How to get laid.

[Eros_1337]

Okay, serious question. How do I go about doing this? All my friends have no problems meeting women, and I, well, do have trouble

Do you just talk to any woman at the bar without a dude hanging on her? At more or less complete random? Also, how easy is it to find women who just wanna screw, or have a one night stand?

 

[CoolCucumber]

Well, I know this may seem counter intuitive, but it certainly helps if you don't appear to be trying to get laid. Also, going out alone is never a good idea. Whenever I went out alone, and I'm assuming you're around college age, women seemed to be wary of me. Now, when you're out with a group, they seem more open to thinking you aren't some guy who's just out trying to get laid. Also, and this was always huge for me, don't be afraid to approach a girl who's out with a group of friends! Seriously, if you can be seen as funny, or laid back, or just plain old nice by more than one girl in a group, you have a much better chance because you have the "seal of approval" from her friends. I mean, it takes confidence to approach a group, and that does count for something! Anyway, good luck, and seriously...don't try too hard...it will only hinder your chances.

 

[SweetErika]

CC gave you some really good advice.

What are you doing now? That is, what is NOT working for you?

How's your personal appearance? Do you have good hygiene, dress nicely and generally present yourself in a way that's likely to be appealing to potential partners? Do you take pride in your appearance?

What kind of impressions do you give verbally and nonverbally? Is it possible you're giving cues that make you seem aloof, wrapped up in yourself, unfriendly, not confident, desperate, creepy, etc.?

Also, are you making an effort to meet lots of people in a variety of places/situations? Do you mainly focus on those you'd like to fuck, or do you try to get to know people regardless of physical attraction? Do you make a concerted effort to practice your social skills everywhere you go?

Are one night stands/casual encounters a good fit for you? They aren't for some people. I've known guys who are better suited to friends-with-benefits or full relationships (actually, my husband is one of them); when they try to cook up casual encounters because they're really horny and/or want to keep up with their buddies, their efforts come across as forced and awkward, turning potential partners off. They'd be better off looking for what works best for them in the first place, even if that takes a little more effort initially.

Do bars/clubs show off your best attributes, or are there other places that make you feel more confident and highlight your positives better? People are usually most appealing in their natural habitats. The nerdy nice guy might look uncomfortable at a pick-up bar, but could look great in a pub where lots of people are reading and conversing, or in the library, at a convention, etc. Anyway, engage in your passions in a variety of places that complement your positive attributes and give you a chance at meeting others.

Yeah, I know these things may seem like no-brainers, but believe it or not, a lot of men overlook them and then wonder why they're not having much success in the social scene.

 

[PhunkyPhuck]

Have you considered paying a prostitute?

Do you get laid by your right/left hand at least?

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Okay, serious question. How do I go about doing this? All my friends have no problems meeting women, and I, well, do have trouble

Could it be that what you actually want is a relationship? There's nothing wrong with that you know. The upside of actually giving a shit about compatibility and friendship is that you won't be forced to find a different random chick to play STD roulette with every weekend until your town's out of fresh pussy.

Do you just talk to any woman at the bar without a dude hanging on her? At more or less complete random? Also, how easy is it to find women who just wanna screw, or have a one night stand?

Wax-on, wax-off Daniel-san. You simply can't become a smooth operator without practise. This means you need to stop caring whether you get shot down or some 7ft wrestler punts you out the door for hitting on his bitch. The more seriously you take chatting to random girls in bars, the worse you'll be at it. You have to act like it's not a big deal because few things are less attractive to a woman than an air of desperation or that any woman on planet Earth between 18 and 60 will do. Women like to feel special, to be complimented and taken an interest in, even if you only want a one night stand.

The problem you have is that at your age (I'm guessing 18-21ish) most guys are only interested in getting laid. This makes your female peers defensive and suspicious because no girl wants to be the one who gets tumbled into bed and then never called again. It's just not the same for girls who engage in one night stands or play the field, even in 2009 there's a double standard and stigma attached. If you want to get laid and sample as many different women as possible until you're 30 or go down with raging swine flu, you have to recognise the fact that socially speaking, being promiscuous is more of a risk for them than for you, so they're less likely to do it.

What I'm trying to say here is that chatting up drunk girls in bars is what everybody your age is doing. Because of that, it won't get you what you want and if it gets you what you think you want it won't be half as good. Do you really want your first experiences of sex to be half-remembered, drunken fumbles? Boozy one night stands are when things like birth control are most likely to go out the window. Do you want to support a kid for 18 years because you were too pissed to bag it up?

