How to become a bull?

[SoMoney831]

Like many men I'm sure, it's one my fantasies to be a bull for a cuckold couple. It would be such a huge thrill to fuck a married woman with or without her husband's knowledge. But I've always wondered - how does one go about being a bull?

Are there any resources you guys could share about how someone who wants to be a bull can accomplish that? Any experienced bulls (or cucks) on here that would be willing to share some tips? Or is it one of those things where you either know how to be one, or you don't? Any and all advice would be welcome. Thanks for your time.

 

[littlecordelera]

Like many men I'm sure, it's one my fantasies to be a bull for a cuckold couple. It would be such a huge thrill to fuck a married woman with or without her husband's knowledge. But I've always wondered - how does one go about being a bull?

Are there any resources you guys could share about how someone who wants to be a bull can accomplish that? Any experienced bulls (or cucks) on here that would be willing to share some tips? Or is it one of those things where you either know how to be one, or you don't? Any and all advice would be welcome. Thanks for your time.

Join a swing club or at least a swingers site. That is the best place to start, although there are lots of ads on Craigslist. But these things only cover half of the effort - meeting interested couples. It's the other half that is the hard part, and that has to do with who you are as a person. For the most part, you either have it or you don't. I can't tell you what it is or how to act, because those qualities differ for every couple. The most common requirement, however, is knowing how to be sexually superior to the husband, but knowing how to treat him with respect.

 

[KinkyGAGuy]

As stated above. Join a swingers club or craiglist.

I dabbled with this in the past. Most of my success came from adult dating websites. A little success from the local swingers club. Then I went on a tear targeting women in local bars and dance clubs. Experienced a great deal. Had a few issues with jealous husbands, and have seen marriages torn to shreds over this. But I had great fun. May have to get back into it.

 

[MaryR]

Like many men I'm sure, it's one my fantasies to be a bull for a cuckold couple. It would be such a huge thrill to fuck a married woman with or without her husband's knowledge. But I've always wondered - how does one go about being a bull?

Are there any resources you guys could share about how someone who wants to be a bull can accomplish that? Any experienced bulls (or cucks) on here that would be willing to share some tips? Or is it one of those things where you either know how to be one, or you don't? Any and all advice would be welcome. Thanks for your time.

I think many women fantasize about that situation even if they don't fancy it in real life.

 

[policywank]

Like many men I'm sure, it's one my fantasies to be a bull for a cuckold couple. It would be such a huge thrill to fuck a married woman with or without her husband's knowledge. But I've always wondered - how does one go about being a bull?

Are there any resources you guys could share about how someone who wants to be a bull can accomplish that? Any experienced bulls (or cucks) on here that would be willing to share some tips? Or is it one of those things where you either know how to be one, or you don't? Any and all advice would be welcome. Thanks for your time.

In addition to knowing where to look I would say it is very important to have the right attitude. What that is depends upon the situation and the couple of course. However, I think it most cases if you are playing with a couple you need to start from a recognition that this is something they want. Chances are that he is not simply a victim being dragged along against his will. Whether or not you can relate to the notion of wanting to see other guys fuck your wife, it is a reality for willing cuckolds.

If you are in the mode of picking up disaffected married women simply as conquest and to pump up your own ego that kind of makes you an asshole so please stop. Don't get me wrong, it isn't up to you to refrain from fucking married women who are interested in you - that is between them and their husband. And some people see a certain benefits to being with married people (less commitment, etc.). But if your sole motivation is to feel like a big man by having someone else's wife you won't get far with me.

Assuming that isn't you and you actually want to understand the cuckold, as a very crude analogy I refer to gay men. For along time and still in a lot of places society associated being gay with being effeminate and/or sexually weak. That simply isn't true. We developed that myth because the only men we recognized as gay were the ones that were effeminate - it took a long time for society to realize that there were lots of very masculine gay men that we simply hadn't recognized as gay. A close personal friend of mine is gay - 6'4", 230 lbs and a 10" dick. He just happens to be attracted to men.

Likewise while lots of cuckolds are sexually inadequate, their defining feature is the desire to see their wives fuck other men. Its a genuine desire. They may also like a certain amount of humiliation, that is genuine too. You don't have to be able to relate to it, but accept that it is who they are and respect it.

