How rude would it be?

[cheesysusie]

Would it be completely inappropriate of me to try to contact someone whose heart I broke, just because I suddenly feel I need closure after not speaking to him for a couple years?

 

[HeavyStick]

I got faith in you scc.


rip his fucking heart out and piss on it.

 

[Guest]

Would it be completely inappropriate of me to try to contact someone whose heart I broke, just because I suddenly feel I need closure after not speaking to him for a couple years?

talk to him who knows

 

[Cleopatra]

Would it be completely inappropriate of me to try to contact someone whose heart I broke, just because I suddenly feel I need closure after not speaking to him for a couple years?

I did this once, susie. It worked for me, but he thought we were going to talk about getting back together. Awkward at best, painful, at worst.

Edited to add:

Hey susie. I just figure out who you are from chat. Nice to see you here! Cleo(patra)

 

[cheesysusie]

I got faith in you scc.


rip his fucking heart out and piss on it.

Heavy! I don't want to hurt the guy more. Just wondering everyone's opinion on this. I mean, if you had had your heart broken by a woman, would you want to hear from her again, after a couple of years? Or would it just bring back all the pain and hurt?

 

[cheesysusie]

Re: Re: How rude would it be?

I did this once, susie. It worked for me, but he thought we were going to talk about getting back together. Awkward at best, painful, at worst.

Edited to add:

Hey susie. I just figure out who you are from chat. Nice to see you here! Cleo(patra)

Oh yeah, hey Cleo! Smooooooooooooooooochies doll! Thanks for your input!

 

[glamorilla]

i always say that once i seduced an ex~boyfriends best friend at a christmas party just to make my ex~boyfriend jealous...

well the guy i ended up seducing called me back a few days later and asked me out to a play. turns out he was quite taken with me. i made up the excuse i had to work and proceeded to blow him off at every turn.

few years ago it kind of dawned on me what a fool i was~here was this handsome nice man all interested in me and something serious(its why it was so easy picing him up in the first place) and noooo...i had to be a player and think i could find someone better.

well a few years ago i ran into him~he actually works very close to my apartment and as i was about to pologize for being such a shithead and ask him out he started telling me about this really great guy he met and how they live together and how great things turned out for him.

be prepared for the worst.

what goes around comes around

 

[cheesysusie]

i always say that once i seduced an ex~boyfriends best friend at a christmas party just to make my ex~boyfriend jealous...

well the guy i ended up seducing called me back a few days later and asked me out to a play. turns out he was quite taken with me. i made up the excuse i had to work and proceeded to blow him off at every turn.

few years ago it kind of dawned on me what a fool i was~here was this handsome nice man all interested in me and something serious(its why it was so easy picing him up in the first place) and noooo...i had to be a player and think i could find someone better.

well a few years ago i ran into him~he actually works very close to my apartment and as i was about to pologize for being such a shithead and ask him out he started telling me about this really great guy he met and how they live together and how great things turned out for him.

be prepared for the worst.

what goes around comes around

Glam, I'm not really expecting anything from him. I just basically want to know that he's alright. For some reason, I can't get him out of my head lately. But I don't want to get back together with him or anything. I just want to know if he hates me or not, etc. It really shouldn't matter, and to be quite honest, I've barely thought of him at all in probably a year and a half, but all of a sudden a couple weeks ago, he popped into my head, and he's been flitting around there ever since.

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

Would it be completely inappropriate of me to try to contact someone whose heart I broke, just because I suddenly feel I need closure after not speaking to him for a couple years?

How deliciously self-indulgent.

 

[HeavyStick]

well scc, if it's been that long.... leave it be....

 

[Nathon_88]

Glam, I'm not really expecting anything from him. I just basically want to know that he's alright. For some reason, I can't get him out of my head lately. But I don't want to get back together with him or anything. I just want to know if he hates me or not, etc. It really shouldn't matter, and to be quite honest, I've barely thought of him at all in probably a year and a half, but all of a sudden a couple weeks ago, he popped into my head, and he's been flitting around there ever since.

Ergh....as someone who's gone through this....I advise against it....they will probably assume that you are not there as a nice loving gesture of closure, but instead will assume either:

1) You just can't resist them, even after the years=

or

2) You've decided to break their heart again.

