How to... Overcome an OVERLY sensitive

[LuvStrange69]

Clitoris? Until this past weekend, I've never been with a "one and done" woman before. We all know that men can be "one hit wonders", but I've never come across a woman that can't continue after an orgasm.
We fooled around three times in two days and it was the same story each time. As soon as she had an orgasm, the fun below the waist ended.
She is not very kinky or even that experienced, so I've got to procede with caution. I don't want to frighten her away, but I'm at a loss.
Does ANYONE have any ideas as to how to overcome the overly sensitive clitoris?

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

Clitoris? Until this past weekend, I've never been with a "one and done" woman before. We all know that men can be "one hit wonders", but I've never come across a woman that can't continue after an orgasm.
We fooled around three times in two days and it was the same story each time. As soon as she had an orgasm, the fun below the waist ended.
She is not very kinky or even that experienced, so I've got to procede with caution. I don't want to frighten her away, but I'm at a loss.
Does ANYONE have any ideas as to how to overcome the overly sensitive clitoris?

Why waste your time with her?

 

[sunandshadow]

Not all women are multi-orgasmic. I have a perfectly satisfying sex life as a monoorgasmic woman and partners usually consider me easy to please. I'm not interested in having my clit or even more so my nipples touched after I come, but the vagina being a bit less sensitive, I usually don't mind hanging in there until my partner finishes. It's convenient and pleasant for both partners to come once together and bask in the afterglow a few minutes until they fall asleep.

 

[LuvStrange69]

Clarification...

Of course I realize not all women are multi-orgasmic. I'm just floored at how easily she has an orgasm, and how sensitive she is afterwards.
As for the waste if time, hardly. I think I (we) can have some fun with this.
I'm just looking for some ideas, DOs and DONTs.

 

[Reba67]

Have you tried asking her? I'm usually good for another round, but not always. Sometimes when he tries something else, I'm NOT in the mood and I tell him so.

 

[TrueFox]

I am basically mono orgasmic, and I do get kind of overly relaxed and pass out after an orgasm, so I try to make sure that my partner is satisfied, or about to be there, when I let go. I get really uncomfortable if I have too much stimulation immediately after orgasming, but I can keep going for a while, especially if my partner is really enjoying it.

Women are really different from each other...you should definitely ask her what you can do that will keep her from going over the edge so you can enjoy more playtime with her. It's likely there are things that she enjoys that don't make her orgasm that you can do while you are having your own enjoyment. And maybe if you spend more time with her, the newness of everything will wear off a little bit and she will get off less easily.

If she is content with orgasming quickly and there being no more activity for either of you, then you have a different issue completely. If no effort is being made to meet your needs, then that isn't fair to you, whether your partner is multi or mono orgasmic.

 

[roomfor1more]

There are a few things you can try. First you can try not rubbing the clit directly, instead rubbing around it. This includes not pulling back the hood that covers it. Second option, would be learning when she is getting close to orgasm and then stopping stimulating her clit. Third would be to vary your stimulation and technique. Instead of focusing on her clit, try fingering or caressing her in order to vary your technique. A fourth may be that she learns how to work through orgasming and continue. Reading your question I am assuming she is young or at least inexperienced. Should this be the case, it maybe that she has not learned this and it may be that it maybe take a while or she may not be able to do this. This means for you that you will need to be patient with her. If all else fails it may mean you need to talk with her and it may be there is an underlying issue that needs to be discussed.

 

[ecclectic]

Novocaine.

Seriously though, if my wife orgasms through oral/manual stimulation she tends to not want to be touched for about 20 minutes afterwards, she likes to just enjoy the glow. She'll keep going if we're having penetrative sex though.

 

[Athalia]

She is not very kinky or even that experienced

That may be part of the problem. Just as most young men have to learn to exercise some control over when they have that orgasm, particularly when the sensation of their penis in a vagina is new to them, some women have to learn to modulate their responses. Play this game: see how long you can tease her and keep her aroused without making her climax. Let her become familiar that wonderful grey zone just before the orgasm. Once both of you become more familiar with her body, she may find that a little bit of delay not only enhances her climax, but sustains the climax a little longer and facilitates the next one.

Or she may not. The point is that whatever she's feeling right now is right for her. If she finds a few more things to do that can also be right for her, great! If not, that's OK, too. She may be one of those many women who become rapidly overstimulated, and need time to recharge just as men do. The real question is whether you both are willing to accept your partner for who he or she is, and work around each other's unique attributes.

 

[bailadora]

The real question is whether you both are willing to accept your partner for who he or she is, and work around each other's unique attributes.

This. 'Nuff said.

 

[Aurantica]

Clitoris? Until this past weekend, I've never been with a "one and done" woman before. We all know that men can be "one hit wonders", but I've never come across a woman that can't continue after an orgasm.
We fooled around three times in two days and it was the same story each time. As soon as she had an orgasm, the fun below the waist ended.
She is not very kinky or even that experienced, so I've got to procede with caution. I don't want to frighten her away, but I'm at a loss.
Does ANYONE have any ideas as to how to overcome the overly sensitive clitoris?

Use a light touch and stop when she's about to come.

 

[silverwhisper]

luvstrange 69 quoth:
we fooled around three times in two days and it was the same story each time.

3 times/2 days? that's a pretty good rate.

luvstrange 69 quoth:
she is not very kinky or even that experienced, so i've got to procede with caution.

well, i liked reba's suggestion re: simply asking her. if the issue is an overly sensitive clit, then vaginal stimulation shouldn't be an issue. considering something like 85-90% of women can't orgasm via vaginal stimulation, that would seem like a pretty simple solution.

having said that: without knowing what "kinky" means to you or her, i'm gonna go with the most boring possible assumption. maybe just sensual caresses on her hips, legs, etc as you work on something else, like her breasts. maybe she offers you a little oral appreciation, which also might help her recover?

ed

 

[LuvStrange69]

Appreciate it greatly...

For those concerned, Rest assured we have spoken on the matter. And we aren't in any crisis over the current state of things. I am interested in pursuing Aurantica's advice, maybe even taking it one step beyond and playing with orgasm denial.
Your thoughts and experience continues to be appreciated.