How to make friends here?

[shyindcpl_us]

Have been here, multiple times and failed to build any connection. Have mostly ended by restarting fresh everytime. Any advice on how to find genuine people interested in building friendship.

 

[StillStunned]

Read my stories. Write your own. Comment on the craft. Discuss genres, literary devices, sounds, rhythm and wordplay. Groan at my puns and make awful jokes of your own. Be a writer and deal with me as a writer.

If you can do that, head over to the Authors' Hangout and you'll make a dozen friends.

 

[filthytrancendence]

Groan at my puns

I've always landed somewhere on the smile-laugh spectrum with your puns. Does that mean we can't be friends?

 

[Badxxxwifey]

Have been here, multiple times and failed to build any connection. Have mostly ended by restarting fresh everytime. Any advice on how to find genuine people interested in building friendship.

Hiii

 

[MaturemanAJ]

Have been here, multiple times and failed to build any connection. Have mostly ended by restarting fresh everytime. Any advice on how to find genuine people interested in building friendship.

There are no true online friends. People hang until they get bored and never stop looking.
Meet here and go elsewhere as fast as you are comfortable

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I think it's hit or miss...
I've had a couple friendships that were more than one-offs...
My favorite one has been with for almost a year now!! (Wow!)
I suggest patience, and thoughtful communication..
And you'll connect with the right person

 

[shyindcpl_us]

thanks for the guidance

 

[WCSGarland]

I think it's hit or miss...
I've had a couple friendships that were more than one-offs...
My favorite one has been with for almost a year now!! (Wow!)
I suggest patience, and thoughtful communication..
And you'll connect with the right person

I agree with Ssbbw4u1974. It's hit or miss. You can never tell when you're being organically or programmatically ignored either.

 

[StillStunned]

I've always landed somewhere on the smile-laugh spectrum with your puns. Does that mean we can't be friends?

I'll try harder to make the puns worse.

 

[Oliverleo]

There are no true online friends. People hang until they get bored and never stop looking.
Meet here and go elsewhere as fast as you are comfortable

My Friend, you are wrong here! Not every person is the same. I'm so glad to join this forum, and the friends I make here! They are all true and lovely.

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

Does the saying 'needle in a haystack' sound familiar? How many times have you been to a party, lounge, bar, special event and left without making some sort of connection. This place and any other online forum is exactly like that.

Sure, sometimes a fresh start is needed. Sometimes a new angle is required. Either way, cast your line, have a drink, and don't be afraid to reach out to someone new.

 

[ShaneoD]

Does the saying 'needle in a haystack' sound familiar? How many times have you been to a party, lounge, bar, special event and left without making some sort of connection. This place and any other online forum is exactly like that.

Sure, sometimes a fresh start is needed. Sometimes a new angle is required. Either way, cast your line, have a drink, and don't be afraid to reach out to someone new.

That's very true, I was here for two(ish) years before I discovered voice chat which then let some more of my personality come through too.

And it is a lot like real life too, of you want to chat to someone find out what interests you have in common and go from there, friendships have to be at least a little bit natural in any walk of life

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

That's very true, I was here for two(ish) years before I discovered voice chat which then let some more of my personality come through too.

And it is a lot like real life too, of you want to chat to someone find out what interests you have in common and go from there, friendships have to be at least a little bit natural in any walk of life

Well said!

 

[flameinsidesoul]

Friends aren’t made, they happen. Online or offline. Sometimes they slip in through a random comment, a silly roleplay, or a shared laugh over something completely stupid. Other times, you can talk for weeks and still feel… meh. It’s not about hunting for friends, it’s about showing up and being open when connection taps your shoulder.

But here’s the trick no one tells you: it’s not instant. It’s not always mutual. So don’t open your heart like it’s a drive-thru. Think of this place like a theme park. Everyone’s here for a ride, but not all are staying for the fireworks. So before you emotionally buckle up with someone, take a walk with them first. See which rides they like. Do they hold your bag when you go on the rollercoaster or do they disappear in the snack line?

Connection grows when you respond with thought. When you comment with curiosity. When you share instead of just scroll. Psychologically, reciprocity builds bonds and yes, even our beloved Stockholm Syndrome makes a surprise guest appearance when people keep showing up in each other’s storylines.

So don’t force it. Don’t beg for it. Just play your part. When someone vibes with your weird, your words, or your wounds, you’ll know. That’s how friendship happens.

 

[AG31]

There are no true online friends.

Basically I agree with this, and I sometimes worry that the coming generations will lose touch with what face to face connections are like.

and the friends I make here! They are all true and lovely.

But I do think one can establish online relationships that are stimulating and long lasting. Lots of good advice up thread about how to increase one's chances.

But here’s the trick no one tells you: it’s not instant. It’s not always mutual. So don’t open your heart like it’s a drive-thru.

Again. I wish we had a way to teach people the difference between surface and more in depth connections. I fear that we're losing our sensitivities.

 

[VamPal1]

Fwiw, I've never seen Lit as a platform for developing friendships, although I know there are those who do. Online, esp adult forums, is a constant on-off jumping off place. You can connect with someone, then they disappear. It's hard to develop friendships when people continually disappear.

 

[Jasmine12345]

I get the impression that many people online hold the same mindset in trying to interact with others as we do off-line face to face.

When we are off-line face to face, our physical appearance, facial expressions, the body language and the tone of voice determine how we feel about each other mostly. We don't have any of that online. We need words and / or images to communicate online. We need to be more proactive and articulate to be understood online. A simple “Hello, how are you” approach to somebody new maybe enough to start out when we are face to face, but not here online.

 

[Boat1]

Have been here, multiple times and failed to build any connection. Have mostly ended by restarting fresh everytime. Any advice on how to find genuine people interested in building friendship.

Staying away from the Politics Board would be a good start! (IMHO)