Also of course is the question of whether you are "bull" material (personally I don't use that word because I don't let my lovers dominate me). Do you really know what a woman wants in terms of sex and are you able to see us as unique creatures? I hear so many men make comments like "I always make sure she is satisfied" as if they live in some ridiculous world where that is possible because they are all knowing. We are finicky - its not by design we just are. Sometimes my favourite big cock lover just isn't doing it for me. The last thing I need is to have to convince him otherwise. My lovers are in many ways props in my sex life with hubby - there for my use and enjoyment so long as I want and not a moment longer. Having a bigger dick or being better at sex does not mean you supersede hubby.

 

[KinkyGAGuy]

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[SoMoney831]

Those are very good points, thanks policywank. For the record, I'm not interested in picking up unhappily married women in bars. I want to be a bull for a couple, not just a woman. The husband's knowledge, consent and even his enjoyment would be ideal. Whether or not he's actually present when I would be with the wife is up to her.

 

[littlecordelera]

Likewise while lots of cuckolds are sexually inadequate, their defining feature is the desire to see their wives fuck other men. Its a genuine desire. They may also like a certain amount of humiliation, that is genuine too. You don't have to be able to relate to it, but accept that it is who they are and respect it.

I'm not sure I would agree with the first sentence above. In a way it's true, but I think it is misleading to a guy who is asking how to become a bull.

In the cuckold world, plenty of husbands are sexually adequate for their wives; however, if the husband doesn't feel that the bull is better in bed than he, then it is not a cuckold situation. It's just swinging, and hence, the other guy is no longer a "bull." Also, without that feeling of sexual inadequacy there can be no feeling of humiliation.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

If your serious about it if start working out and putting some muscle on, a lot of couples want their Bulls to be well built and have a strong appearance.

 

[jomar]

If you fuck a married woman without the husband's knowledge you're not a bull.

There is an element of superiority, confidence and dominance in being a bull. You may not be bigger or even better, but you bring a mindset that helps the couple to submit...can be subtle or full on, depending.

And like others have said, to make it work you need to know the flavor of their kink and tailor your behavior and talk so that so everyone has a good time.

No rule books, but using the usual online sites I have had good experiences talking in depth with the wife...she knows what hubby wants and talking to her, not him, adds a layer of closeness/intimacy that gnaws at hubby in that blissfully painful ache they tend to like.

 

[policywank]

I'm not sure I would agree with the first sentence above. In a way it's true, but I think it is misleading to a guy who is asking how to become a bull.

In the cuckold world, plenty of husbands are sexually adequate for their wives; however, if the husband doesn't feel that the bull is better in bed than he, then it is not a cuckold situation. It's just swinging, and hence, the other guy is no longer a "bull." Also, without that feeling of sexual inadequacy there can be no feeling of humiliation.

I understand what you mean. In the first instance, yes I agree that a bull is a man I have chosen specifically for his size and sexual prowess relative to hubby. I think that on its own that is enough to qualify him as a bull. Whether or not we include hubby in our encounters and the degree to which we play-up the disparity is another matter. Likewise it is not necessary for hubby to be an inadequate lover for the other man to be bigger and better when that is what I am craving.

But I don't always crave a big cock - in fact for regular sex he is too much. Meanwhile my husband is a good lover and my preferred mix of size and stamina. If I had to choose one or the other it really would be hubby.

So for someone looking to be a bull yes there is a requirement to offer some mix of superior size/stamina/dominance. But do not assume that the husband is useless or that the wife is sexually neglected without her bull. And I suggest following the wife's lead as to how much domination/humiliation is suitable. I am a very satisfied wife with a very open-minded husband who occasionally indulges herself with a big cock. Hubby enjoys the humiliation part whereas I ebb and flow on the point.

I agree that the disparity is critical to the other man being a "bull" although I am not sure I would agree that all other situations are swinging. I am not qualified to dictate the dictionary of fetish land but to me swingers are couples where both parties have equal say and discretion. That is not our situation. I control the decisions and fuck whomever I want. He rarely fucks other women and when he does it is only with my permission. And I choose other men for a variety of reasons, usually because they offer something that hubby doesn't or just for variety but it certainly isn't limited only to cock size and dominance. I nevertheless consider this a cuckold situation more so than swingers.

