How to deal with my shared wife's lover?

[geoff_II]

How should I deal with my wife's lover ?Should I tell him I know everything they did in the motel? I see him occasionally in social events.

Serious advice pls.Many thanks!

 

[pumpdaddy]

How should I deal with my wife's lover ?Should I tell him I know everything they did in the motel? I see him occasionally in social events.

Serious advice pls.Many thanks!

The first two things that entered my mind you would go to jail for and it would not be worth that. Does your wife know that you know? Do you care that she is having an affair? Are you the kind of guy that would like to get back at this other fella or your wife? Is he married?

 

[subgirl2]

How should I deal with my wife's lover ?Should I tell him I know everything they did in the motel? I see him occasionally in social events.

Serious advice pls.Many thanks!

oh sweetie, you sound hurt by this. I think you need to ask yourself this:
If you talk to him, do you want to hear his reply? You may not.

Remember, it was not him you married, he owes you nothing. It was your wife that cheated on you, she is the one who committed to you and made promises to you. He didn't. Have you talked to her about it? Why did it happen in the first place? You are not to blame but your relationship must have been lacking something. You don't need to deal with him, you need to deal with her.
I'm sorry this has happened to you... Good Luck

 

[shy slave]

Am I the only who thinks that perhaps he and his wife had agreed to her having lovers and now he is wondering if it was the right decision?

If it were me I would not say anything to him.
Why would you want to?

Comparing notes doesn't sound like a good idea.

If you are man enough to accept she has lovers, then you are man enough to keep your knowledge of what happened to yourself

 

[iamdick100]

Accept or ........

You can accept the situation or move on. My wife started to get full body massages from a friend of ours. He massages every inch of her. I wasn't sure about it at first but then accepted that she liked being rubbed by him. So, as I watched, it became very exciting for all three of us. He now sucks on her tits, finger fucks her, and brings her to orgasms every time. It is exciting if you accept it. Accepting what she likes has been great for us.

 

[swingsncarousels]

The wife's lover

How should I deal with my wife's lover ?Should I tell him I know everything they did in the motel? I see him occasionally in social events.

Serious advice pls.Many thanks!

My wife had many lovers. Some were my friends and there were no problems with them. Some were men she had found who also became pals, but with these I tended to play it by ear. I made it plain that whatever they did was OK by me, and then if they freed up that was fine, if not, I played it discreet.

Some I never met, because I knew they didn't want to meet me, and I respected that. Some were just shy, one I know was as jealous as hell, and some were just - well - conventional I suppose.

Others I did meet, but depending on their demeanour, again I played it cool and let them take the initiative. I always tried *not* to embarrass the guy in any way.

Basically you just have to take the most tactful line - depending on the other guy's demeanour. In my case it ranged from raging threesomes with bisexual aspects, to total non-contact. My only major criterion was what got my missus off. Whatever she wanted was fine by me...

swingsn..