How to last...

[drovkin]

Yes, yes, I know this thread has been done 100s of times, but looking through these 5 pages, I didn't see it, and I have more of an in depth question about it. I know the main ways to last longer are cock rings, condoms, maybe "cleaning the pipes" beforehand, and doing exercises for the pc muscle.

Now my question revolves around the last option. I know it's the muscle that helps you stop peeing when you're going, that's the way to tell which muscle it is. So i've worked on that muscle some, during class and such (21 in college). Here's my question:

I am very easily turned on, and therefore easily get very hard, and enjoy any attention I get. Usually by any type of stimulation, i could probably easily finish within a few minutes. This is of course not at all how I want it to be (obviously).

However, when I start to get close, I tighten this muscle up, and then almost have an orgasm, without actually ejaculating. Now I don't know if that's the point, because right after that, I go completely down and get soft (because basically it's like having an orgasm I suppose). Now the way I've been reading this PC muscle things is that if you can hold the orgasm, you should be able to stay hard the entire time and continue going afterwards, just keep "holding" the orgasm in until you're actually ready to let it go.

Has anyone else had this problem? Am i doing something wrong? Is the muscle not as strong as I think it is? Thanks for any info/help!

 

[drovkin]

dang, no one?

 

[CelticFrog]

I think most people are just searching their brains for a reply.

Honestly, I can't help you here. I've never had that experience... then again, I'm a girl.

Ang

 

[nekos]

it's mostly in your head... slow things down a little try and think of something else for a few minutes. it just takes practice.

 

[ReadyOne]

Try web searching on "tantra" and look for lessons for guys.

 

[Misthunter1]

I know what you mean when you say you almost have an orgasm but then you go soft, it's happened to me plenty of times. I figure it's just a natural body function. After you have an orgasm or what your brain registers as an orgasm it tells you to go soft so you don't keep trying to do things and eventually chafe.

 

[potatohead]

However, when I start to get close, I tighten this muscle up, and then almost have an orgasm, without actually ejaculating. Now I don't know if that's the point, because right after that, I go completely down and get soft (because basically it's like having an orgasm I suppose). Now the way I've been reading this PC muscle things is that if you can hold the orgasm, you should be able to stay hard the entire time and continue going afterwards, just keep "holding" the orgasm in until you're actually ready to let it go.

Has anyone else had this problem?

I don't know if it's a "problem" as much as it is just a thing. Men can have an orgasm without ejaculating.

Strange but true.

The best way to last longer? Slow down! It's not a race LOL Also, I've found that my staying power varies a lot with position. If the women is on top I can usually last for a long long time and it's beacause my body is more relaxed. If we're standing and I'm tensing my leg muscles then I can only last for a few minutes. The best thing is to vary the postions a bit. YMMV.

 

[Crazy~Boarder]

Relax, dont tense up

If there's one thing I've found when it comes to remaining hard, is that you're going to not get any relief for some time.

I have come to realize that the only time that it is really very "profitable" to stay hard and not orgasm is when you're having intercourse and wish to pleasure your partner. The key to staying hard, is to relax, especially your buttox! When you're penetrating, you will often tend to squeeze your but tight, and also tighten a muscle in the area that you would if you were taking a dump(also my idea for thinking why the "taking a crap face" and "having an orgasm face" look so similar).

The key is to stay hard right? So don't try to increase your pleasure by tightening those muscles, relax and penetrate with your legs upper body, if you do a lot of hip action, you tend to start tightening those muscles that help lead to an orgasm. Somtimes when you relax like that, even when you're fucking someone, you can tend to get soft(luckily I don't have this problem). My friend takes Viagra for this problem.

I hope all that wasn't too incoherent or redundant(sp), but I'm a little tired at the moment. Hope this helps.

 

[drovkin]

sure everyone says a big thing is to slow down, but come on, you know when you get up in the moment, the girl wants you to go extremely hard and fast...and i'm not one to not try and please the girl

sometimes i have absolutely no problem, and have actually worn out the girl before, other times i have one of these "mini" orgasms, where i feel it but don't do anything, and 5 minutes later i'm absolutely good for at least half an hour...it's just so weird to have times that it's perfectly fine and others that are so frustrating

 

[nekos]

sure everyone says a big thing is to slow down, but come on, you know when you get up in the moment, the girl wants you to go extremely hard and fast...and i'm not one to not try and please the girl

hehe 2 things... if the girl wants more then umm sometimes she has to let the guy slow down a little

2nd. slowing down is in a way training yourself not to have an orgasam, in time you wont have to slow down as much or even at all once you learn to controll it.

 

[mymuffin]

Its not all bad, I get so hot when I can make a man cum right away, its nice to know how bad he wanted me. As long as he takes the time to finish me.....

 

[oneway49]

i have the same problem too! What i started doing so far was start off with those condoms that sorta numb you then after about 10 min i switch off to a regular condom. It helps out a lot. i can't really think of anything else, but if anyone has other tips other than the pc muscle thing post up. that pc muscle is hard to get down, can't figure it out.

 

[deeply_decadent]

Just a thought here, I may be well off as you may have thought of this or be employing it allready. Any way, Generally speaking if I cum quickly its a sure fired sign I'm going to be up for a good few rounds to come.
"oh gods any one got a pun herder handy".

If this is the case then it's more a case of not letting the enitre "moment" die. yeah sure your panting heart racing cant even see through eye's. So slide down catch your breath"pant between her thighs" lick and nibble a bit what ever it is but spend your orgasim before after and during on your partner. If you are easly stimulated you should be up and raring to go in 5 minutes again and some what slower this time round.

As muffin said most people arent going to mind as long as take the time to see to them too. Spending that time you are bound to good to go again. So you have also prolonged the entire expierence, Spend the time and she will be thinking about that guy that spent 2hours or what ever in bed. Not that guy who came in 2 minutes.

Any way, just my opinion/expierence

D

 

[deeply_decadent]

My browser is special :-s

Apologies I see i manage to repeat a lot of stuff there and add basically nothing new. Seems my browser managed to clip some post of the page or hadnt done loading when i hit reply.

What ever I read em now, Just felt silly enough to need to state this