How old is old?

[Jewdles]

The age issue is a fascinating one.

I see young men advertising for an older woman, as they love to chat to them and learn from their experiences. Then one added, an older woman about 35! Thirty five is older, good gracious when did that happen? Young man let me tell you 35, is not older, unless you're a child. Oh hang on, you probably are.

A 20 year old girl wanted an older man - I thought I've got one here that might do her. But sadly he wouldn't get in the box for delivery. (Pun totally intended.)

But then there was an older man of 71 who thought I was a younger woman. At 59 (just 59 let me say) I thought he was quite right. Perhaps he was a dream come true. No, he turned into a nightmare . His profile said he was 56, and he told me to add a few years. Hmm 56 plus a few years is about.....well whatever it is it wasn't 71.

Some people are open minded, ( or is that desperate, just wondering) and are happy to chat to someone from 18 to 80. Oh what about the over 80's where do they go? Probably a retirement home with no internet access.

Others are very age specific, she/he must between 30 and 35, then say they do not require a photo, lol then they can probably pretend to be any age, so does it matter.

I would like to see people putting their real age on their profile, because we are what we are. I'm 59, damn it, but getting older is a hell of a lot better than the alternative!

Jewdles

 

[jbro]

very well said hun. more people need to be honest, with themselves and others. *smiles* happy new year hun.

 

[LadyVer]

Well, sometimes I think the age issue can be a PITA, especially when trying to explain to a younger man why I'm not interested. In a way, age is a state of mind, but if the age gap is so huge that there's no common interests, there's not much to.build on, even for friendship on line or in real life.

Not many people want to put their specific age on their profile as it's an identifier.

One way to meet people is to consistently comment on a variety of threads in the playground.

Good luck!

 

[EctoJohn]

My real age is on my profile, but then again I'm not at an age yet where I'd be concerned aobut hiding it.

35 is not old for sure.

 

[Jewdles]

Interesting comment - should we ever feel our real age is worth hiding? But I do know what you mean.

My wrinkles are my life experience lines, and they are what make me the person I am, and I hope that's a fun and interesting person.

Ladyver I associate with you - as I often end up trying to explain why I'm not interested in a man younger than my children. Some women love that, for me it feels ethically wrong. Different strokes for different folks.

I'm not actively looking for someone - but an intelligent chat buddy is always a bonus in life.

J

 

[LadyVer]

Interesting comment - should we ever feel our real age is worth hiding? But I do know what you mean.

My wrinkles are my life experience lines, and they are what make me the person I am, and I hope that's a fun and interesting person.

Ladyver I associate with you - as I often end up trying to explain why I'm not interested in a man younger than my children. Some women love that, for me it feels ethically wrong. Different strokes for different folks.

I'm not actively looking for someone - but an intelligent chat buddy is always a bonus in life.

J

I had my wake up call on Lit when a younger man, 3 years older than my son, omitted a very important detail during our chats. I'm not going into it here but it made me realize that I needed to have my head examined for thinking I could chat with men that much younger than me.

 

[SadieMe]

I dunno, I def prefer older guys 50+ and getting a real codger off online is a dream for me, I love it~ 60 is hot 70 is hotter! Never entertained anyone 80+ but might give it a thought some time. I don't care if anyone thinks it's weird really and it's not really a fetish I just prefer giving the gift to older guys it must be so hot for them to play with a younger woman and that makes me wet.

 

[Jewdles]

I guess it's about finding your equal - and that is different for everyone. For me a man closer to my age has more of an understanding of where I'm at in life.

Sorry you had a bad experience, and i know some men have the same with women.

For me it was the 56/71 year old, and it saddens me when i see him still advertising.

While age is relevant for me, the dishonesty is far more of a worry. Some people forget that there are real emotions and hearts at the other end of their computer.

J

 

[RiverKnight]

More power to you Sadie!

 

[2TryAnything]

I list my true chronological age in my profile but, to my way of thinking, age - where it relates to what I might have in common with someone - cannot be defined by a number. In many ways I am a throwback and seem much older than my 45 years. In other ways I am much younger. It's really all relative, isn't it?

By the way, I have never lost interest in my "older woman" fantasies. I don't think it's about a numerical difference in ages, though. I wish I could define what it is about - I cannot. I just know I still find the idea of being with a lady older than I extremely hot!

 

[AprilMorning]

I guess it's about finding your equal - and that is different for everyone. For me a man closer to my age has more of an understanding of where I'm at in life.

Sorry you had a bad experience, and i know some men have the same with women.

For me it was the 56/71 year old, and it saddens me when i see him still advertising.

While age is relevant for me, the dishonesty is far more of a worry. Some people forget that there are real emotions and hearts at the other end of their computer.

J

it is totally the dishonesty that hurts, i don't think i've ran into a man on here who has lied about his age, but made friends with one for a long time that lied about his first name...that was hard, felt like i never knew him at all.....like he was a fake person......

