypes but I'm firmly convinced that this one is just so mostly true that you've got to rely on this point if you want to achieve success in seduction... men are visual.

It's not that women aren't visual but in men it just seems exacerbated. So, step one is really, how can you work on your appearance to entice the particular guy you are interested in? Do you know if he has a "type"? What are your best assets and how can you display them to your best advantage?

I would say that step two is, what kind of flirtatious dynamic does he get off on? Does he like banter? Does he like being fawned over? Does he like intense debates? Figure that out and capitalize on that.

Step three, I would think about what kind of signals you can send and at what level. As Mac98 pointed out, there's such a thing as going overboard. But at the same time there's such a thing as underplaying as well. Aside from making sure you get a little close, other things you could do are, touch his arm lightly and briefly in some way, play with your hair, lean forward closer to him, smile a lot, and laugh heartily at his (lame) jokes.

 

[Boundlife]

laugh heartily at his (lame) jokes.

Nooo! don't do it! What if you some day have kids, They will have to listen to that same sad joke the rest of their LIVES!
(Sorry, I was just talking to my dad )

 

[Virgil_Mayhap]

1) Be genuine.

2) Do guy activities and try to have fun (eg, play some basketball)

3) Just let the cute guy you like know you're into him. Don't be shy, usually just asking a dude on a date is all you need to get the ball rolling.