how to attract men...

[loveroflove]

input from them would help...
ok i am a complete virgin...no i am ok with this fact! though i would like guys to actually talk to me and ask me out...my problem is i cannot figure out if the like me or not and how to let them know i am interested in them.
my problem also is that the ones that i do flirt with i find out they have a g/f ugh.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Well, I'll preface this by saying that these are my opinions only. They would probably attract a guy like me, so yeah.

There are several things that initially catch my eye in a girl.

Confidence. That doesn't mean arrogance. Nothing is more unattractive to me than a girl who thinks she is a diva. Self assuredness is an important trait.

Sense of humour. Be able to laugh. Be able to understand jokes.

Sense of fashion. This is different for every guy. I prefer a girl who cares about her looks. I'm not saying to be looking in the mirror every five minutes. But be approachable. Don't wear a Twilight shirt. Never. Sofia Vergara could have on one of those and I'd make her remove it before we went anywhere.

Which brings me to my next point. Be approachable. This is important. I just had this conversation the other day with someone. When a guy talks to you, he has to have the feeling that he is going to receive something for his effort. Now, I am not a bar/club type person. I'm a good boy. But if there was a girl I liked, it was always important to know that my efforts to show interest would be well received. Some girls put off a feeling of elitism that scares guys to death. So think about how you interact with a guy. Do you smile? Do you speak condfidently? Do you laugh? Do you stand with your arms crossed? Do you play with your hair? All these kinds of things can be signals.

May I ask, where are you trying to meet guys?

Best of luck!

 

[loveroflove]

i go to college so it is usually fellow students that i see. it is a community college so ages vary though i have found i can stike up a conversation with many of the bio majors and some other men but they are usually taken so i talk to them as friends.
i use to be on polar opposites of the confident scale and now that i am taking anxiety pills and learning to embrace my sexuality it is a lot easier to embrace it...and i wear more of the prints and things *if you look on my one thread*

 

[Primalex]

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[Lord Pmann]

College is a good place. I was just asking, because bars don't tend to have that same kind of "common interest" that I think you may be looking for. "Oh, you like beer AND fucking?!?!?!"

The clothes comment was just saying that with whatever you wear, look neat. Guys don't like sloppy girls. I mean, some probably do. But not most. I'm not saying wear a specific type of clothes. I'm just saying to wear whatever you wear well.

 

[r_mck]

If you're female, guys will like you. Simple as that. We're stupid creatures.

 

[imemkay]

If you're female, guys will like you. Simple as that. We're stupid creatures.

This. Funny, yet so true!

 

[r_mck]

This. Funny, yet so true!

Your occupation: it's not photon torpedoes, is it?

 

[imemkay]

Your occupation: it's not photon torpedoes, is it?

LOL. No

 

[LikeASnowflake]

If you're female, guys will like you. Simple as that. We're stupid creatures.

I have to disagree. They will wanna fuck you but like you? Doubt it.

It's extremely hard for females to meet nice men who are actually interested in you as a person and not your body. Just my experience.


I say though be very open, smile a lot, laugh, flirt, maybe touch his arm etc. Get to know each other. Develop a friendship but make sure you don't get friend zoned and something might blossom. I think it's important not to jump into a relationship. Really get to know each other first.
Also always be yourself. Don't put on a show. If they don't want you for who you are, forget them.

 

[emap]

You are allowed to ask them out. Doesn't have to be anything major like let's go have dinner. Guys will refuse that because to them they are paying for it. Guy thing don't ask cause I don't get it either.

Anyway, ask them out to like coffee, that way it says you like them and opens the door for them to ask you out for dinner or just to bed. Trust me once you open the door for relationship they think of sex.

Keep in mind, the guys you do talk to that are dating already know single men. Nobody only knows people who are dating or married. Simply comment about how it's hard to find a nice guy to date and they probably will ask if you are open to a blind date because they know a guy.

Being guys you may have to hammer them over the head though, say something like I'd kill for a date. Perhaps not kill, but do anything for a date, you might get offered one for sex, but most likely you would only get blind dates.

 

[ConfusedAgain]

Have you tried online dating? POF? Match..etc

Not everyone is good at talking to people in person. Have you tried just general conversation that way you don't feel humiliated when you find out they have a gf? You can talk to people and not call it "Flirting".

 

[fancytalker160]

Be approachable first off. Many guys will avoid jumping into a group of girls to talk to one of them. Facing the fear of rejection is hard enough without an audience. So don't always be in the middle of your group of friends. If you find a man you are interested, you can always start a conversation; for example pay him a compliment and you can even follow it up with a question, like "I like your hair, where did you get it done at?" Get him to talk about things he is into and if he say something you like also say so (Don't lie, this can get you into trouble) and say you enjoy doing it. If he catches on he might ask if you would like to do that sometime, if he's slow on the uptake (most will be, depending on experience) you can throw out it would be nice to do it with them sometime.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

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Be open to friendships. We ALL need friends and the very best relationships develop out of friendship. Don't expect every friend to be a lover.