How to Approach a Potential Date

[LaOrca]

I know many posts like this come up but I need help.

I am a 29-year-old woman ready to get back in the dating game after two years and a really rough heartbreak. Though fairly confident and not afraid to persue a man, there are those akward situations.

When I was going to college about five yeats ago or so, there was this akwardly cute guy I would notice. We never spoke or had class together but I noticed. Well, over the years I have seen him walking a lot and was always curious. Anyway, he is one of the managers at a local grocery giant and I've seen him a lot. He seems very akward or adorably geeky (in a good way) but I could be wrong. He could be a big ladies man...All I know is that he is Russian and his name.

So, how do I approach this? We have never had conversation but I saw him look at me a few times. I don't want to force conversation or make him uncomfortable at work but I want to satisfy years of curiousity. Is a note in passing best and a smile?

Help! LOL

 

[NippleMuncher]

Just find a way to strike up a conversation with the man. If you know the store he manages, then go in when you know he'll be on duty and find a reason to talk to him. A commonality would be that you saw him frequently on campus and you always regretted not introducing yourself.

The worst thing that will happen is that you will make his day for thinking about him.

 

[Gaslamp_Society]

"Do you work here everyday? 'cos everytime I'm here I see you."

"Uh, yeah I am here a lot."

"What is really weird, is that I'm pretty sure we had some college classes together...don't worry I'm not stalking you...I just remember faces."

"It's possible. You do look familiar....(or) I don't remember you...I'm sorry."

"Well don't let me bother you, but if you do ever get a day off [make it look spontaneous as you pull a (prepared) pen and a piece of (prepared) scratch paper from your purse]...then give me a call if you wanna do something!"

At that time you should be able to gauge is interest via his response...either "Yeah! That would be great!" or "Uhhh...okayyyyyyy....."

"Alright, see you later!"

 

[LaOrca]

Well, that ends that. He is seeing someone. Now it's back to watching 70s Italian crime films and getting hot and bothered...LOL:

 

[subwannabe]

I would give him your name and number and tell him that if he's ever between relationships to give you a call.

 

[LaOrca]

That's a good idea subwannabe but I would feel bad. Plus, all I need is an angery woman after me...I guess next time I see him I will give him a big smile as a signal. That way, if anything changes he may remember me...I shop there enough.

Guess, I won't be sucking his cock like a starved animal anytime soon...LOL.

 

[Que]

That's a good idea subwannabe but I would feel bad. Plus, all I need is an angery woman after me...I guess next time I see him I will give him a big smile as a signal. That way, if anything changes he may remember me...I shop there enough.

Guess, I won't be sucking his cock like a starved animal anytime soon...LOL.

Depending on how long they been in a relationship together she probably isn't either.

Not saying I'm just saying.

PS, My c*** is totally available for alleviating any oral fixation issues you might have.

 

[TildaS]

This is going to be quite a bad post lol but if he's in a relationship and unhappy you say he's a bit uncomfortable, geeky hot, and quiet/reserved...... maybe he's not the type to break up with someone he's not happy with straight away. Might be giving it a last chance or looking for a way out.

I'm not suggesting you dive in and break them up but giving subtle-ish hints that you're interested (but not desperate) such as remembering him from years ago, and always saying hello and a comment but then keeping busy not keeping chatting longer than that might be a good plan. Set yourself the challenge to find out one more thing about him (but only one) every time you see him from what colour his car is to what his hobbies are to where the relative he says he's visiting next weekend is etc.

Good luck xx

 

[LaOrca]

Thanks for the replys, everyone.

Tilda, I was thinking this too. I have no idea if he is happy or not but, at least he's not married. That gives me half a chance. I was told he is very nice. Like you said, if I give subtle signals of interest and he is unhappy in his present situation, then it gives him an out. I am no model but he could do a hell of a lot worse! LOL.

 

[dougsan]

You could always pat his ass as you walk passed and then wink. Lots of guys think this is way cool. I don't know what women think of it.

 

[Lord Pmann]

For me, I would be really flattered if a girl have me her number. I'm counting in my head the number of times that has happened to me and the number is 5. And that has a +5 margin of error. Actually, it did happen once. And I was incredibly flattered. I was 18 and the girl was about 21 or 22. We were at a dinner one night for a mutual friend's birthday. I spoke to her only briefly, in introductions. I guess she liked me (I am beautiful and charming. And humble. Oh so humble.). So she told her friend to give me her number. She did and for other reasons, we never really talked. I realize that was a shit example, since we didn't go out, but we should have!

My belaboured point is... She really earned my respect by doing that. According to her friend, she seemed to really like me, which was interesting as we talked so little. I say give your number to the guy. It won't hurt. You'll make his day.

 

[LaOrca]

Well, he's single and I had my date tonight. He never had a girlfriend, I had his name wrong...:

So, I am the first date that he has ever had. He is VERY shy. If things go well, how should I go about seducing him? I have to take it super slow but eventually...I don't want to freak him out when the time comes and it is almost guarenteed I will have to make a move. Again, when I say shy I mean it! {Laugh)

 

[WantonSavage]

Be the argessor, he love ya for it!

 

[ttrfanatic]

Well, he's single and I had my date tonight. He never had a girlfriend, I had his name wrong...:

So, I am the first date that he has ever had. He is VERY shy. If things go well, how should I go about seducing him? I have to take it super slow but eventually...I don't want to freak him out when the time comes and it is almost guarenteed I will have to make a move. Again, when I say shy I mean it! {Laugh)

Well speaking from experience (I was that shy guy at one point a long time ago) and I would have loved to have a woman make that move on me. If he is that shy then you can't be if you want anything to happen. Wishing you the very best in your endeavors!