How to Propose?

[watergirl]

Sing!

My best friend told me the story of how one of her guy friends proposed to his girl... The two of them were out to dinner with a group of friends, somewhere familiar and nice, not too formal - and he excused himself to go the restroom. They made it into a joke of "all the guys going together" instead of the ladies leaving for the restroom in pairs...

And they all came back, singing "Every Little Thing She Does Is Magic," by the Police - and I think they all had umbrellas, or maybe someone had a big one to hold over him, he kneeled down and offered her the ring, while singing - apparently she just adored it. God knows I would, from the right guy.. if it was from the wrong guy, at the wrong moment - lord help him.

I like the fire driveway idea, that's cool too. Fire, fire, heheheh.

Though I've tried before to tell her
Of the feelings I have for her in my heart
Every time that I come near her
I just lose my nerve
As I've done from the start

Every little thing she does is magic
Everything she does just turns me on
Even though my life before was tragic
Now I know my love for her goes on

Do I have to tell the story
Of a thousand rainy days since we first met
It's a big enough umbrella
But it's always me that ends up getting wet

Every little thing she does is magic
Everything she does just turns me on
Even though my life before was tragic
Now I know my love for her goes on

I resolve to call her up a thousand times a day
And ask her if she'll marry me in some old fashioned way
But my silent fears have gripped me
Long before I reach the phone
Long before my tongue has tripped me
Must I always be alone?

Every little thing she does is magic
Everything she does just turns me on
Even though my life before was tragic
Now I know my love for her goes on

 

[Weird Harold]

Do guys ever go & ask their girlfriend's dad for their daughter's hand in marriage anymore or is that considered archaic??? Just curious.

I've been married twice, and asked the parents both times -- however, I'm a bit archaic, not to mention weird.

 

[Wolf_Song]

I agree, Orchid...sincere is ALWAYS the way to go. But my brother is anything BUT into simple. *sigh* He's more into spectacular and extravagent...but that's part of why she loves him.

As to what she's into? Music of all kinds...she plays guitar and bass, and she comes from a musical family, just like my brother and I do. She loves to travel. She likes movies and comedy. She reads everything she can get her hands on.

Hmmm...I can't think of anything else right now.

S.

Perhaps he could incorporate everything she likes to do in a special day shared together. Where he could plan a whole day specially dedicated in appreciation to her. With only having to tell her that in being able to keep the proposal a surprise.

They could start with " travelling " to a distant romantic setting book store. With enjoying time there, then go looking for a " romantic comedy " rental movie together. Then he could take her out for dinner or cook for her.

Then before, during or after the movie he could surprise her with a small wrapped gift. When she opens it will be a box for guitar strings, a pick or something " musically " similiar. As she opens the box he can go down to one knee and propose when she sees ring.

Plus multiple variations could be done on this where a movie rental could be subsituted for a matinee feature. And could be toned down or made more extravagent as he wishes. Either way they get to share special time together and make it all more memorable in surprise proposal.

Best wished to yourself and all.

 

[Lust Engine]

I like the one I saw on AFV, where the guy shaved his back hair to read "Marry Me".

But then again, I am weird that way.

Between you & Harold being "weird"- I'd like to know a definiton of normal around here nowadays!

 

[sheath]

Update...

GOT NEWS!

First of all, I showed my brother this thread, and he is just bursting with ideas. But he did agree with many here, to keep it a low-key affair. So now he's trying to figure out how to combine music and books into his proposal. He said that he wants her to always think about it when she sees a guitar or opens her favorite book. I think he's going to go with the engraved plate on the inside of a first-edition book...kinda pricey, but DEFINITELY a good keepsake, and you guys know us women LOVE that kinda thing.

He was impressed with the responses! And so am I, because guess what? My boyfriend got inspired, and now I have a story of my own.

My man and I met on a chat room, almost two years ago. We were both wandering around one of the "Nashville" city chats...I clicked on his profile, and it said he was a musician, which of course got MY attention. Anyway...to make a long story short, we talked for five hours that first night, and things went from there. We have been inseparable ever since.

So what does he do? Just like that first night, we were five hundred miles apart. So he calls me and tells me, "Log onto the chatroom where we met". I log on, and he asks me to marry him...on the computer screen, in the chat room! He said that he thought it was fitting to go back to where we started. I will never forget that feeling of seeing those words. It was unconventional but romantic, and damned if it wasn't perfect for us.

Of course, he made it "official" later, and today I'm sporting an absolutely perfect ring!

Thanks for all the ideas! Not only for my brother, but for me.

S.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Hairgrip]

wow! well done! i am feeling all gooey now.

yay!
Hxxxx

 

[watergirl]

WOW!!!! Congrats, Sheath - that's so damn cool!

