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willywanker
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Well, I don't really recommend the back seat which is where I lost mine, although I'm not sure I'd really change it either.
But it is something you will remember so dont do it with just anyone. And don't do it with another virgin. Being in here and reading, you will have had better chances than I did reading Penthouse, but it is nice if one of you has some idea of what to expect.
I could be a real pervert and volenteer, but I won't. Do pick someone with a sense of humor. Some of the funniest things that have happened to me in my life happened during sex and you both need to be able to laugh about it.
Just one old farts opinion.
But it is something you will remember so dont do it with just anyone. And don't do it with another virgin. Being in here and reading, you will have had better chances than I did reading Penthouse, but it is nice if one of you has some idea of what to expect.
I could be a real pervert and volenteer, but I won't. Do pick someone with a sense of humor. Some of the funniest things that have happened to me in my life happened during sex and you both need to be able to laugh about it.
Just one old farts opinion.
Weird Harold
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If you absolutely MUST lose your virginity, ask a friend. Meeting someone from the Web is a dangerous proposition, especially if the meeting is set up specifically for the purpose of losing your virginity.
Meeting someone in the middle of a crowded mall for coffee and donuts is one thing, but meeting for the express purpose of going off someplace private and getting naked is another thing entirely neither wise nor truly safe.
With a friend, you at least have some idea of the real person and the real personality involved.
Meeting someone in the middle of a crowded mall for coffee and donuts is one thing, but meeting for the express purpose of going off someplace private and getting naked is another thing entirely neither wise nor truly safe.
With a friend, you at least have some idea of the real person and the real personality involved.
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MysteryJKR
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MistressHoney wait sweetie wait wait till its with somone you really care for!
You wont regret it. I know ya dont wanna wait much longer but ya also dont wanna just meet someone ya dont know over the internet or in some bar. Now THAT is what youll probably regret.
You wont regret it. I know ya dont wanna wait much longer but ya also dont wanna just meet someone ya dont know over the internet or in some bar. Now THAT is what youll probably regret.
cymbidia
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1. If possible, insure it's with someone who knows what s/he's doing. Nothing is worse, maybe, than having virginal dreams of lovemaking shattered by the inept fumblings of someone just as steeped in ignorance as are you.
2. Make sure you **want** to do it. It's always okay to back out of any sexual situation at any time. Even if he's got his cock inside you and is pumping away having a great time, if you feel wrong, excuse yourself as gracefully as you can and go.
3. If you love your first partner, that's great. If you don't, that's okay, too. Just be absolutely sure that **that** person is one you want to remember forever, cuz everyone remembers who thier first was, and where they were, and whether it was day or night or whether they didn't know cuz they were too fucked up.
4. Relax. It gets to be more fun the more you know about it and the more you do it. In this case, practice does indeed make perfect.
2. Make sure you **want** to do it. It's always okay to back out of any sexual situation at any time. Even if he's got his cock inside you and is pumping away having a great time, if you feel wrong, excuse yourself as gracefully as you can and go.
3. If you love your first partner, that's great. If you don't, that's okay, too. Just be absolutely sure that **that** person is one you want to remember forever, cuz everyone remembers who thier first was, and where they were, and whether it was day or night or whether they didn't know cuz they were too fucked up.
4. Relax. It gets to be more fun the more you know about it and the more you do it. In this case, practice does indeed make perfect.
Valdimer
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First, find a friend. You trust them, or they wouldnt be your fiends, and they should trust you. What better way to go, and your less likely to get hurt.
Now, as far as how I lost my virginity?...........
I was 17, drunk, and with 2 other friends of mine. One girl. We all got drunk, my one friend went first, (he invited her over), then me, drunk off my ass, not really knowing what the hell to do, but did it somehow, (I've learned alot since then.....) then my other friend, who passed out on her........
Take that one to the bank.......
Now, as far as how I lost my virginity?...........
I was 17, drunk, and with 2 other friends of mine. One girl. We all got drunk, my one friend went first, (he invited her over), then me, drunk off my ass, not really knowing what the hell to do, but did it somehow, (I've learned alot since then.....) then my other friend, who passed out on her........
Take that one to the bank.......
Ravenloft
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Don't fall in love with a hooker, she might laugh in your face, and if you take her seriously, you might become a disgrace and have to leave without a trace...
Then you'll be out of line, out of place, out of time to save face...
And then you'll see the open mouth of your suit case, and it might tell you to leave this place...
And you could try to get a good job, with honest pay, but you might as well join the mob, the benefits are okay...
Standing in the sun with a popsicle, everything is possible. With a lot of luck and a pretty face and some time to waste...
You could always try to dance at a funeral New Orleans style and join the Grave Dancers Union, but you might have to file...
Trying to do the right thing, play it straight, but the right thing changes from state to state... Don't forget to take your mace when your out walking late.
(Don't mind me, I've been drinking and listening to soul asylum...
Then you'll be out of line, out of place, out of time to save face...
And then you'll see the open mouth of your suit case, and it might tell you to leave this place...
And you could try to get a good job, with honest pay, but you might as well join the mob, the benefits are okay...
Standing in the sun with a popsicle, everything is possible. With a lot of luck and a pretty face and some time to waste...
