How to ease

[purplecobra]

How do you ease your mind when it comes to trying new sex things?Need all the help I can get.

 

[LadyAria]

How do you ease your mind when it comes to trying new sex things?Need all the help I can get.

A nice syringe full fluphenazine enanthate usually works on my victims...I mean partners

 

[whatzinaname]

For me personally, knowledge is power....do a little research, especially with something way outside your norm.

 

[skizbees]

To ease my mind...I used the Internet initially as a joke to learn some new positions during sex. The "Chandelier" one didn't quite work out. (think reverse cowgirl, but in the "crab walk" position...flexibility with a TON of upperbody stregth is necessary) But seriously, just relax when trying new things, and always give a cue when things need to stop.

 

[southernsky]

wine and my partner swearing that he will not laugh at me

 

[Bert Notorius]

wine and my partner swearing that he will not laugh at me

That's good! I can picture that happening in my mind. There's a lot of do-overs I'd like to have for things I've tried that sounded so much better in my head than in bed.

 

[NippleMuncher]

For me personally, knowledge is power....do a little research, especially with something way outside your norm.

I have to agree. If you're curious or your partner is proposing something new, do some research to find out what it is, how to do it, what to expect, etc. Discuss with your partner why they wish to try "whatever", or you discuss with them why you'd like to try "whatever". Be open and honest with your partner about any misgivings about attempting the new thing, and absolutely take things at your pace. Sometimes it takes a few attempts to get the nerve up to commit to something. Sometimes it takes a little trial and error to get it right and sometimes it takes a few attempts to start to enjoy it.

With THAT out of the way, whatcha got in mind?

 

[M's girl]

How do you ease your mind when it comes to trying new sex things?Need all the help I can get.

If it's something you have to "ease your mind" over you should go slow. Plus what the others have said basically: get informed.

It's the same as with a lot of other things and situations in life; you might think "no way in hell ever!" at first but then you start thinking about it and listening to other people's experiences and such and then you find out it's not so bad after all... Okay, that's in extreme situations maybe, but we do not know what you're thinking of, of course...

When another boyfriend sort of indicated he wanted to fuck me in the ass years ago I was very clear about the whole thing and convinced my ideas would never ever change. I told him "no way Jose" and that was it. End of subject.

Years later my M took another approach and started by seducing me into the whole idea. It worked. I still don't like anal penetration but my attitude has changed. I think you can say we found a compromise that worked for both of us.

 

[raysue81]

I think the best way to get over it is what your doing now in a way. Talk about it, whether its to friends or lovers. See what interests you and what doesnt and go from there. Start slow and ease into things gradually. this way you shouldnt be to intimidated and can relax more.

 

[xxyoyoxx]

Being informed is a major factor,but i think being honest with first yourself, then with your partner is the biggest factor of all. Then comuunication. I havent read anything here that has been wrong advice. Although im sure there is alot of that out there.

 

[buxxxom]

I have to agree. If you're curious or your partner is proposing something new, do some research to find out what it is, how to do it, what to expect, etc. Discuss with your partner why they wish to try "whatever", or you discuss with them why you'd like to try "whatever". Be open and honest with your partner about any misgivings about attempting the new thing, and absolutely take things at your pace. Sometimes it takes a few attempts to get the nerve up to commit to something. Sometimes it takes a little trial and error to get it right and sometimes it takes a few attempts to start to enjoy it.

With THAT out of the way, whatcha got in mind?

What NippleMuncher said. Also, safe, sane, and consensual are three words to remember here. As long as those are kept in mind, go for it.

 

[purplecobra]

I have to agree. If you're curious or your partner is proposing something new, do some research to find out what it is, how to do it, what to expect, etc. Discuss with your partner why they wish to try "whatever", or you discuss with them why you'd like to try "whatever". Be open and honest with your partner about any misgivings about attempting the new thing, and absolutely take things at your pace. Sometimes it takes a few attempts to get the nerve up to commit to something. Sometimes it takes a little trial and error to get it right and sometimes it takes a few attempts to start to enjoy it.

With THAT out of the way, whatcha got in mind?

Ya know with toys and things

 

[Mirandy]

Ya know with toys and things

Are you talking about anxiety over using the toy correctly or over introducing the idea of a toy to your partner? And exactly what toy (or thing) are you referring to? It might be something one of us has had experience with and we could do a much better job of helping if we knew the specifics.