My wife that 3 is company? I would love to have a 3 some (MFM) witrh her, but she is somewhat shy. The farthest we have gone is when we let a friend of hers tape us fuck, then he came on her tits, she seem to enjoy it, but I want to see he take anothyer man in her wet pussy. i want to watch him make her cum and fuck her hard and cum inside her wet awaiting pussy.
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From someone who's been there and done that. . .
The short answer is that you can't.
You can't get, make, or convince your wife to do something that she doesn't feel comfortable doing. If you try to do so, she might eventually come to resent you. She has to want to do it.
The fantasy of watching another man fuck your wife might be really hot. The reality, however, might be quite different. Sometimes you just don't know how you'll react until you're in that situation.
From the way you describe things, it doesn't sound like there's much in it for her. Engaging in some form of nonmonogamy, whether it's swinging, threesomes, open relationships, etc, has to work for all parties involved. What does she want?
Good luck.
The short answer is that you can't.
You can't get, make, or convince your wife to do something that she doesn't feel comfortable doing. If you try to do so, she might eventually come to resent you. She has to want to do it.
The fantasy of watching another man fuck your wife might be really hot. The reality, however, might be quite different. Sometimes you just don't know how you'll react until you're in that situation.
From the way you describe things, it doesn't sound like there's much in it for her. Engaging in some form of nonmonogamy, whether it's swinging, threesomes, open relationships, etc, has to work for all parties involved. What does she want?
Good luck.
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Elian, she wasn't a bit shy to take a load on her tits. we have talked about a MFM 3 some and she isn't sure about it. I promised her that it would be all about her, and she would cum 2 or 3 times. She is just shy, and isn't sure about taking another man in her pussy. she took his load on her tits and looked like she wanted more, but when it cum's to her pussy she is is shy,
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I think you'll get the same answers that you did in January. You can't make her do what she does not want to do. Even if she's shy about it, even if she brought it up first, it doesn't matter unless she wants to do it. I don't know how often or strongly you bring it up to your wife but I'd not push too hard, IMHO.Camaro396 said:
Previous thread, same question
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Good call on the other thread, Cate. 
Camaro, you're seeking validation, not advice, and you're not going to find it here, just as you didn't find it in your previous thread.
What you need to be doing is asking your wife what would make the circumstances right for her. I can answer that question for myself, but I can't answer that question for your wife.
Taking a load on the tits isn't quite the same as PIV sex, so it's understandable that she's shy. After all, even though the fantasy of doing two men at once is hot for some women, the reality is that despite our best-laid plans, there are things such as diseases and unintended pregnancies and emotional entanglements (ya know, separating that whole love and sex thing) that can make women a bit gun-shy about doing something like this. Even if they really, really want to do it.
Is your relationship extremely stable? This will change your relationship. I'm not saying that the change will be negative, but I'm not saying it'll be positive, either.
Are you willing to raise a child that might not be yours?
Will you stay with your wife after you pushed her to have sex with someone who ended up giving her herpes or something else equally permanent?
What if she decided that she likes the fresh cock better than she likes yours?
What if she wants to be with the fresh cock--without you?
What if she falls in love with the person attached to the fresh cock? Are you going to be okay with that?
You and your wife need to answer these questions. Together. Until you do, you're nowhere near ready to even consider a MFM.
Or maybe try not talking about it all the time (your words). If you were my husband, I'd be tuning you out after a point.
Camaro, you're seeking validation, not advice, and you're not going to find it here, just as you didn't find it in your previous thread.
What you need to be doing is asking your wife what would make the circumstances right for her. I can answer that question for myself, but I can't answer that question for your wife.
Taking a load on the tits isn't quite the same as PIV sex, so it's understandable that she's shy. After all, even though the fantasy of doing two men at once is hot for some women, the reality is that despite our best-laid plans, there are things such as diseases and unintended pregnancies and emotional entanglements (ya know, separating that whole love and sex thing) that can make women a bit gun-shy about doing something like this. Even if they really, really want to do it.
Is your relationship extremely stable? This will change your relationship. I'm not saying that the change will be negative, but I'm not saying it'll be positive, either.
Are you willing to raise a child that might not be yours?
Will you stay with your wife after you pushed her to have sex with someone who ended up giving her herpes or something else equally permanent?
What if she decided that she likes the fresh cock better than she likes yours?
What if she wants to be with the fresh cock--without you?
What if she falls in love with the person attached to the fresh cock? Are you going to be okay with that?
You and your wife need to answer these questions. Together. Until you do, you're nowhere near ready to even consider a MFM.
Or maybe try not talking about it all the time (your words). If you were my husband, I'd be tuning you out after a point.
Ok, so things ar the same i guess, withe the exception of her taking another mans load on on her tits. I don't push it, but at the same time i want it to happen. We have talked about it and she told me with the right person, well what does that mean? I asked her, and she couldn't describe the "right" person. I just wish she would make up her mind sometimes shes is game for it, and sometimes she isn't sure. Isn't sure? What is there ti be insecure about when you mate wants to watch you screw another guy?
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Camaro396 said:
Gee, maybe she doesn't want a stranger's dick inside her. Maybe she doesn't want to risk diseases and pregnancy. Maybe she doesn't want to risk falling for some other guy and starting to fall out of love with you. Maybe she doesn't want to risk losing respect for her husband who is oh so eager to give her away to another man. Maybe she doesn't want to risk encouraging your masturbatory fantasies and turning her love life into YOUR sex fantasy. Maybe she's afraid if she does it once, you'll keep pushing her to do it ALL the time.
WTF is wrong with you that you can't respect her when she tells you she's not sure?
