how to improve confidence?

[rosebud5446]

I have low confidence in myself in general that I would like to fix, but it really shows when I'm having sex. I get really self conscious about my facial expressions when I have sex. I think I am more self concious than in the past, and it really affects my sex life. I also get self conscious about my sexuality in general, i.e. dressing up sexily, being on top, and doing other sexy things. I do these things, but I don't feel confident when I do it and I'm sure that it shows. I know my boyfriend would like it if I was more confident and willing to be less submissive in the bedroom. He tells me that I'm sexy and stuff all the time, but for some reason, it just doesn't get through to me. How do I gain more confidence?

 

[oOScarletWingsOo]

Try role playing. It might help you a bit to pretend to be someone else, a character.

As far as facial expressions...hmmm...do it with the lights out? or have sex in positions where he can't see your face? Blindfold him?...he might think that's a little fun and kinky too.

If your confidence is tied into your body image in anyway, take steps to change it.

 

[AlwaysReady21]

I agree. The simplest way, and where you may want to start, is simply by turning off the lights. Though it's not as sexy as being confident with the lights on, you'll work up to it. Once you see how much your partner loves it when you take control, you'll want to do anything to please him/her and you will feed off of it.

At least that's how I did it. =)

 

[EjAcKuLaToR]

How about just relaxing. Don't think of it as being the star of the show. Just be yourself. Someone who loves you wants to make love to you. If you have the most fucked up face in the world when you're cumming, I doubt very seriously he going to think anything of it other than "I just made you cum"!!!

Relax with the body image thing too. Women don't understand at all. The men who make love to you know they aren't perfect either. They have fucked up "cum" faces. It's not at all important. What's important is that you keep the focus where it should be. Making love is for 2 people to ENJOY. Have fun. That's why God gave you the ability to have pleasure when you have sex. He gave you a gift to have FUN with.

Have fun, relax. Let all the other shit go. It's unimportant. Trust me! You look the best you're going to look. If you're 20, then by 40 you won't look as hot. By 60, the same goes. By 80, if you can do it, good for you...do you think you'll give a shit whether or not you have saggy parts? Na. Not even a little bit...you'll just think back. Damn, I wish I looked like I did when I was "younger".

Enjoy what you have NOW! Have fun! Relax. I'd love to see your fucked up cum face. I bet it'd turn me on.