 

[Jewdles]

Shows we all have different experiences on here, and in life for that matter.

Was reading your post Sadie, and i smiled as it's great if that works for you, and the man.

I'd hate to think some younger guy thought he was doing me a favour by giving me sexual release. Would be a real turn off for me, and besides i can always do the job myself lol.

Isn't society interesting - an older man has a young woman on his arm and people think 'lucky bast..d.' an older woman has a young man on her arm, and many people wonder what was he thinking. Not always I know, but more often than not. The cougar has changed that to a degree, but I think only when she is perceived as 'hot'.

Love all this commenting on life and it's interesting ways.

J

 

[SadieMe]

Shows we all have different experiences on here, and in life for that matter.

Was reading your post Sadie, and i smiled as it's great if that works for you, and the man.

I'd hate to think some younger guy thought he was doing me a favour by giving me sexual release. Would be a real turn off for me, and besides i can always do the job myself lol.

Isn't society interesting - an older man has a young woman on his arm and people think 'lucky bast..d.' an older woman has a young man on her arm, and many people wonder what was he thinking. Not always I know, but more often than not. The cougar has changed that to a degree, but I think only when she is perceived as 'hot'.

Love all this commenting on life and it's interesting ways.

J

hehe my Hubby is twice my age and then a little, but I know he isn't just into younger women. His ex before me was his age and his wife of 20 years before that was twice his age! So I guess he's an 18-80 guy lol and I really admire that he cares about the person not the number. My experience with guys my own age is they are mostly dicks, too into themselves and think they are God's gift to women. As far as being equals we are he'll do things I want and I'll give up a night on the town to just be home if that's what he wants to do. I think "Old" is a state of mind. He hates facebook and refuses to open an account, I live on there lol but it isn't a problem for us. I like all kinds of music and he tolerates most of mine and enjoys a lot of it but he's not stuck on jimi hendix or only the oldies. "Old" is stuck in your ways, and "Young" is thinking you have it all figured out and faking like you do when you don't I guess? And people are just people if they can get over a number. Hope that helped

 

[Airka4real]

For me, age matters when I don't want to talk sex with someone older than my Dad. Just a mental thing.

 

[matureman32]

As a fellow 59er, and proud of it, I would ask why hide your actual age. My experience of Lit, and real life, is that there are enough people that enjoy an age difference, both ways, that make me want to promote my age.

I have chatted and played with some wonderful younger ladies on Lit, and one older one, recently and enjoyed the experiences immensely. Age is just a number, it is how you treat your partner(s), permanent or casual, that counts.

 

[EctoJohn]

it is totally the dishonesty that hurts, i don't think i've ran into a man on here who has lied about his age, but made friends with one for a long time that lied about his first name...that was hard, felt like i never knew him at all.....like he was a fake person......

Lying about a first name really isn't that bad at all in my opinion.

We're in an environment where, as well as you think you know someone, there's always that concern for privacy and you never know who out there might be a whacko.
It's sad, but it's been the nature of the internet for most it's existance.
lol, If the internet wasn't that way, you'd see more people use their names online instead of screennames.
I'll admit, my name isn't actually Ecto.

But that person has to protect themselves from you being a whacko as much as you have to do the same.
So plenty of people have fake names they are known as online that isn't anything like their real name.

Lying about age can be MUCH worse than lying about names, especially when the age of the person is far lower than you're expecting.
Trust me on that one.

 

[eric60red]

For me, age matters when I don't want to talk sex with someone older than my Dad. Just a mental thing.

How old is your Dad?

 

[eric60red]

as old as you feel.

I do think that I am fully qualified to post in this thread, everything in my profile is correct and the truth, including my age. However my real name is not Eric, and the town were I live is not correct, that is for the reason of saving embarrassment to anybody who accidently came across me and recognised my photo. They would have to admit being here and having erotic desires

It in some ways it protects me because in a small commuity, I am well known and like a certian amount of mystery.


pm me anybody who would like to discuss the matter.

 

[lantern88]

I honestly don't believe in an age being too old. I am 24 years old and yes I do prefer and love mature women. But it has nothing to do with me wanting a cougar or sugar mama or anything like that. I have always found myself more attracted to mature women because most are smarter, classier, know what they want in life and in a relationship.

 

[eric60red]

I honestly don't believe in an age being too old. I am 24 years old and yes I do prefer and love mature women. But it has nothing to do with me wanting a cougar or sugar mama or anything like that. I have always found myself more attracted to mature women because most are smarter, classier, know what they want in life and in a relationship.

That wasnt the question, "How Old is Old"

 

[southern_gal]

That wasnt the question, "How Old is Old"

He did answer it in his first sentence. He said he did not believe in an age being too old. So with regard to his opinion, he did answer it. My feeling of old changes as I believe it likely does for many of us. When I went to college, 40 was old. As of Sept of last year, it is decidedly NOT old. I am not really sure what I define as old now, but if I had to pick a number, I would say mid 70's.