Of course there is a whole other line of thought (with which I disagree) pursuant to which some people think he is only a cuckold if all activity is against his will.

 

[screwher]

How?

How do you become a bull? By fucking my wife's brains out !!

 

[SlutAddicted]

Like many men I'm sure, it's one my fantasies to be a bull for a cuckold couple. It would be such a huge thrill to fuck a married woman with or without her husband's knowledge. But I've always wondered - how does one go about being a bull?

Are there any resources you guys could share about how someone who wants to be a bull can accomplish that? Any experienced bulls (or cucks) on here that would be willing to share some tips? Or is it one of those things where you either know how to be one, or you don't? Any and all advice would be welcome. Thanks for your time.

For us a bull certainly needs to be a physically impressive man. Tall and muscular is preferred but the key criteria is cock size and stamina.

But demeanour and approach are just important. The good ones we have encountered do seem to have a certain innate ability. I don't know whether that can be learned or not. It is a balance between confidence and the inclination to take what you want yet still making sure that you are treating the hot wife in the way she desires (not the way men want her to want to be treated). She may want you to play a dominant role or simply a strong sexual male role but remember you are catering to her or their needs not just being a bully or self indulgent.

A truly open mind is also key. Again its a balancing act of coming across as the epitome of heterosexual virility yet being accepting of other people's sexual preferences (not just tolerant but accepting). The fact that her sexual activities lean to the promiscuous does not correlate in anyway with wanting to be treated poorly or not being selective with her lovers. A hot wife is an especially sexual and adventurous woman. A good bull will see that as something special and desirable and is broad minded enough not to give a crap about how many men she has been with because he accepts the fact that she owns her own sexuality.

Figure out how to distinguish between humiliation and disrespect. The cuckold is on some level letting all this happen or at least choosing not to walk out on his wife. Maybe he is just that weak but more likely he is making a conscious choice. And if humiliation is part of the package he is engaging in that because it provides a thrill. You don't have to understand that to know that its is true. If he is involved find his boundaries - like the hot wife he is engaging in fetish activities not agreeing to be a punching bag for an arrogant asshole.

A lot of people tend to focus on what they would like if they were in a certain situation. But the fact is that most of us have been aggressively conditioned to reject the things that a hot wife and cuckold enjoy. You need to step outside of that and understand that your perspective may not help much with understanding theirs.

Control doesn't equate with aggression. The greatest sense of being dominated for me is in the little things. I don't need to be pushed around. "Go fetch me a beer or get my car washed while your wife sucks my dick" pretty much says it all.

 

[Yachtsman69]

Not A Bull, But ...

I entered the world of MFM play wanting to share fun and fulfilling sexual experiences with couples. My idea was not to be the stud that can please her better than her husband or SO, and I had and have no interest in humiliating anyone.

I have been fortunate to meet several couples near my home and while on business trips. Now there are two couples ( one mild one wild ) that I see when our crazy schedules align. Also, my FWB and I sometimes invite another man into the mix.

To my continuing surprise I end up in a dominant "bull like" position for at least some part of every MFM encounter. This phenomenon is way more prevalent when I am with a husband and wife than if my friend and I have invited another man into bed.

Many husbands get really turned on seeing their wives being serviced by another man. It is a huge turn on for me when I see hubby sitting back getting super aroused as I give his wife pleasure. This is not just a big cock thing or me being the most dominant guy either. I've had the smaller cock of the two more than once and still ended up being the more dominant guy for most of the session. I also, takes queues from the husband, especially on the first meeting, and that usually guides me toward taking the lead.

There can be role reversal during any one encounter as well. It has happened to me more than once. As an example, I had an encounter 2 summers ago where it happened big time. It was a Saturday night and we had all been drinking a bit but were not hammered or anything. The wife and I played in the hot tub, on the floor, and finally made it to my bed. For a couple of hours all hubby did was watch and listen to his wife make exquisite noises. After that amount of time I was ready for a little rest so I asked him to take a turn. He seemed a little surprised but went for it. I caressed her nipples and rubbed her clit while hubby fucked her. Her came in less than 5 minutes. When he pulled out I saw that he had shot a huge load into her. It was just starting to leak onto her anus when I went down and started licking it up. I heard him say " Oh my god he's going to clean up" as I started. That was a trigger for him and all of a sudden he was telling us what to do. That was hot!