Look at what you do socially, during the day, when you're sober. I bet there are plenty of opportunities to chat to girls if you just pluck up the courage. If you can find one you really like and can have a relationship with, you'll have the respect and trust needed to be more adventurous with sex when it does happen.

If you're still determined to hit on drunk girls and hope for the best, my advice is to get a part-time job in a bar. Girls always flirt with the barman and banter is expected in return.

 

[fgarvb1]

Okay, serious question. How do I go about doing this? All my friends have no problems meeting women, and I, well, do have trouble

Do you just talk to any woman at the bar without a dude hanging on her? At more or less complete random? Also, how easy is it to find women who just wanna screw, or have a one night stand?

Do you WANT to pick up a woman at a bar? For a one night stand?

(insert shudder here)

Sorry, but I have always been particular about who I have sex or start a relationship with.

I will tell you this, while I never tried to ran up a score, I have enjoyed sex with lot more than a woman is comfortable with hearing about in their spouse.

And I wouldn't even attempt to guess how many bars & night clubs I've been into or how many times.

I haven't ever picked up a woman in one that I did not know before hand.
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Now having said that I'm wondering why you would let the rest of the places in the world go by with out getting dates or scoping out the opportunities for a
get together?

You are going to get turned down a lot..learn to deal with it.. The reasons are many and vary...hell some of the are even truthful!

If you want to look like Mr. stud in front of the bud's, lay the ground work before hand...approching a woman in a club you already know and knowing you have a better than average chance of scoring is not cheating. You will eventually learn a line of BS that will work as well as the facade to pull it off... but don't expect this to fulfill you or sustain you iin needful times of your life.

 

[Eros_1337]

CC gave you some really good advice.

What are you doing now? That is, what is NOT working for you?

How's your personal appearance? Do you have good hygiene, dress nicely and generally present yourself in a way that's likely to be appealing to potential partners? Do you take pride in your appearance?

What kind of impressions do you give verbally and nonverbally? Is it possible you're giving cues that make you seem aloof, wrapped up in yourself, unfriendly, not confident, desperate, creepy, etc.? [/quote[

For the most part, I'm very shy. Yes, I realize rejection is part of the game, I've accepted that, it's just, I don't know. It goes beyond logic, every time I want to chat up a hot girl, something inside me is holding me back. It's weird, fundamentally I know it's not a big deal, and nobody will care if I fuck up, but psychologically, it feels like everybody is watching, waiting for me to screw it up. And even when I do finally get the balls to do anything, I can't think of much to say.

I have good hygeine, I mean, I shower and brush my teeth etc. I'm a nerd, and more or less look the part with my glasses. Clothes? Eh, mostly I wear jeans or cargo pants with a T-shirt, occasionally a collared shirt. Can't quite figure out what to do with my hair that doesn't make me look like I'm trying too hard.

Also, are you making an effort to meet lots of people in a variety of places/situations? Do you mainly focus on those you'd like to fuck, or do you try to get to know people regardless of physical attraction? Do you make a concerted effort to practice your social skills everywhere you go?

So, I really am supposed to just talk to people more or less at random?

Do bars/clubs show off your best attributes, or are there other places that make you feel more confident and highlight your positives better? People are usually most appealing in their natural habitats. The nerdy nice guy might look uncomfortable at a pick-up bar, but could look great in a pub where lots of people are reading and conversing, or in the library, at a convention, etc. Anyway, engage in your passions in a variety of places that complement your positive attributes and give you a chance at meeting others.

There's a difference between bars and pubs? I usually don't approach people in the library, not many there to begin with, and I figure they'd want to be left alone to look at books.

Have you considered paying a prostitute?

Do you get laid by your right/left hand at least?

Yes, I jack off. No, I don't want to do anything illegal to satisfy my libido.

Boozy one night stands are when things like birth control are most likely to go out the window. Do you want to support a kid for 18 years because you were too pissed to bag it up?

I stay sober when chatting with them. But, is there much of a chance to find a sober girl interested in casual sex?

And yes, a relationship would be nice, but those take a while.

 

[fgarvb1]

"And yes, a relationship would be nice, but those take a while."
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So you have something BETTER working for you?

If you have everything else under reasonable control, just go out there and relax and have a good time, don't worry about getting laid.

In the long run you will get more pussy that way.

