How to ask her for Cybersex without losing her?

[PaysForIt]

I have this chat friend from another country and she is really sexy, smart, funny, and has an amazing accent...seriously gets me wet talking to her. I even caught myself with my hand in my pants while talking to her and I really didn't mean to.

I kind of get the feeling she is into me because she stays up late to connect with me. I'd like to ask her if she is into cybersex but I really don't want to offend her or lose her.

What should I do?? Is there a way I can ask that leaves a safe exit so we can at least remain friends should she say no??

 

[RedHeadedGlory]

Say something suggestive but not overt and see if she runs with it.

 

[Wings27]

I have this chat friend from another country and she is really sexy, smart, funny, and has an amazing accent...seriously gets me wet talking to her. I even caught myself with my hand in my pants while talking to her and I really didn't mean to.

I kind of get the feeling she is into me because she stays up late to connect with me. I'd like to ask her if she is into cybersex but I really don't want to offend her or lose her.

What should I do?? Is there a way I can ask that leaves a safe exit so we can at least remain friends should she say no??

You know, compliments go a LONG way. Something along the lines of, have I ever told you how sexy I think you sound? And if she acts offended, leave it alone! If she giggles and says thanks, then it might be ok to be a little more obvious.

 

[PaysForIt]

Say something suggestive but not overt and see if she runs with it.

So you think a cell phone pic of my privates up close might be over doing it
Someone PM'd that to me...thanks for that laugh!!!

Thanks for the suggestion, but do you have a specific suggestion?? Everything I come up with just sounds soo offensive to me.

I am really hot for her.

 

[PaysForIt]

You know, compliments go a LONG way. Something along the lines of, have I ever told you how sexy I think you sound? And if she acts offended, leave it alone! If she giggles and says thanks, then it might be ok to be a little more obvious.

Oh

Maybe I am not paying enough attention then because she is definately responsive to my compliments. She started sending me more pics of herself too that are more suggestive.

Maybe I am the one that needs the hint

 

[Wings27]

Oh

Maybe I am not paying enough attention then because she is definately responsive to my compliments. She started sending me more pics of herself too that are more suggestive.

Maybe I am the one that needs the hint

Oh for the love of all that is holy, Praise Jebus he's seen the light! Yes, you may be a little dense. Start with the more subtle comments, work your way up to, "say, would you like to start moaning with me over this here telephone line? "

 

[dave's thing]

How about (as Wings said):
have I ever told you how sexy I think you sound?

if she hooks on it let yourself go from there.... if she doeesn't go back to the regular talk. Relax though.. just letit flow and be your self... if it is there it will happen just as in RL

Hope it goes well for you

 

[dave's thing]

OK so you two got trwo messages in before I got the one in....
*bows out*
Wings has it all right

 

[Wings27]

OK so you two got trwo messages in before I got the one in....
*bows out*
Wings has it all right

Oh my GOD, who told you?!?!?!

 

[dave's thing]

Oh my GOD, who told you?!?!?!

<<<<doesn't need the hint!!
(btw Wings-- I think he is actually a she judging by the first post where she got wet... but after reading the paysforit first ever post maybe it is a he)

 

[PaysForIt]

OK so you two got trwo messages in before I got the one in....
*bows out*
Wings has it all right

Thanks everyone so far. I know what you are saying, it's just really hard (no pun) since we've laughed so much, talked so much and became friends already. I don't want to lose that relationship because she really does make me laugh and feel good. I just feel like such an animal when I answer the phone and she starts giggling and talking in that damn russian accent of hers.

 

[Wings27]

<<<<doesn't need the hint!!
(btw Wings-- I think he is actually a she)

Well crap! Good catch!

Wait, Pays is a male, the one on the phone is a female. I believe? Oh hell!!!

 

[PaysForIt]

I am a he. Guys can get wet too!!!

 

[vsparc9]

Deleted. Farewell Literotica.

 

[mrfixitintheuk]

sounds like she is in to you, wait too long and she may get bored and wonder so what can you lose?
join the sas who dares wins. i did and weve been married a long time, all good

 

[dad001]

Hmmmm

I would say swap some pics....start out G rated and get more and more daring......and see what she asks to see....or cam with her and see if she wants to get naughty by her suggestion...

Just my thoughts

Dad

 

[PaysForIt]

I would say swap some pics....start out G rated and get more and more daring......and see what she asks to see....or cam with her and see if she wants to get naughty by her suggestion...

Just my thoughts

Dad

Again I really appreciate all the encouragement. It was a combination of everything said that led me to poke her a little further today. She was actually getting bored with me because I was taking too long, she thought I lost interest, and I think that hurt her a little. The topic came up today in a normal conversation where I said something like "you had me at hello" or something silly. She said "did I ever really have you?". That led to some more feeling each other up to see where we stood. That eventually led to me sending her a pic, and her wanting to exchange more riskier pics. Then we spoke on the phone for a couple hours while I wanked off (just kidding, but my heart did pound pretty good listening to her, put a good smile on my face, what a hottie!!).

I like to learn, and what I have learned from this is, "if you want it, go for it. fear of rejection hurts, but acceptance can give you a rock in your pants that lasts for hours. well worth the risk".

 

[Miles Long]

Have you at any point tried screaming "PENIS PENIS PENIS VAGINA VAGINA VAGINA!" into the phone? It doesn't work very often, but when it does... boy howdy have you found a winner!

Good luck, and keep us posted!

 

[montonero85]

Have you at any point tried screaming "PENIS PENIS PENIS VAGINA VAGINA VAGINA!" into the phone? It doesn't work very often, but when it does... boy howdy have you found a winner!

Good luck, and keep us posted!

lol, that should work...and if not at leastyou'll both laugh for a while.

That was so hilarious....omg, thanks for the laughter moment

 

[JenniferGreen]

Just say by the way, you have a very sexy voice, have I ever mentioned that? And then see what she does. Another option is just to be honest and tell her what you've been thinking of. Perhaps she is doing the same thing you never know. Good luck to you!

 

[vsparc9]

Deleted. Farewell Literotica.

 

[Wings27]

Have you at any point tried screaming "PENIS PENIS PENIS VAGINA VAGINA VAGINA!" into the phone? It doesn't work very often, but when it does... boy howdy have you found a winner!

Good luck, and keep us posted!

Oh my god! that was YOU????!!!!

(ahahahahahaha, very funny)