You could always try to dance at a funeral New Orleans style and join the Grave Dancers Union, but you might have to file...
Trying to do the right thing, play it straight, but the right thing changes from state to state... Don't forget to take your mace when your out walking late.
(Don't mind me, I've been drinking and listening to soul asylum...
Savage Kitten
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well.. I guess I am the only one, so far, that said "wait. period."
I don't necessarily think you have to wait for love. but, I do think you should wait until you feel the time is right.. and you are with someone who you are comfortable with.. and it feels natural.
there are a lot of men who would want to 'fuck' you just to have that lil notch (of being your first) on their belt... i think it should mean something very special to whichever guy is your first - to take your virginity
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I was 18yr when i lost mine... to the man that was to be my furture husband.. but i didn't know that at the time... being with him just 'felt right'.
I don't necessarily think you have to wait for love. but, I do think you should wait until you feel the time is right.. and you are with someone who you are comfortable with.. and it feels natural.
there are a lot of men who would want to 'fuck' you just to have that lil notch (of being your first) on their belt... i think it should mean something very special to whichever guy is your first - to take your virginity
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I was 18yr when i lost mine... to the man that was to be my furture husband.. but i didn't know that at the time... being with him just 'felt right'.
Debbie
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I would wait if I could do it all again tending to save my virginity for someone I thought I loved
Instead it was freely given when I was 14 to a boy of 16 who was experienced. Under an uncomfortable bush a moment that was not memorable
Instead it was freely given when I was 14 to a boy of 16 who was experienced. Under an uncomfortable bush a moment that was not memorable
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cymbidia
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MH, there are very few good Dom/mes that aren't attracted to both sides of the fence in some manner. In other words, most good Dom/mes are as wildly attracted to sensation play as are their subs.
Most Masters/Mistresses i've known in my many years of knowing such people are sensation seekers, just like me. Dom/mes and subs tend to take/need/want that sensation in slightly different ways (happily enough). You would be an oddity, perhaps, if you didn't seek **intensity** during the play you engage in with your subs.
That said, and you being 28, and having the bad experiences you had when you were younger, i say that the dewy-eyed romantic adolescent ideal of your one-true love coming to sweep you off your feet and make sweet love to you in a field of green grass where you'll pledge love eternal and the doves will coo all around you is, well, not really what you're looking for, right?
MH, please read my original post again.
Think about what you need.
Your virginity is a piece of skin - and a line crossed. Nothing more, nothing less. For you, with your background, it's a freedom of sorts, too, is it not? For you, as Domme, it's a fuller, more capable grasp on your sexuality. When you know your own sexuality, you can beter direct the sexuality of your subs, perhaps.
Your call, MH, but *think* about what you need in your life at this point to just keep on moving along your own road, growing a progressing as a woman, as a sexual being, and as a Domme.
None of us can possibly make this kind of decision for you, as you know. We don't inhabit your skin, don't hear your thoughts as you lie awake in bed at night and wonder about stuff.
Perhaps the mystique and the societal implication of the act, not to mention your own ghosts around this issue, are freaking you out way more than the actual doing would?
Chill.
Let it all percolate through your mind.
Then just do it, whatever "it" happens to be.
Most Masters/Mistresses i've known in my many years of knowing such people are sensation seekers, just like me. Dom/mes and subs tend to take/need/want that sensation in slightly different ways (happily enough). You would be an oddity, perhaps, if you didn't seek **intensity** during the play you engage in with your subs.
That said, and you being 28, and having the bad experiences you had when you were younger, i say that the dewy-eyed romantic adolescent ideal of your one-true love coming to sweep you off your feet and make sweet love to you in a field of green grass where you'll pledge love eternal and the doves will coo all around you is, well, not really what you're looking for, right?
MH, please read my original post again.
Think about what you need.
Your virginity is a piece of skin - and a line crossed. Nothing more, nothing less. For you, with your background, it's a freedom of sorts, too, is it not? For you, as Domme, it's a fuller, more capable grasp on your sexuality. When you know your own sexuality, you can beter direct the sexuality of your subs, perhaps.
Your call, MH, but *think* about what you need in your life at this point to just keep on moving along your own road, growing a progressing as a woman, as a sexual being, and as a Domme.
None of us can possibly make this kind of decision for you, as you know. We don't inhabit your skin, don't hear your thoughts as you lie awake in bed at night and wonder about stuff.
Perhaps the mystique and the societal implication of the act, not to mention your own ghosts around this issue, are freaking you out way more than the actual doing would?
Chill.
Let it all percolate through your mind.
Then just do it, whatever "it" happens to be.
Jaded Eyes
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Definitely wait 'till its right...whenever that may be
My first time was with the love of my life, the girl I was supposed to marry (before she cheated)...And the only thing that I could possibly regret about the whole thing is that we were only 14 at the time, which in my opinion now was too young. Although back then it didn't seem like a big deal, we just wanted to be togehter forever.
My first time was with the love of my life, the girl I was supposed to marry (before she cheated)...And the only thing that I could possibly regret about the whole thing is that we were only 14 at the time, which in my opinion now was too young. Although back then it didn't seem like a big deal, we just wanted to be togehter forever.
