How to cope with my PCOS?

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Twice in my life I've observed therapists talk out their asses while their clients died of brain cancers.

 

[SweetErika]

Update: had a Dr appt today. Turns out it isn't my pcos and meds that's killing my sex drive as much as it is my depression which has seriously flared up and out pacing, I guess is what I would say, my medication. The Dr has increased my depression meds and told me I need to cut down my stress levels before it quite literally kills me. While I was there I had her remind me of why we didn't choose metformin as it had been mentioned here and we are taking this set up I'm on to help with my hirutsim (sp) because I'm not ready for babies. She says that when my stress levels are lower, my depression is better in check them she'll switch me to metformin. Thanks for all the advice and sorry I started a thread for the wrong problem.

Do your own research and talk to a specialist or two, but it's my understanding that metformin can actually protect your fertility for the future. I know quite a few women who were diagnosed with PCOS and started on metformin after the disease had taken its toll on their bodies for years, and couldn't get pregnant at all because of it. Since you indicated you want to have a child at some point, your best bet is to do everything possible to regulate your hormones, cycle, and prepare to do that now, not wait until you feel ready to start trying. Aside from the fertility issue, metformin also decreases your risk of developing diabetes and heart disease. When taken during pregnancy, it lowers the risk of gestational diabetes.

Think of it this way: the hormonal imbalance from the PCOS is damaging your body. It's likely increasing your production of cortisol, cholesterol and blood sugar levels, which puts you at a greater risk of diabetes and cardiac issues. You need to treat the root cause of the imbalance with medication and a healthy lifestyle to protect your whole body and future fertility from the nastiness that is PCOS. You may even find that some of your depression and anxiety improve when you get your PCOS/hormones under control.

 

[NotHisLady]

Twice in my life I've observed therapists talk out their asses while their clients died of brain cancers.

I've been to at least one like that. The trouble with therapy is finding the right therapist. It's nearly as bad as dating (actually it might be worse, at least on a date you get a free meal.)

As much as I hate to break it to you JBJ you make a good point.
If the person you're talking to isn't listening, isn't offering you real help in the form of strategies and tactics to combat your problems, if they decide on day one what is 'wrong' with you and then twist everything you say to shove you into that box then leave. RUN don't walk.
The wrong help is worse than no help at all.
There are caring people in this field who know how to guide a person through difficult times. Don't tar them all with the same brush. By the same token don't assume that because a person wears the title 'counselor' that they will be of any use to you.

Therapy isn't something you go to, it's something you go do. A good counselor/therapist is the equivalent of a trainer to a person trying to get in shape. They can show you the exercises but they can't do the work for you.