How to Cyber

[HardGeorge]

Hi All!!

I know this is probably covered elsewhere, but.....

I have trouble getting cyber-partners in adult chat rooms. Got any tips?

Also, once a partner and I have started, how do you get things rolling ?


Thanks,
Hard George

 

[SXCRgirl]

Hey HG,

First of all, and this is just my opinion, it's kinda tough to really meet folks in a chat room. Not that it can't be done, but there's just so many people there and in my opinion, you don't really know who you're talking to.

But, if you visit the same room for a period of time and become a regular, you get a *feel* for the room and figure out who you want to talk to. I'm a regular in an adult chatroom and I've made many friends there. I only had one cyber partner and we started off friends first before we explored cyber and phone.

Just like in RL, you'll click with people that you normally would click with and then you establish guidelines as how to go about your friendship/relationship. Good luck!

 

[Lust Engine]

Nicely put SXCRgirl!

She's dead one with this one George. You almost have to prove yourself in the chat rooms that you're not some fly-by-night pervert. And even if you do make a connection, it's so much more difficult to maintain it. It does take some work to maintain the heat & intensity of cybering over a longer period of time.

But don't stop trying. Again, SXCRgirl hit the nail on the head... some relationships work, some don't! Just like in real life.

Good luck!

 

[Luminary]

I would have to agree with the ladies....
I've talk to many people, some people will PM you.
And after finding out if your connection works for you.
You will see if they are friends or cyber partners.
I have found one very special someone here.
And if been going very well....
As in all sex it ebbs and flows...
Some time we just want to say hello and then sometimes
it's a no holds bar....
Good luck to you !!!!

 

[peachykeen]

being a chick and all I have never had a problem finding someone to chat with. However I am sure it is much harder for a guy. If I guy PM's me, first thing I do is check out the profile. If there isn't one, then I don't respond. If there is and I am interested, then I might.

As far as getting things started, I just like to get a little backgraound information first. I am not really concerned with what he may look like, I mean, on the computer especially, it's just not that important to me. But I do like to know a man's age (I tend to prefer slightly older), what he does for a living (just gives a clue to the type of person he may be), whether he's married or not, basic stuff. I usually will ask someone to tell me what they think is important to know about them as I find what someone chooses to reveal far more interesting than barraging them with questions.

After laying a little groundwork I might start asking some more sexually explicit questions. I've found that a lot of men (especially the married ones) have something on their minds they would like to explore but are afraid to ask for, and want to try it cyber as they don't actually want to engage in real-world unsafe/hurtful behavior. Generally I am happy to oblige, so long as it is not something incestuous or involving bathroom functions, as I can't even pretend to be interested in any of that.

Don't know if any of that helps you, I know finding soemone to chat with is the first and most difficult hurdle, but if you find someone you click with, it can be a whole lot of fun!

 

[Guest]

It's darn near impossible to get a good partner on sex chat thingies. I tried it once with an obviously-female name, and boy did those PMs come flooding in! I don't like to PM people without permission cos I don't like coming across as a bit of a psycho. All the rooms seem to be filled with men with silly names (like "bigcockmegahard16" (without a hint of irony)) trying to woo the ladies with crap chat-up lines.

It's all very frustrating.

 

[SXCRgirl]

It's darn near impossible to get a good partner on sex chat thingies. I tried it once with an obviously-female name, and boy did those PMs come flooding in! I don't like to PM people without permission cos I don't like coming across as a bit of a psycho. All the rooms seem to be filled with men with silly names (like "bigcockmegahard16" (without a hint of irony)) trying to woo the ladies with crap chat-up lines.

It's all very frustrating.

Thanks nudeguy. I can't stand it when guys PM without asking. It's so rude. I've heard people say that it's a damn chatroom and that people PM, it's acceptable. However, I say no. Common courtesy applies everywhere... even online.

 

[Spurious Scribe]

As far as getting things started, I just like to get a little backgraound information first. I am not really concerned with what he may look like, I mean, on the computer especially, it's just not that important to me. But I do like to know a man's age (I tend to prefer slightly older), what he does for a living (just gives a clue to the type of person he may be), whether he's married or not, basic stuff. I... usually will ask someone to tell me what they think is important to know about them as I find what someone chooses to reveal far more interesting than barraging them with questions.

After laying a little groundwork I might start asking some more sexually explicit questions.

Gosh what an informative post! And I loved your question to guys - "tell me what you think is important for me to know about you". I NEVER thought to ask such a simple question. I'll bet that elicits all sorts interesting and useful information! Umm... consider that one stolen!

My big beef when it comes to cybering is that so many guys want more than I can offer. So often they want pictures, preferably nude, phone sex as opposd to being content with strictly cyber, and some even push for IRL meetings.

Sometimes it reminds me of when I was younger and single and dating- so many guys are never content. They often want all you are willing to give- and then some.

And sometimes they press so effing hard for it too. You seem to be hitting it off with someone on a cyber level and all of a sudden its "call me or let me call you... PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE!" etc.

Hey guys, I know you aren't all like this, but so often those that I have met in chat rooms are. Admit it... this is the norm for so many guys that go there! One of the main reasons I am reluctant to venture into them.

My personal opinion-- a lot of guys shoot themselves in the foot with their own brash behavior. I may act like a slut for you if I'm really interested, but that doesn't mean I am IRL!

Sorry... I'll get off my soapbox now.

Kat

 

[HardGeorge]

WOW

Thanks everyone for your input and opinions.

It has all been very enlightening.

HG