Wow wow wow... Ohh, I wish you guys so much happiness, I can't even say!

 

[sheath]

Thanks, everybody.

I'm quite happy, to say the least. This IS turning into a warm and gooey thread, isn't it? lol

S.

 

[UnseenChagrin]

Congrats to you and your brother Sheath!

 

[Wolf_Song]

Re: Update...

sheath,

Perhaps your brother could gift wrap a book in a nice box with a removable top. Or in a wooden one with hinges that has varnished finish ( extra keepsake thang ). Within could be a book about music that has more space than just for the book. Below could be silk or another form of packing material. Thus when she removes the book, the ring is safely secure underneath and surprises her.

And if he wants to be more extravagent he could take her some where music is being performed. Whether of a style she specifically likes or more romantical/ memorable setting. Then give her the book or have it delivered by talking to performers or staff of such location. Or pull the old " I forgot something in the car/ truck " and return with the gift wrapped and ready for some serious surprising.

Other than that thank you for sharing every thing that you have of yours and brothers proposal stories. Was both a privilege and pleasure to enjoy in each.. much obliged. With wishing the best to all.


And congradulations to !

 

[UnseenChagrin]

what if he got her a special edition book about guitars?

 

[Wolf_Song]

what if he got her a special edition book about guitars?

Sounds like a great idea and adding that to a box/ case made by a custom wood shop would work nicely. With being able to add intricate designs in the woodwork would make it quite wonderful as well.

 

[sheath]

Sounds like a great idea and adding that to a box/ case made by a custom wood shop would work nicely. With being able to add intricate designs in the woodwork would make it quite wonderful as well.

He absolutely LEAPED at the guitar book, in a nice box. Right now, we're thinking...a REALLY nice, hardcover book with quite a bit about guitars in it, with a nice engraved plate inside, and a box with her favorite guitars somehow engraved into the sides...and a little space inside for the ring.

What do you think?

And thanks for the congrats.

S.

 

[Wolf_Song]

He absolutely LEAPED at the guitar book, in a nice box. Right now, we're thinking...a REALLY nice, hardcover book with quite a bit about guitars in it, with a nice engraved plate inside, and a box with her favorite guitars somehow engraved into the sides...and a little space inside for the ring.

What do you think?

And thanks for the congrats.

S.

I think it is possible and the idea is shared with UnseenChagrin as all I did was combine hers and mine. The engraving would be easy to a fine woodworking shop. With router and other detailing tools. With varnishing and painting box in combination of her favorite colors or those she favors in decorating dwelling.

If want to go more extravagent could add one of those devices that goes in to a music box. So that every time she opens box she gets music to cherish the memory all the more. This may seem a bit much to add and is up to what you have to work with.

As well as far as engraving guitars goes it may be better for doing that inside the box. With having the plate centered on inside of box lid as well. So that when open lid can see them and stay with decorative exterior on it. To add to the surprise as she may guess it to be a jewellery box or something similiar. And perhaps she can surprise others of engagement announcement accordingly.

 

[white_mage_goddess]

Well my boyfriend proposed to me just 5 days ago. It was completely unplanned and out of the blue.

We had a HUGE fight and were still needed to work some things out so I drove up to see him (we're doing the long distance relationship thing) .

When I got there we went to my hotel room and talked stuff out and made up and spent most of the evening fucking like crazy. Then around 1 in the morning we ended up making the sweetest slowest love and right in the middle of it, with him on top of me and whispering in my ear, he suddenly said my name very seriously. I didn't answer, being caught up in the moment and all, so he said my name again, and this time I said "Yes?" and looked into his eyes and he just out of nowhere said "Will you marry me?" and of course I said yes and we finished our love making......

It was simple and spontaneous and just perfect. It was a wonderful moment. I wouldn't have had it any other way.

 

[watergirl]

CONGRATS, whitemagegoddess!!!!!!


I'm glad it happened that way for you - how perfectly gorgeous a memory it will be.

 

[DuckLover]

Heartfelt congratulations to Sheath and white_mage_goddess!! I wish you both the absolute best!

LE, asking her father is not dead. My buddy just got married a month ago and he asked her father ahead of time. Her dad was so impressed, he specifically mentioned it in his toast during the reception. Personally, I more favor the idea of asking his blessing than his permission; the days of dad controlling, owning, or otherwise deciding for his daughter are over.

 

[sheath]

It was simple and spontaneous and just perfect. It was a wonderful moment. I wouldn't have had it any other way.

CONGRATULATIONS!

This is turning into a warm and fuzzy thread.

S.

 

[Wolf_Song]

white_mage_goddess,

Sincere hearted congradulations to you and your beau.. with best wished in love and life to yourselves.