how to get my man to be vocal???

[honeylove]

Hi all. I wanted any suggestions on how to get my guy to be more vocal in the sack. He is a real sweetie and the sex is great......he is up for new things, always wants to please me etc etc. But he is so quiet! I have got him to say (with the appropriate excitement...lol) when he is about to blow....cos this is a turn on for me. But apart from that, I could sometimes think he was bored/asleep/upset/in-another-world....and so on. Now some say we gals yabber enough as it is.....so I don't want to be the only one moaning & groaning & spicing up the scene with some hot talk. Any ideas?

 

[CreamyLady]

You could ask him WHY he is quiet; he may actually prefer it, or be unable to articulate while aroused.

He may have some issues with making noise, and not want to advertise his activities.

Maybe he can't get a moan in edgewise.

Your best bet is probably to just ask him.

 

[Guest]

There really is no technique or "new thing" you can do to make your hunny vocal in bed. Some men simply aren't vocal until they cum, and some aren't vocal at all. That's like this guy I've been seeing off and on... Since we use condoms, I have to guess when he cums. He doesn't make a sound.

~Dr Tiggs~
http://smilecwm.tripod.com/sd3/lise.gif

 

[Cheri]

I ask him to tell me what he's feeling. Let's say during sex, I moan and tell him it feels so good, if he says nothing back, I ask him what he's thinking or feeling. I also tell him outside of bed how erotic I find it when he's vocal giving him examples of things to say. I think most men are to busy concentrating (on your orgasm or making you feel good) to say much.

 

[Mr_Neb]

I don't think it is a situation with just the male gender. Some folks are just more talkative than others. I'm the talkative one and my wife is the silent one in bed.

Personally, I really don't need or want her to shout "FUCK ME BABY....etc." but I like hearing that what I/we are doing is enjoyable. I love the cooing when a sensitive spot has been touched. I love hearing the interrupted speech caused be erratic breathing when she is on the brink or orgasm.

Opps. Gotta go now...again

Mr. Neb

 

[OUTSIDER]

Look him deep in the eye's during sex and demand he talk dirty, and from time to time blow in his ear and in your best little girl voice remind him how hot this make's you.

sorry got to go now I made myself hot.

 

[Nicole]

OUTSIDER that was a perfect answer babe.

Look, the little girl voice will always work, just let him know that you really need for him to let go during sex, tell him that it makes you hotter for him.

Good Luck

 

[OUTSIDER]

Aaaaahhhhhh the little girl voice.

I'm such a sucker that when a woman use's that voice on me I just melt and she can get me to do anything even the washing up and I "hate" that.

Trust me Honeylove the little girl voice work's every time.

 

[Guest]

different strokes for different folk. some are vocal and some are not. there are a lot of reasons for both, and you just accept them as they are.

But in my experience, since I am so vocal, sometimes they like that so much, they learn to let go and vocalize. But i don't push 'em, only accept, and encourage if I sense they are trying to burst loose.

- Moon

 

[Prussian Overlord]

i am one of those aren't very vocal and i don't know why. it's not that i don't want to talk i guess it's just something like force of habit.

Oh and yes, that voice will get you the moon and everything underneath it.

 

[Guest]

Yer, everyone got a personal "style". I'm a man of few word, even in bed. Like somone said, guys are often to busy tryin to please (or getting pleased for that matter) to talk much. At least that what I am like.

The "little girl voice" will prolly work, it sure does on me.

And tiggs, is that little picture Lize from Secret of mana? If so I will worship you as the sex goddes you are

 

[Wizard]

Smack him with something????????????????????(Hey just asking)

 

[forgetunome]

No moans...

I wouldn't let the fact that your guy doesn't make alot of sounds in bed bother you...trust me he enjoys it! My husband is not a vocal person in bed and it used to bother me I thought maybe there was something that I was doing wrong. We talked about it and I use to say well...why don't you start being vocal so I know you are enjoying it! He said, simple that's not me! So, after 13 years I know he enjoys it by every once in awhile asking him and he tells me uh huh!

****and yes I know I use way too many exclamation points!!!!!!!!!!!! If you knew me in person you'd know I can't talk without using my hands so in writing the exclamation points are my hands...I know not a good excuse!

 

[R Nitelight]

At the moment of ecstacy, you jab him with a pointy stick....

 

[forgetunome]

R Nitelight...

lmao! *G*

I'll have to give that a try...

 

[goddess_euphoria]

I've had the same problem in the past! It's like come on baby, I need to know if I'm doing this right! What worked for me is just telling him how much hearing him moan turned me on, and when he moaned, I responded very enthusiastically! It's just like conditioning with positive reinforcement!