How to explore bisexuality

[CanuckKitty]

I've never been with a woman, in any way. I've developed a curiosity, but have no idea how to explore it.
I'd like to hear from bi women who started to explore their bi side later in life (I'm in my mid-40s), and how. My husband is very open to the idea (one of his fantasies), but I really dislike formal/scripted meeting opportunities - both socially and professionally (the word networking literally makes me cringe like fingers on a chalk board). I'm much more comfortable meeting and getting to know people naturally. I've never been to any kind of lifestyle event so I have no idea how natural that kind of environment would feel. We're also not super outgoing people, and we don't do things like go to clubs.

So I'd like to hear about other women's first time experiences, how they made it happen, and any advice.

I should also note that due to my upbringing and professional role, I'm very concerned about discretion.

 

[subbyclarajane]

I assume you want to hear from bi cis women, and fair. Since I haven’t seen anyone post yet, I’ll mention a cousin I reconnected with who I hadn’t talked to in a decade and she came out HELLA bi and poly and also has a high profile position.

My understanding is that she started on FetLife, alias (still uses it), and just looked at posts, commented often. People would comment back. Some more enterprising people would message directly, and those conversations took off, and led to more conversations until people started talking to her about where to meet.

One thing you can look for are events called a Munch. These are events with people in the lifestyle where there is absolutely no sex. You just meet people. Those are pretty easy to find and posted openly on the platform.

Take care, photos/faces get you more conversations. A lot of people eventually make that commitment. I didn’t. My cousin did. She has no regrets so far and said it opened huge explorative doors for her.

Good luck!

 

[CanuckKitty]

@subbyclarajane thank you for the reply. Yes, I meant bi cis women, sorry I didn't think to specify that. Although now that has me wondering if that makes much difference to my question. Feel free to educate me!

 

[subbyclarajane]

@subbyclarajane thank you for the reply. Yes, I meant bi cis women, sorry I didn't think to specify that. Although now that has me wondering if that makes much difference to my question. Feel free to educate me!

I think there’s chance it does make a difference for MtF transitioning post 20s. We were socialized male, so there’s a one foot in one foot out thing happening. We understand the pressure men are put under when deviating from the patriarchy. Less familiar with the pressure women are under. Although, I’m in a lot of late blooming lesbian groups, and the representation of trans women is almost as high as cis lesbian women.

That said, I have given a great many late blooming lesbians and bi/pan women flirting lessons.

Oh. I’m an idiot.

If you’re curious in more social, less sexual space (to dip your toe), go to a directory like Disboard, and look for a bi Discord server for women. You don’t have to feel the same pressure to be anonymous there if you don’t want to be, if you want to meet real people. You start in the friend zone. It’s great!!!

 

[CanuckKitty]

Thank you for the honest and straight forward response. But you're not an idiot.