How to "dance"

[boston_bbw]

Nope not the foxtrot or cha cha. I just heard a song on the radio and the words made me think....
"I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances
But they're worth taking
Lovin' might be a mistake
But it's worth making
Don't let some hell bent heart Leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out.. Reconsider
Give the heavens above
More than just a passing glance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance"

I guess I am sitting out rather then "dancing". I don't put myself out there in order to meet someone.. prefer to keep to myself then take the chance of being hurt, I can't say I have any huge goals or challanges in life that I am working towards now that I have finished college and have a career. I am shy, self consious, quiet.. so that dosn't help. I have no drama in my life ...Most of my friends are married or with kids and doing their own thing. I guess I am just sorta coasting thru life. I'm not sure this is a good thing. How do I change? Are you "dancing?"

 

[mikumber]

Nope not the foxtrot or cha cha. I just heard a song on the radio and the words made me think....
"I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances
But they're worth taking
Lovin' might be a mistake
But it's worth making
Don't let some hell bent heart Leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out.. Reconsider
Give the heavens above
More than just a passing glance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance"

I guess I am sitting out rather then "dancing". I don't put myself out there in order to meet someone.. prefer to keep to myself then take the chance of being hurt, I can't say I have any huge goals or challanges in life that I am working towards now that I have finished college and have a career. I am shy, self consious, quiet.. so that dosn't help. I have no drama in my life ...Most of my friends are married or with kids and doing their own thing. I guess I am just sorta coasting thru life. I'm not sure this is a good thing. How do I change? Are you "dancing?"

I used to dance. All the time, all night long. But then I fell and broke my leg, and never got back into it.

Seriousely. I used to be outgoing and spontanious (sp?) then I got married, fell into a rut. Got divorced, and have not been able to get back into the "dance". Pretty sad huh?

 

[boston_bbw]

Not as sad as being 33 and never having danced .. but yea, I wish everyone danced

 

[SweetErika]

Great song. I think part of "dancing" is to do things you're passionate about. Start small, but always work towards something. If you've always wanted to go somewhere, start researching and planning now. Make a list of things you've always wanted to do, and then look at what you can do today to fulfill them tomorrow.

I'm really risk-averse, but I moderate it by putting limits on my "safety net" (e.g. once we have enough money saved to cover an emergency, we'll divide funds between investments and a "want account" for vacations, etc.). I also ask myself, 'why not?' on a regular basis, and when I can't come up with logical answers, I just decide to do it.
My husband and I have learned some valuable lessons about not putting off things that we've always wanted to do or will give us great pleasure and satisfaction from watching family members make those mistakes in the past year.

I've always found this poem to be an incredible reminder and motivator to just "dance":

The Call

Throughout your life there is a voice only you can hear.
A voice mythologists label “The Call.”

A call to the value of your own life.
The choice of risk and individual bliss
over the known and secure.

You may choose not to hear your spirit.
You may prefer to build a life in a compound,
To avoid the risk.
It is possible to find happiness within a familiar box,
A life of comfort and control.

Or, you may choose to be open to new experiences,
To leave the limits of your conditioning,
To hear “The Call.”
Then you must act!

If you never hear it, perhaps nothing is lost.
If you hear it and ignore it, your life is lost.

Jennifer James

 

[sassykat]

Nope not the foxtrot or cha cha. I just heard a song on the radio and the words made me think....
"I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances
But they're worth taking
Lovin' might be a mistake
But it's worth making
Don't let some hell bent heart Leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out.. Reconsider
Give the heavens above
More than just a passing glance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance"

I guess I am sitting out rather then "dancing". I don't put myself out there in order to meet someone.. prefer to keep to myself then take the chance of being hurt, I can't say I have any huge goals or challanges in life that I am working towards now that I have finished college and have a career. I am shy, self consious, quiet.. so that dosn't help. I have no drama in my life ...Most of my friends are married or with kids and doing their own thing. I guess I am just sorta coasting thru life. I'm not sure this is a good thing. How do I change? Are you "dancing?"

I danced for a while in the last year, but then I couldn't keep with the beat any longer. I think I am destined to just sit on the sidelines and watch others dance. I just don't take the hurt of having the dance end very well. And yes, my dance was a dance with love. As far as finding something to be passionate about, I lost my passion for most of my hobbies or interests several years ago. I have no advice for you, just know you aren't alone.