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Camaro396 said:
Oh you think so, huh? Tell us, please, what exactly was it about how she looked that made you think she "looked like she wanted more"?
She SAID she didn't want to, that she wasn't sure. Unless she SAYS she wants more, she DOESN"T.
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Is it wrong that I want to smack this person? (Now I know the heat got to me.)LadyJ said:
Hey, person, maybe her ''right person'' response is her way of saying NO! She can't define who that person and it might get you off her back. I think you're being more than disrespectful of someone you love.
Just because you can't have what you want doesn't mean you should hound the woman.
I can tell you first hand that the biggest turn off is having your partner REALLY fucking push for the threesome. It makes you think there's a whole lot more going on....like they must just really want to fuck someone else badly if they are not willing to accept that you have said no.
That's how it felt for me and I'm a guy. I was into the idea at first but it was pushed so fucking hard by my partner, the whole idea turns me off now. And I have had threesomes before so it's not the sex. It's WHY the hell is it so important you can't respect my right to say "no...not just yet".
Leave it alone and when it doesn't seem like such a big deal for you, your wife might be more responsive to the idea. If not, too fucking bad and don't be one of those sacks of shit that uses that to justify cheating.
That's how it felt for me and I'm a guy. I was into the idea at first but it was pushed so fucking hard by my partner, the whole idea turns me off now. And I have had threesomes before so it's not the sex. It's WHY the hell is it so important you can't respect my right to say "no...not just yet".
Leave it alone and when it doesn't seem like such a big deal for you, your wife might be more responsive to the idea. If not, too fucking bad and don't be one of those sacks of shit that uses that to justify cheating.
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"With the right person" means exactly what it sounds like. IF the right person came along (and no, that doesn't mean you should go try to find candidates), she might consider proceeding. Of course, she could consider then say 'no' as well. She's unsure in general, and can't imagine anyone she'd be willing to do it with.Camaro396 said:
Your wife is smart to be hesitant, and you should thank her for putting so much stock in herself and your marriage. Bringing other people in requires a lot of careful consideration of all of the things LJ mentioned, and more. And fulfilling desires like these certainly isn't worth risking our physical, emotional health or marriage, don't you think?
It's so dangerous that I took a long time to suggest it, and then thought very hard once my husband indicated he was open to it. Sexual activity involves emotions and has very real implications; it's imperative for me to consider the potential realities of my actions very carefully. After my husband said he was interested in exploring, I had HIM set the rules and pace because his comfort and our relationship are my top priorities. And guess what? He went at the rate he was comfortable with, and it worked out great. We do that with EVERY new person/situation.
Like me, you're damn lucky your spouse didn't dismiss it immediately. Be grateful she's open-minded, and leave it there. She's made up her mind -- she's thinking about it. You're a lucky bastard who couldn't ask for more than that!
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Why don't you let her watch you screw another guy and then you can get back to us on that?Camaro396 said:
LadyJeanne and I have already tried to tell you what women might be insecure about in this situation. Why don't you try reading this thread again without an erection so that all the blood flow will go to the correct head?
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jeez, eilan, what's up w/ all the restraint? :>
camaro, i don't know why but you appear to be having a lot of trouble reading what people have said.
some people get really hot fantasizing about something but don't ever wanna actually do it. if you push for this, you're gonna piss her off and the likelihood of just plain old MF in your future diminishes correspondingly.
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camaro, i don't know why but you appear to be having a lot of trouble reading what people have said.
some people get really hot fantasizing about something but don't ever wanna actually do it. if you push for this, you're gonna piss her off and the likelihood of just plain old MF in your future diminishes correspondingly.
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i'm having trouble recognizing you w/out the snark, eilan. :>
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Camaro,Camaro396 said:
I'm not going to jump down your throat. I think you need to ask yourself why this is so important to you that you can't hear what your wife is saying to you. You've become obsessed with the idea and you have to ask yourself why? Do you need to validate a feeling of insecurity that you have regarding your relationship? Why is it so sexy to you? Or rather is it really something that is sexy to you? If I was a betting man I would say that there are probably some other issues out there that are driving this. What other obsessions do you have? Alcohol? Drugs? Food? Obsessive problems can be treated. Whose idea was it originally to have her friend tape you. It obviously was a male friend of hers rather than yours. So you were probably looking for it then. What is it you expect will result after he cums in her pussy? What do you physically want to do once he cums in her? Are you feeling bisexual? What happens to your life once he cums? Where does your relationship go from there? Is this something you want to do more than once? If so, why? What do you want to do when he cums? While he is fucking your wife?
You do not appear to have really thought this out. You really need to do so.
Good luck. Therapy helps.
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Communicate
I think that we have posted this before, communicate, communicate, communicate, then communicate some more. Establish rules and guidelines, then communicate, be open ad honest with each other. DO NOT try to force the issue. But, always remember, before, during and after, communication is key.
I think that we have posted this before, communicate, communicate, communicate, then communicate some more. Establish rules and guidelines, then communicate, be open ad honest with each other. DO NOT try to force the issue. But, always remember, before, during and after, communication is key.
I am sitting here banging my head against my computer desk...why oh why are you NOT reading the answers and understanding them and your wife??????? You can NOT make someone do something they dont want, they will only end up resenting you.
Listen to what people have been saying, including your wife, and leave it as a fantasy....
Listen to what people have been saying, including your wife, and leave it as a fantasy....
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Just in case those of you who responded to this thread today didn't see the thread starter's recent update:
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=460157
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=460157
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Camaro396 said:
then don't try to make her? what's so hard about that to understand?
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