Trust me on this one. When a woman flirts with you, don't take it seriously unless they (and I will tell them that they have to) make themselves plain as to what they want.

Mention to them that you are are so use to being flirted with that you discount most flirting by about 50% automatically.

I don't know about you but I have ran into many, many rascals who flirt as a natural way of talking to a man out in the pub or bar scene.

Acting like a puppy dog after a Begging Strip turns most of them off.

Stay with it.

Good luck and happy hunting..

 

[Tyr51]

Advice above is all exceptional. I'd like to add something else to it.

Women are not a commodity. With someone... alone... this doesn't do a gosh darned tootin' thing for us. We don't operate so simply. It's not random. It has nothing to do with whether or not a "Dude" is around.

For simplicity's sake, if you see a woman and she is with a man, and they are laughing and talking and leaning in towards eachother? You're wasting your time. She is either there with him or interested in knowing him better. They're well on their way and you're not invited to that party.

Aside from that, your questions confuse me a bit. You ask how to best meet women. After that you ask how easy it is to find a woman who will have sex with you, no strings attached, and no need to call the next day.

Wow.

I think most would consider me very socially liberal. There ARE women who want one night stands, and they are perfectly good women. They want what they want. If ya'll match... good on you.

However, I think that you are unlikely to find this in a mainstream dance-club climate. Most of the girls you meet there, like it or not, would like to at least maintain the illusion that you'll be her friend the next day.

If you want sex without attachment, I agree with previous asessments.... call a professional and pay a reasonable fee. That is what you're asking for. You might be lucky, who knows? But to expect something without even friendship pushes it.

If you want to meet women? Stay away from the clubs. That's a dismal scene for undergrads and others who want to get in contact with folk they never really have to talk with.

But maybe I am taking "meet" too literally. "Meet" implies the desire to get to know the other person. You cannot do that if you are in a place full of loud music that dulls conversation. "Meet" means conversation, investment and time.

Follow your interests.
It's much nicer having a partner love you because of who you are and what you do, rather than in spite of.

 

[infinity706]

I stay sober when chatting with them. But, is there much of a chance to find a sober girl interested in casual sex?

And yes, a relationship would be nice, but those take a while.

Well, technically speaking, a drunk girl can't be interested in casual sex. That would go under rape whether she prosecutes or not.

I do know a few women that love casual sex, but they tend to go for men (and women) from out of town for such hookups.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

You can always go the online route. There are loads of websites for casual hookups. I have no clue which ones are more reputable/genuine or whatever but if you're a self certified geek then online chat might be a better playing field for you than a crowded club.

 

[Eros_1337]

Advice above is all exceptional. I'd like to add something else to it.

Women are not a commodity. With someone... alone... this doesn't do a gosh darned tootin' thing for us. We don't operate so simply. It's not random. It has nothing to do with whether or not a "Dude" is around.

For simplicity's sake, if you see a woman and she is with a man, and they are laughing and talking and leaning in towards eachother? You're wasting your time. She is either there with him or interested in knowing him better. They're well on their way and you're not invited to that party.

Well, duh.

Aside from that, your questions confuse me a bit. You ask how to best meet women. After that you ask how easy it is to find a woman who will have sex with you, no strings attached, and no need to call the next day.

Wow.

I know next to nothing about women. It's been years since I've had anything resembling a relationship. I would like a long term relationship, that'd be really nice. It's just, in my loneliness, my standards have dropped.

So far, nobody answered my simple question. Am I really just to talk to any single girl? I know it won't always work, but is that really how the game is played? Yes, I am this inexperienced. Like I said, YEARS.

If you want sex without attachment, I agree with previous asessments.... call a professional and pay a reasonable fee. That is what you're asking for. You might be lucky, who knows? But to expect something without even friendship pushes it.

That sounds like a very bad idea. Like I said, I won't do it illegally, and I don't have thousands of dollars to put into a trip to Nevada, let alone Europe.

If you want to meet women? Stay away from the clubs. That's a dismal scene for undergrads and others who want to get in contact with folk they never really have to talk with.

So, if clubs aren't a good idea, where do I go?

And yeah, online does seem to be the way to go, and if nothing else in the real world works, I'll give eharmony a try. Thing is, it's $200+ for a digital camera. I'd rather try and do things the affordable way first, if possible.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Pfft.

You can get a cheap webcam from £10 in the UK so it can't be that expensive across the pond. You can take a still pic with a webcam. It won't win any awards but it'll save you about $180.

