Hello, all.
I've been through the pain, confusion, hurt and loss of a relationship. Now that I'm working through the things that went wrong and seeing the whole thing for what it really was, I'm finding something that surprises me...anger. Real, deep, furious anger. I mean, the kind of anger that hits so suddenly and with such intensity that it would be frightening if I took the time to think about it.
I am in counseling, and my counselor assures me anger is normal at this point...that feelings of rage against the man who hurt me so much are natural. That I should not fight them.
Okay...so here's my question.
How do you deal with anger? I have done the usual things...throwing things, screaming into a pillow (or sometimes just at his picture), ripping up his photos and burning them (god, that felt GOOD), writing him evil letters (not sending them, of course), writing it all down in a journal, exercising like crazy...
But I still feel the need to lash out.
So...any suggestions? What good ways have you found to deal with your anger?
And since DuckLover will ask (you knew you would, but I like that about you! )...no, I did not throw a temper tantrum in front of my children. I keep it in check well enough for that.
So...HELP!
The very pissed off and frustrated S.
I've been through the pain, confusion, hurt and loss of a relationship. Now that I'm working through the things that went wrong and seeing the whole thing for what it really was, I'm finding something that surprises me...anger. Real, deep, furious anger. I mean, the kind of anger that hits so suddenly and with such intensity that it would be frightening if I took the time to think about it.
I am in counseling, and my counselor assures me anger is normal at this point...that feelings of rage against the man who hurt me so much are natural. That I should not fight them.
Okay...so here's my question.
How do you deal with anger? I have done the usual things...throwing things, screaming into a pillow (or sometimes just at his picture), ripping up his photos and burning them (god, that felt GOOD), writing him evil letters (not sending them, of course), writing it all down in a journal, exercising like crazy...
But I still feel the need to lash out.
So...any suggestions? What good ways have you found to deal with your anger?
And since DuckLover will ask (you knew you would, but I like that about you! )...no, I did not throw a temper tantrum in front of my children. I keep it in check well enough for that.
So...HELP!
The very pissed off and frustrated S.