 

[Dstorage]

Just out of curiosity, if your fairy godmother appeared with her little sparkly wand and granted you a wish of some sort of exciting thing, what would you like to do that you aren't doing now?

 

[HeadMistress]

That is one of my favorite songs! I dedicated it to each of my Daughters apon their High School graduations. Now it brings a tear to my eye every time I hear it.
As far as dancing myself, I try.... Lord knows how I try. But its like I got 2 left feet. Or I'm always stepping on my partners toes. I'm not sure the point is how well you dance though. You just gotta keep trying. Here is another song that fits the topic:

He said,
"I went skydiving, I went Rocky Mountain climbing,
I went 2.7 seconds on a bull name Fu Man Chu.
And I loved deeper, and I spoke sweeter, and I gave forgivness I'd been denying".
And he said, "Someday I hope you get the chance to Live like you were dying".

 

[College_geek]

I think the song is about living your life to the fullest, and like Erika said, doing things you feel passionate about.

 

[cymbline]

Yes, find and realize your passions. Someone told me once that the first time you try something new it is the hardest thing to do. But with each step it gets easier and easier. Yes, this is from the voice of experience. As I have a hard time putting myself out there also.

And always, always dream of dancing as someday you will find your dance partner.

 

[babydoll2u]

<snip>

And always, always dream of dancing as someday you will find your dance partner.

still hoping it's not just a dream.......

 

[Just_4_Giggles]

There's a book called "The Purpose Driven Life" that many have read and feel like "dancing" again.

I haven't read it myself, so I don't know its "angle" and if it's real religious-y or not. But it's been a best seller and even if you can take what you need from it to get your tap shoes on, it would be worth it.

Gigs
<Who's gotten her toes stepped on MANY times!>

 

[SweetErika]

There's a book called "The Purpose Driven Life" that many have read and feel like "dancing" again.

I haven't read it myself, so I don't know its "angle" and if it's real religious-y or not. But it's been a best seller and even if you can take what you need from it to get your tap shoes on, it would be worth it.

Gigs
<Who's gotten her toes stepped on MANY times!>

I haven't read it either, mostly due to the Christian angle, but here's the website if anyone's interested: http://www.purposedrivenlife.com/

However, Until Today! by Iyanla Vanzant is a fantastic book that focuses on taking time each day to think about yourself, life, and trying new things. It's more spiritual/open to interpretation, and you just read one page and work on the lesson it teaches each day.

In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want by the same author looks excellent as well. (The links go to Amazon where you can "look inside" both books.)

 

[Biggie74]

Nope not the foxtrot or cha cha. I just heard a song on the radio and the words made me think....
"I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances
But they're worth taking
Lovin' might be a mistake
But it's worth making
Don't let some hell bent heart Leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out.. Reconsider
Give the heavens above
More than just a passing glance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance"

I guess I am sitting out rather then "dancing". I don't put myself out there in order to meet someone.. prefer to keep to myself then take the chance of being hurt, I can't say I have any huge goals or challanges in life that I am working towards now that I have finished college and have a career. I am shy, self consious, quiet.. so that dosn't help. I have no drama in my life ...Most of my friends are married or with kids and doing their own thing. I guess I am just sorta coasting thru life. I'm not sure this is a good thing. How do I change? Are you "dancing?"

i am in the same boat,22,most of my friends are either settled down with kids,or into so much partying i dont wanna be apart of that either,i am kinda stuck in the middle of the road coasting through unnoticed

 

[DrStein]

I'm 20, and I'm just starting to get into the dance. The thing is, I don't dance. I headbang, I mosh, I play air guitar when my real guitar isn't handy.

My point? Joining the dance isn't the only part of the process. You have to find your dance and then find the right partner.


I see an angel, fed up and pale
You've been a sleeper
You habe been getting stale my friend
Time to leave the vale again

Back on the runaway you accelerate
Get out of the tight spot and fly
Take your chance tonight
I'll give you a ride tonight

And as the sun is gonna rise
I'm gonna make you come alive

You can fly, reach for the sky
It's the rise of the morning glory
Scream and shout, cry it out loud
We are coming back to life
Now open you eyes
Witness the rise
Rise of the morning glory
When you're next to me
You're gonna see...
Woahoo...