 

[shiny5437]

So far, nobody answered my simple question. Am I really just to talk to any single girl? I know it won't always work, but is that really how the game is played? Yes, I am this inexperienced. Like I said, YEARS.

At some point in every relationship people have to start talking to each other so yes you do have to talk to new people. It won't always work, but then again how on earth could it work every time.

Your 'successful' friends probably speak to many women who don't turn in conquests but they only brag about the ones that do.

There are no secret magic words, no special technique, no psychological manipulation that automatically makes women jump into bed with you.

So... we give you permission to go and get blown out a lot by lots of women. When you get knocked back, get back up again, and go talk to some more.

Plus, even if you want casual hook-ups from a website, you'll still need to speak to them when you meet. Website's are good for introductions but you still need to do the leg-work.

Goodluck!

 

[Tyr51]

Good lord.... why pay so much for a camera?
No one will care.

If you chose to use the digital dating scene, those things are meerly an introduction. "I am this size, this hair color, and I bathe."

I cannot advise where you should go. You've given us little information about yourself.

From what I can grab from your posts, it sounds like perhaps the club scene is too young for you (hey, I'm 31. It's way too young for me).

I'd give the same advice I see my lady friends taking: stop caring about picking up other people. Go do things you love. If you're lucky, you'll find someone who loves it too.

I tried that, and I got very lucky.
I wish you the same luck.

 

[SumLightCat]

You go and do things you like, then you meet a girl that tickles your fancy there, then you chat her up.

Then, if things light up, you start a relationship.

(Then you get divorce lawyers and she tears your heart into little pieces.)

 

[SweetErika]

I know next to nothing about women. It's been years since I've had anything resembling a relationship. I would like a long term relationship, that'd be really nice. It's just, in my loneliness, my standards have dropped.

Most women are going to feel that desperation and lowering of standards and be repelled by it. A few (usually unstable) women might take pity on you and/or see you as a fixer-upper, but you probably don't want to lower your standards enough to get involved with them.

If you want a relationship, start dating. There's no law against having sex with women you're dating and getting to know better. When fooling around or having sex feels right to both of you, go for it.

So far, nobody answered my simple question. Am I really just to talk to any single girl? I know it won't always work, but is that really how the game is played?

Often, yes. And since you're so inexperienced/rusty, it sounds like that'd be your best bet. If nothing else, at least you'll polish up your social skills and perhaps have a better shot at sex and/or relationships when the right women come along.

So, if clubs aren't a good idea, where do I go?

Take a week to get out and observe. Where do you see women you might be interested in talking to/getting to know better? What activities are you interested that will also allow you to socialize with others (women and men - don't just focus on meeting women)? Go to those places and do those things. When you make a connection with someone, suggest getting together again for the activity/coffee/a drink/whatever.

And yeah, online does seem to be the way to go, and if nothing else in the real world works, I'll give eharmony a try. Thing is, it's $200+ for a digital camera. I'd rather try and do things the affordable way first, if possible.

Where are you, Antarctica?

Because in the U.S., Canada, etc., you can get a fine digital camera for WELL under $100. I think small, 10MP cameras with plenty of features are right around $100 now.

I wouldn't suggest a webcam for online profiles, but if $30 or so is really all you have to spend, you can go that route.

Is there a reason you think eHarmony is your best bet for meeting women? I guess it depends on what you're looking for and your particular demographic (like eharmony is generally aimed toward vanilla/traditional Christians who are looking for marriage), but you might want to start with something like OKCupid (100% free) and work up to Match.com, or use both of them together before taking the eHarmony plunge. I actually know several guys in their 20s and 30s who have gotten a lot of dates and girlfriends out of Match. They're players, but apparently there are quite a few somewhat desperate women on that site.

 

[infinity706]

At some point in every relationship people have to start talking to each other so yes you do have to talk to new people. It won't always work, but then again how on earth could it work every time.

Your 'successful' friends probably speak to many women who don't turn in conquests but they only brag about the ones that do.

There are no secret magic words, no special technique, no psychological manipulation that automatically makes women jump into bed with you.

So... we give you permission to go and get blown out a lot by lots of women. When you get knocked back, get back up again, and go talk to some more.

Plus, even if you want casual hook-ups from a website, you'll still need to speak to them when you meet. Website's are good for introductions but you still need to do the leg-work.

Goodluck!

