warrior queen
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ok, here's the thing.
everyone who knows me in r/l has been saying that i seem to be very stressed, and that it has been going on for quite some time.
i personally don't see it - but then, i have also been told that often a person simply doesn't know it when they are stressed.
it seems that i have been very short and abrupt with everyone, and that i am also exhibiting some classic signs - not sleeping well (most nights i get about 4 to 4 1/2 hours), getting angry with people for simple things (i have a very short fuse), gaining weight even though i eat well and excercise some (i was putting that down to my very slow metabolism - hehehehe, very handy for when i drink! never blown more than 0.01 no matter how big a night! but i do get drunk the next day), getting very deeply involved in activities that capture my attention completely (apparently it's got something to do with 'forcing' myself to focus so that i don't 'over-think'), and the list goes on.
my children have also lately been saying that i seem to be 'removed' from them - not as involved, as it were.
so i am reluctantly concluding that maybe everyone is right when they say i am stressed, and because i have never thought of myself as that kind of person (a stress-head), i am now in a position where i have absolutely no idea how to change this.
any and all suggestions would be handy.
i should add that i am what they call a 'logic' thinker, and that i do also tend to look to end-stage scenarios - in other words, i try and imagine any situation to the n'th degree before i get too involved (but i always thought of that as a 'safety' thing, not a stress thing?)
oh, and i'm a complete atheist, as well as a sceptic.
ok, hopefully that's enough info to get this ball rolling, because if i don't do something, it looks like i will have a family revolt on my hands.
edited: because i forgot to add that i have plenty of 'me' time, but it doesn't seem to be helping much.
everyone who knows me in r/l has been saying that i seem to be very stressed, and that it has been going on for quite some time.
i personally don't see it - but then, i have also been told that often a person simply doesn't know it when they are stressed.
it seems that i have been very short and abrupt with everyone, and that i am also exhibiting some classic signs - not sleeping well (most nights i get about 4 to 4 1/2 hours), getting angry with people for simple things (i have a very short fuse), gaining weight even though i eat well and excercise some (i was putting that down to my very slow metabolism - hehehehe, very handy for when i drink! never blown more than 0.01 no matter how big a night! but i do get drunk the next day), getting very deeply involved in activities that capture my attention completely (apparently it's got something to do with 'forcing' myself to focus so that i don't 'over-think'), and the list goes on.
my children have also lately been saying that i seem to be 'removed' from them - not as involved, as it were.
so i am reluctantly concluding that maybe everyone is right when they say i am stressed, and because i have never thought of myself as that kind of person (a stress-head), i am now in a position where i have absolutely no idea how to change this.
any and all suggestions would be handy.
i should add that i am what they call a 'logic' thinker, and that i do also tend to look to end-stage scenarios - in other words, i try and imagine any situation to the n'th degree before i get too involved (but i always thought of that as a 'safety' thing, not a stress thing?)
oh, and i'm a complete atheist, as well as a sceptic.
ok, hopefully that's enough info to get this ball rolling, because if i don't do something, it looks like i will have a family revolt on my hands.
edited: because i forgot to add that i have plenty of 'me' time, but it doesn't seem to be helping much.
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