 

[Liontamr]

Would it be completely inappropriate of me to try to contact someone whose heart I broke, just because I suddenly feel I need closure after not speaking to him for a couple years?

Expect him to do one of two things... He'll either be open to the idea of talking to you. Or he won't even give you the time of day. If he is open to the idea of talking to you, again expect it to go one of two ways.. he'll either be polite or outright rude.

But at any rate I'm sure he probably wouldn't mind a little closure himself.

This kind of strikes a personal cord with me because there is a woman that just recently left me grasping at air and wondering where in the hell she went and why she couldn't have at least left me with some parting words.

 

[sanjuaneros]

Depend on the relationship and how bad I was hurt. I have talked to my ex’s after years, we were close to began with, and it was nice to hear from them again.

 

[cheesysusie]

I just wonder if it would be completely self-serving and selfish of me to initiate contact. Considering we left things with him hurt and me on the verge of a nervous breakdown, which I think is why I hurt him.

 

[HeavyStick]

I just wonder if it would be completely self-serving and selfish of me to initiate contact. Considering we left things with him hurt and me on the verge of a nervous breakdown, which I think is why I hurt him.

IMO it wouldn't serve any purpose at this point.

 

[cheesysusie]

I guess I just hate thinking there's someone out there who hates me. Or still feels hurt by me. I guess my delusional side just always thought I was cute enough, people would like me no matter what shitty things I do to them. I just want him to not hate me.

 

[k¡tty]

I've read all the posts.. so if I missed the answer to this forgive me.


It depends really on how and why ya'll ended.



I ended with someone and still had tons of unresolved feelings left over.. found out a few things about him that I didn't know during the relationship. Asked him and he refused to tell me the truth, it ate me up.

He came back 6 months later and confessed everything to me. I felt like a huge weight had been lifted from my heart and mind.

 

[HeavyStick]

I guess I just hate thinking there's someone out there who hates me. Or still feels hurt by me. I guess my delusional side just always thought I was cute enough, people would like me no matter what shitty things I do to them. I just want him to not hate me.

if it means that much to you.... I'd say apologize with a card including your phone number..... Hand it to him or just say the minimum without going into the past... admit your faults and how you were wrong.... don't relive that moment.

 

[cheesysusie]

You know, I think for a person with a conscience, it's worse to break someone's heart than to be the brokenhearted one. This feels shitty. Especially after a couple years of repression.

 

[cheesysusie]

kitty, if this gives you some idea of how we ended things:

One of the last things I remember him saying to me was, "Thank you for showing me it was possible for me to fall in love, now fuck off you stupid bitch." Or something to that effect.

 

[HeavyStick]

kitty, if this gives you some idea of how we ended things:

One of the last things I remember him saying to me was, "Thank you for showing me it was possible for me to fall in love, now fuck off you stupid bitch." Or something to that effect.

being a guy I would hate to hear from you if that was how I parted with you.....

cleanse your soul and your conscience....



*hic*

 

[cheesysusie]

What was the *hic* for? And I do understand what you mean. It would be totally selfish of me to initiate contact with him. I need to stop being so goddamn selfish sometimes.

 

[k¡tty]

kitty, if this gives you some idea of how we ended things:

One of the last things I remember him saying to me was, "Thank you for showing me it was possible for me to fall in love, now fuck off you stupid bitch." Or something to that effect.

uh then no doll, I wouldn't initiate contact with him first.


We've all caused others pain, even unintentionally, and if you're a good hearted person this will bother you no matter how you ended it. I've selfishly wanted to go to someone that I know that I've hurt, to seek forgiveness.. to see if they really hated me.

But I look at it like this as well.. think about someone who's truly hurt you. Do you really hate them years later? You have to give up that hurt in order to heal. I'm sure that he has as well.


If ya'll have mutual friends, I'd put feelers out just to inquire about him, see how he's doing in life, if he's happy.. that is if you can't live without knowing something.



I think his *hic* might be from having a few drinks tonight, bta what do I know? ;-)

 

[HeavyStick]

What was the *hic* for? And I do understand what you mean. It would be totally selfish of me to initiate contact with him. I need to stop being so goddamn selfish sometimes.

I've been drinking... *hic*... I'm easy when I'm drunk. (shuddup kitty... ;-) )

 

[cheesysusie]

Well damnit, no one offered me a few drinks tonight.