Honestly, the casual hookups thing isn't necessarily true. I've had more than I could count on one hand that literally never said one word to me. It was arranged in advance online and we met up when and where specified. Maybe I'm too easy, but I can say for sure, that it happens. I've also had many more that I never had a serious conversation with other than to set up the hookup. If that's how you want to get fucked, it's certainly possible to find.

 

[Corianne]

For the most part, I'm very shy. Yes, I realize rejection is part of the game, I've accepted that, it's just, I don't know. It goes beyond logic, every time I want to chat up a hot girl, something inside me is holding me back. It's weird, fundamentally I know it's not a big deal, and nobody will care if I fuck up, but psychologically, it feels like everybody is watching, waiting for me to screw it up. And even when I do finally get the balls to do anything, I can't think of much to say.

I have good hygeine, I mean, I shower and brush my teeth etc. I'm a nerd, and more or less look the part with my glasses. Clothes? Eh, mostly I wear jeans or cargo pants with a T-shirt, occasionally a collared shirt. Can't quite figure out what to do with my hair that doesn't make me look like I'm trying too hard.

So, I really am supposed to just talk to people more or less at random?

There's a difference between bars and pubs? I usually don't approach people in the library, not many there to begin with, and I figure they'd want to be left alone to look at books.


Yes, I jack off. No, I don't want to do anything illegal to satisfy my libido.

I stay sober when chatting with them. But, is there much of a chance to find a sober girl interested in casual sex?

And yes, a relationship would be nice, but those take a while.

You're being very honest at least As someone already mentioned, most women are not interested in casual sex, or one night hook-ups. The reasons are many, but a few that come right to mind for me are:

I don't know you. How do I know you're not violent, will hurt me, or have a sexually transmitted disease just waiting to be passed along to me? As a woman, I most definitely take all of that into consideration. Even the slightest, weakest looking guy could probably overpower me in hand-to-hand combat, so as a woman, I've got to make wise choices for my own good.

Secondly, on a purely superficial layer, how do I know the sex would be any good or last more than 60 seconds? (Yes, speaking from experience when I was much younger and wilder. Had a one night stand that was over in literally a minute, then he was snoring beside me. )

I agree - relationships take awhile, but anything worth having is worth working for. I also understand it's hard to strike up conversations with members of the opposite sex. I certainly don't feel comfortable going up to strange men in a bar and chatting them up. On the other hand, if I'm involved in something that interests me, like helping to raise funds for the local Humane Society, or getting involved in a local community group, club, etc., I feel much more comfortable talking with others, both men and women, because we have a shared interest. From that, sometimes mutual sparks are ignited and you can move onto a more personal relationship.

 

[Midlandsguy26]

Eros,

talking from a nerdy perpective, you will be surprised how many women are happy to get to know you.

Im 26 and ive been with about 7 women, i have never once gone into a bar and picked someone up, i have the same problem as you, im intelligent (well reasonably) and can talk to anyone but the moment i like someone i speak another language not known on earth, i cant say hi or anything.

My friends call me the king of geeks because, well i am lol but i think your going about it all wrong. Do you work?? Part time/full time??

The problem is if your 17-22 and are geeky you will have very little luck, i know i did having only been with 1 women between that age (although she was the most amazing women i have ever known so im not complaining.

It wasnt until i was 22, working and getting to know my colleagues that things started to hit it off and i never once consiously made the effort to pick one of them up so to speak and thats where i came into my own, i didnt think about it as im trying to hit on them or i want them so much, i took the time, got to know them and then had a lot of fun with the out come

I know your probably not liking this info but i found it impossible to pick up girls and approach any of them for sex so i gave up, luckily a lot of my female friends find me fun, charming (im a big suck up through compliments left right and centre) and checky. Im not attractive although i wouldnt say im ugly and before i knew it (although i have completely missed the obvious hint some women throw me) ive had plenty of interest.

its the long road round but trust me, it will be completely worth the while. Ive only had 1 one night stand and that was with a friend for mutual satisfaction, all my other sexual partners have either been relationships or casually sex partners.

I think the key is to forget about the sex, just make friends and have fun, silly flirting and things like that. Make it so obviously they like it, i work with a lady who is about 10 years older than me and i constantly tease her, saying how nice she looks and how she should really stop trying to woo me, she just slaps me and laughs at me but thats the kind of thing i do with every women i know, not all will like you for sex, but most will like you all the same and they will introduce you to friends or once in a while will be completely into you, and once you've gotten used to chatting and flirting with women when it comes to potential partners you will be confident, funny and checky, something ive found most women like.