So, if you want to be a bull chances are you will be if you can find a couple that wants to play. But, I urge you to not limit yourself to just being the dominant one.

 

[SlutAddicted]

I entered the world of MFM play wanting to share fun and fulfilling sexual experiences with couples. My idea was not to be the stud that can please her better than her husband or SO, and I had and have no interest in humiliating anyone.

I have been fortunate to meet several couples near my home and while on business trips. Now there are two couples ( one mild one wild ) that I see when our crazy schedules align. Also, my FWB and I sometimes invite another man into the mix.

To my continuing surprise I end up in a dominant "bull like" position for at least some part of every MFM encounter. This phenomenon is way more prevalent when I am with a husband and wife than if my friend and I have invited another man into bed.

Many husbands get really turned on seeing their wives being serviced by another man. It is a huge turn on for me when I see hubby sitting back getting super aroused as I give his wife pleasure. This is not just a big cock thing or me being the most dominant guy either. I've had the smaller cock of the two more than once and still ended up being the more dominant guy for most of the session. I also, takes queues from the husband, especially on the first meeting, and that usually guides me toward taking the lead.

There can be role reversal during any one encounter as well. It has happened to me more than once. As an example, I had an encounter 2 summers ago where it happened big time. It was a Saturday night and we had all been drinking a bit but were not hammered or anything. The wife and I played in the hot tub, on the floor, and finally made it to my bed. For a couple of hours all hubby did was watch and listen to his wife make exquisite noises. After that amount of time I was ready for a little rest so I asked him to take a turn. He seemed a little surprised but went for it. I caressed her nipples and rubbed her clit while hubby fucked her. Her came in less than 5 minutes. When he pulled out I saw that he had shot a huge load into her. It was just starting to leak onto her anus when I went down and started licking it up. I heard him say " Oh my god he's going to clean up" as I started. That was a trigger for him and all of a sudden he was telling us what to do. That was hot!

So, if you want to be a bull chances are you will be if you can find a couple that wants to play. But, I urge you to not limit yourself to just being the dominant one.

No, not a bull but......very helpful perspective.

Men tend to default to wanting that bull role. Independent of whether one has the wherewithal to fulfill the role I think experience and an open mind will lead a man to appreciate all the different possibilities.

I don't possess the anatomy to be a physically and sexually dominant presence but nor am I in the inadequate category. Generally speaking I am a bit above average in terms of body size, endowment, virility and ability to be assertive - 7" and thick in cock size terminology and neither dominant or inadequate.

I believe my wife when she says I am her preferred size and lover most of the time because she doesn't hesitate to be honest with me when what she wants is a bull with a bigger cock. And just as frequently as she craves that big dick, I want to take a backseat to another man or at least let him drive for a while (to stretch that analogy). My desire to see her with another man is much stronger than the desire for that man to be superior or dominant - that can be fun too but the connection among us is much more important.

Even if you do want the role of bull it helps to have an open enough mind to comprehend that you may eventually genuinely desire a role other than stunt cock.

 

[Yachtsman69]

My desire to see her with another man is much stronger than the desire for that man to be superior or dominant - that can be fun too but the connection among us is much more important.

Yup .... sometimes I really get off on this. A couple weeks ago my buddy was playing with my fwb while I watched. She was giving him an awesome BJ and he was totally enjoying it. When I saw the unmistakable signs of him pumping cum into her mouth I spontaneously ejaculated. I hadn't been stroking or anything but the whole scene was so hot that it put me right over the top.

 

[FunKinkguy]

There are several swinger sites you can post your profile on and you may have luck. There are a lot of guys on there wanting to be with couples so you will have to distinguish yourself from the rest of the guys.

I started out swinging in my mid 20's almost by accident. I was on one of the adult websites trying to find a girl to have some fun with and was messaged by a cute couple wanting to have a threesome. I went with it and had a blast. I was in shape, respectful but dominant, and could hold a conversation. Almost all the couples I was with said that because I didn't send them a dick picture and could hold a conversation was why they picked me.

I became interested in being a bull and found several couples who were either into it that I played with. Each couple was different, but what they all had in common was that I was respectful of their relationship even though I was a "bull".

What worked for me might not work for you, but I was pretty successful.