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[bluemuse]

I also don't understand why this person didn't just omit the information in his profile if he was going to get "creative" about it. Hellooooo.....anybody in there???

 

[k¡tty]

I also don't understand why this person didn't just omit the information in his profile if he was going to get "creative" about it. Hellooooo.....anybody in there???

We don't understand because we are normal. lol


I've informed emi about this, having called her cellie four times I finally got through.

As I said to her I swear I think now I just need to keep a notebook on anyone I start to talk with at any length.. as a reference to go back and look at if something doesn't match up.

There were a few comments made by him that I wondered about.. they were inconsistant with a few 'stories' he'd told me about. At the time I shrugged it off, that I hadn't been paying close attention to what he'd said and I might have misunderstood. I realize now that I hadn't... that in fact he forgot his stories and jumbled them up together.

The *funny* thing is I would have still liked him, still have been his friend had he told me everything he has in his profile. None of that would have mattered. I'm not even sure what his game was.. he never ever tried to cyber me. But yet he latched onto me from the beginning. We often chatted on the phone.

A minor mistake on his profile wouldn't have been a big deal.. heck someone clicked on my own awhile back and questioned me about something I had on there. That my marital status still says married.. but they could see that I hadn't changed it since I had become separated. I immediately rectified it.

 

[watergirl]

Poor kitty.

On the other hand, at least you KNOW now. Would you rather be blissfully ignorant?

And don't give up hope - some lit folks are exactly what they claim to be.

 

[Bidin~Time]

And don't give up hope - some lit folks are exactly what they claim to be.

Oddly enough, this may be the spookiest thing I've read in a while.

 

[Bindii]

I rarely check profiles, I also tend to believe everything that I'm told.
Am I naive? Perhaps so. Its just that it doesn't occur to me to make up lies about who I am and what I do, I presume that others are the same.
Obviously not.

 

[k¡tty]

Oddly enough, this may be the spookiest thing I've read in a while.

LMAO

True.



I know watergirl.. and no it isn't a great shock that someone from ol has lied. lol

Lord knows I've had two other friendships with people that I thought I knew reasonably well, only to find out that they were big fat snotty liars as well.

This particular person tho, is not from lit tg.

 

[MsMuffet]

I am too open sometimes... Can make one vulnerable... which brings me to my point.

I have seen the internet used as a tool of anonymity. It really is not a big deal. It gives some people confidence they never had by allowing them to be someone they are not IRL. It gives others something to look forward to if they don't have the greatest situation IRL. The problem lies in the people who are honest, and expect that everyone else is.

Which story do you believe?
I really like this person... but can I trust them?

What can you do... other than be careful.



* shrugs *

 

[k¡tty]

I've always said that I feel sorry for anyone who feels the need to lie, who feels like their own lives are so incomplete that they have to make up stuff to seem important to others.

But some of his lies could have really affected my own real life.. had I listened to certain things. Thank goodness I had the presence of mind not to.. to not put my faith in trust where it so obviously, now, didn't belong.

I just hope that this doesn't cause me to draw back further from people ol..

 

[Richard49]

Someones profile on messenger?

I took a peek earlier at someone that I've known for close a year now.. just out of curiousity.

This person had told me that they were 42 but on their profile it gives their age as 38.

He also had told myself and many others that know him, that he was single and had been for 4 years. But yet on his profile it says he's in a long term committed relationship.

Oh and his occupation.. big shock to discover that to was different from what he'd said.

If you're going to scam people wouldn't it be "smart" to at least make sure you've changed everything to match all of your stories?

I look often and started a thread about how empty many are

 

[watergirl]

originally posted by kitty
I just hope that this doesn't cause me to draw back further from people ol..

Well, that's entirely up to you. Gee, I hope that Klingon tractor beam doesn't cause me to be pulled out of the course I have set for myself!

I often think women's intuition is the most underrated thing - it's great, when I have the sense to listen to it - I don't need to go verifying things people say, or accusing them of lying. If a relationship stresses me out and makes me worried and distrustful and unhappy, I have choices. Talk to them; ask my friends for advice; or just let things drift apart and go away on their own.

And if I'm wrong about the person, and they are a good caring friend, they'll notice I'm less in touch with them, and hopefully say, "Hey - is something bothering you???" If they drift off, too - well, it wasn't meant to be, I guess.

 

[Lancecastor]

i'm still waiting for a damp panty moment from you, lance.

Patience. You'll know when it arrives.

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

Drat.

I feel the need to confess.

I am not yellow. I don't wear a helmet with horns. I'm not really a Viking.



I am actually green. My helmet has a visor, but no horns. I am actually a fictional character from Arthurian legend.


I am so ashamed.

 

[k¡tty]

Drat.

I feel the need to confess.

I am not yellow. I don't wear a helmet with horns. I'm not really a Viking.



I am actually green. My helmet has a visor, but no horns. I am actually a fictional character from Arthurian legend.


I am so ashamed.

*sob*

I don't even know you anymore!