Dont try, just forget about the sex and chat, get to know them and believe me you will meet plenty of women.

 

[shiny5437]

Honestly, the casual hookups thing isn't necessarily true. I've had more than I could count on one hand that literally never said one word to me. It was arranged in advance online and we met up when and where specified. Maybe I'm too easy, but I can say for sure, that it happens. I've also had many more that I never had a serious conversation with other than to set up the hookup. If that's how you want to get fucked, it's certainly possible to find.

I seem to remember that you're bi' so was that with women or guys? If it's with women then it does seem to fly in the face of what most of the board is saying which would be very interesting.

This board is a bit biased towards people who are more controlled and considered in their sexuality implying that most women make rational and sensible decisions. Unfortunately that's not always the case.

 

[infinity706]

I seem to remember that you're bi' so was that with women or guys? If it's with women then it does seem to fly in the face of what most of the board is saying which would be very interesting.

This board is a bit biased towards people who are more controlled and considered in their sexuality implying that most women make rational and sensible decisions. Unfortunately that's not always the case.

Yes, I'm bi. Two of the 10 women I've had were hookups. (by hookup, I mean no strings attached and I couldn't tell you the person's name if I wanted to) Most of the guys I've had have been hookups. Of course, one thing could be that there's probably not too much concern about lowering my opinion of someone. What can I possibly say about a one night stand when I've fucked as many people as a lot of pornstars? I can say that guys are, in general, easier, but there are some women that wouldn't think twice about casual sex. They're just not too likely to go around telling everyone about it.

Honestly, I don't think the board in general is so controlled and considered. I think it just looks that way because I think I'm the only regular poster in the section that is. There are a few other regulars in other sections that are sort of promiscouos as well. Still, though, the regulars are only a tiny sample size of the member of the site. You have to remember that on any large forum, probably 99% or more are lurkers. We have no way of knowing what they're like because they never say anything.

 

[Eros_1337]

Hmm, I might be getting that camera sooner than I planned. I wanted eharmony because it seems the easiest for me. The others you have to use best guess, and doesn't seem any different from real life except you don't leave your house. Which doesn't help me too much. On eharmony though, they match people up for you. I know that I still do most of the work, but it seems better than flying blind, plus the ice is already broken.

I work full time and am currently 21 years old.

 

[satindesire]

Hmm, I might be getting that camera sooner than I planned. I wanted eharmony because it seems the easiest for me. The others you have to use best guess, and doesn't seem any different from real life except you don't leave your house. Which doesn't help me too much. On eharmony though, they match people up for you. I know that I still do most of the work, but it seems better than flying blind, plus the ice is already broken.

I work full time and am currently 21 years old.

I think you're missing the point here. E harmony isn't about hooking up with the intention to pump and dump. That's a site that matches people who are there with, generally, the express purpose of getting into an actual long-term relationship.

Your better bet would be adult friend finder or some other hookup site.

Giving a woman the wrong impression...i.e. that you're interested in a relationship instead of just getting your dick wet...is dishonest at best and downright cruel and sleazy at worst.

You may get a little less action should you be honest and up front with your intentions, but in the end, you'll be clear of your conscious and karma, and won't be hurting any innocent girls.

Just look at it this way, if you wouldn't want your mom/sister/best girl friend being treated a certain way, don't do it to another girl.

 

[shiny5437]

Hmm, I might be getting that camera sooner than I planned. I wanted eharmony because it seems the easiest for me. The others you have to use best guess, and doesn't seem any different from real life except you don't leave your house. Which doesn't help me too much. On eharmony though, they match people up for you. I know that I still do most of the work, but it seems better than flying blind, plus the ice is already broken.

I work full time and am currently 21 years old.

I'm really glad to hear that you're going to do something positive about meeting new women.

However if you are going down the dating website route then why not just date! You're gonna get more out of it by approaching it as 'dating-practice', getting used to being around women, and just upping your confidence. Once you see yourself in that situation you might think about raising your standards and aiming for something other than an easy-lay.

And don't forget to make an effort! Get your hair cut (a good hairdresser - not a barber - likes it when people let the hairdresser do what they want), and buy some new clothes (my local shopping centre has a free personal shopper so ask around if there's one near you). As a guy who's never followed fashion it's amazing how different you feel when you know you've spruced yourself up a bit.

Good luck!