Everyday they're wounding your pride
Try to break you
And make you let go
The dreams you once have had
They'll never understand

There is a bastion that won't ever fall
Our passion, our magic, our fire
Let them run us down
I couldn't care less about
There is no time to waste
You better quicken up you pace

You can fly, reach for the sky
It's the rise of the morning glory
Scream and shout, cry it out loud
We are coming back to life
Now open you eyes
Witness the rise
Rise of the morning glory
When you're next to me
You're gonna see...
Woahoo...

 

[Leeleigh]

I am about to turn 50, I have been alone for the last 6 1/2 years, have not been touched by a man in almost 10 years, and have not dated in over 27 years....

I am about to take that deep breath, and go out there and start dancing. I know that I am going to be hurt along the way... but I keep telling people: Nothing Ventured, Nothing Gained...

I don't want to wake up the morning after my 50th birthday knowing that I did not take a chance and give it my best shot. And I don't want to wake up regretting what could have been, but wasn't, only because I was scared to try...

 

[Ravin the Poet]

No offence to anyone here, but I have this simple rule.

"If you don't go out, because your afraid to get hurt, you have NO RIGHT to complain."

Very harsh, but honestly, your not doing anything about it. That's like saying "My golf swing is horrible" and you have gone golfing once.

I'm 19, almost 20, and I dance like a mofo. I'm out there, and I do what I wish. I stay true to myself, I don't play the field, I just have a good time. I don't need someone to have a good time, I just need to find my groove. If your afraid of getting hurt, I give you this. GET OVER IT! Life hurts, and will hurt. Hell I am 19, and already have had 2-3 hard downfalls, but I am back and ready to try again.


Ravin

 

[Leeleigh]

Ravin... x 1,000,000,000,000,000 + some.

 

[Ravin the Poet]

Ravin... x 1,000,000,000,000,000 + some.

Aww thanks Leeleigh.

X 10...hey I may be giving, but not rich. Roses are expensive.


Ravin

 

[Leeleigh]

Aww thanks Leeleigh.

X 10...hey I may be giving, but not rich. Roses are expensive.


Ravin

Oh sweetie.. tis the thought that counts

I think you and I will be watching each others progress.

 

[Cathleen]

I like the idea of this thread. It sort of reminds me of the 'What Feeds Your Soul' that is in the HT Cafe.

Dancing is very difficult for many reasons. I know for me I let fear stand in my way. I would think that I was going to make a fool of myself or fall on my face. Ravin peged it - stop and just go dance. We all have a different tune and dance too. That is great! Some music goes well together, some not so good but we can listen to all of it.

I don't love every kind of music or dance but I can listen and watch and then participate to see how I feel about that particular thing. If we don't try things out we won't know ourselves and what we enjoy. If you love to read, you had to do it to know .... if you love to cook, you had to do it to develop that love.

I have to admit that getting older is great in this respect (it ain't great in other ways but.... lol). When I was younger I would let the fear or self consciousness get in my way. I would think about all the bad things that could happen instead of looking at things as a chance to try something new.

I know I would put too much pressure on myself or on the activity - like I *have to love* this or it won't add to my life. Well that isn't the case at all. I like to try new things and have found some activities and people that I'd not have had in my life if I didn't expose myself to life.

I suppose I'd say, yes you'll be nervous but that is a feeling and a feeling can't kill you or make you horrible - it's just a feeling, an energy. And the single most important thing I've learned is that everyone is in the same boat with so many things. Not a one of us has something totally unique, so expose yourself to things, find out what sparks you inside. You never know unless you give it a try.

Edit: I 'danced' today. I put my feelings on the line with a special person. We've been struggling in our relationship, but today I got on the 'dance floor.' I won't know if he will join me there but if I didn't get honest and real with him there'd be no dance floor for me.

 

[krazeekat]

Edit: I 'danced' today. I put my feelings on the line with a special person. We've been struggling in our relationship, but today I got on the 'dance floor.' I won't know if he will join me there but if I didn't get honest and real with him there'd be no dance floor for me.

Cate...I am so glad for you and I hope he'll join you on the dance floor.