How Much Sex Is Too Much?

[clistenovena]

Is There Such a Thing as Too Many?

New Title: Is there Such A Thing as Too Many Sex Partners?

Hi all. There may be a similar post somewhere around here, but I couldn't find it in the search. I thought I'd put it out there.

I was reading an article (this one) about a survey taken in the U.S. and Europe regarding sexual history.

The purpose: "In an attempt to define the "ideal" number of previous partners, respondents were asked how many partners they would want their partners to have had."

I was a bit curious about the numbers in the article's survey, and it made me wonder about the difference out there and with attitudes in Lit. The question here is a bit of a change up from the article's query: Is there an ideal number of sex partners you think you or another should have? Does it make a difference at all how many partners one has had?

Thanks in advance for the responses.

 

[Gwanji16]

Interesting

Hi, Nova

Interesting idea, but perhaps you could ask the question differently, because your proposed answers re all yes, not allowing for an option that there may be no ideal number, which is what I would propose. For some, it might be one, or three, or nine. But you are on the right track. I would ask what is the ideal number of sex partners? There may not be one for some; for others, perhaps. Worth exploring, so thanks for the poll!

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

D(.)(.)

How Much Sex Is Too Much?
The title asks one thing while the poll another.

 

[clistenovena]

Hi, Nova
because your proposed answers re all yes, not allowing for an option that there may be no ideal number,

Hi, Gwangi!

I rather thought the "shag as many as possible" option allowed for the "no ideal number" idea.

 

[RaynieJ]

I don't understand the question.

 

[suckonsimon]

Surely the sense anyone has about what might be 'ideal' is governed by their current experience. My wife and I neither of us had previous partners and, because we have learned how to be a fantastic lay for each other, we don't feel we have in any way missed out. So, for each of us 'no previous' is just fine.

If on the other hand someone feels that their SO would be 'more' for them if they had had more experience, he or she might feel differently about what is 'ideal'.

 

[screwher]

My wife

It depends on where we were during our relationship . During the first couple years I would have said 5 or less. My wife had one man before and then I was thrilled with her inexperience. But with time people change , attitudes change. Now I wish she had a more active sex life before me and continued into our marriage. Now I'd say the more the merrier!

 

[SquirtnBrat]

The article was an interesting read. Women in the UK average more partners then the males? Nice!! Also, the numbers they came up with was for the others whole life?! That doesn't seem like many to me.
I can agree on the point that a partners' experience would be best if matched well with my own.
Honestly, I don't care how you got good at sex, as long as you are good! I never asked partners the stats. I cared more about the last time they got tested!

 

[clistenovena]

Thanks for the interesting feedback. When I read the article, I wondered how it would all be different with a rather sexually biased group like exists here in Lit. As I mentioned to a fellow poster, I was trying to extrapolate the commonalities between what the article put forth and my views whether there was such an "ideal" number. It was rather a clumsy toss from my thoughts to the thread.

Thanks to those who looked beyond to offer their thoughts. it's been quite fascinating to see the thoughts from this vantage point.

...we have learned how to be a fantastic lay for each other, we don't feel we have in any way missed out. So, for each of us 'no previous' is just fine.
If on the other hand someone feels that their SO would be 'more' for them if they had had more experience, he or she might feel differently about what is 'ideal'.

I was hoping someone with this viewpoint would contribute their thoughts. Invaluable insight. Thank you.

But with time people change , attitudes change. Now I wish she had a more active sex life before me and continued into our marriage. Now I'd say the more the merrier!

And this comment is brilliant. How things change over time between people. Hindsight, right?

The article was an interesting read. Women in the UK average more partners then the males? Nice!!

I was surprised by that as well! So much for "proper British" it seems.

Also, the numbers they came up with was for the others whole life?! That doesn't seem like many to me.

I know, right? That was surprising for me as well.

Honestly, I don't care how you got good at sex, as long as you are good!

Best comment ever!

I cared more about the last time they got tested!

Smartest comment ever.

Thanks, everyone.!

 

[live4thebj]

Too much is when even after her sucking it still won't rise for it had enough, that is when it's too much. That has yet to happen.

 

[Grizzly_Bear]

When you find one, keep them. If they are right for you, then one is enough. If not, then as many as it takes.

 

[Arianne6947]

If I pass out from sex I guess that was enough, but hey I'm still a warm body so have fun

 

[policywank]

Enough to gain a balanced perspective on sexual matters. Then keep going as you are being safe and enjoying yourself.

And beware the prospective partner that ranks your number higher than your character, especially those who think one automatically has something to do with the other.

 

[clistenovena]

And beware the prospective partner that ranks your number higher than your character, especially those who think one automatically has something to do with the other.

This! All day! I thought the same as I read the article. If the words "too promiscuous" are in your vernacular, then I might think you're a bit judgmental about others because of their sexual history.

 

[Gwanji16]

Hi, Gwangi!

I rather thought the "shag as many as possible" option allowed for the "no ideal number" idea.

Ha! Touche! Good clarification!

 

[clistenovena]

Ha! Touche! Good clarification!

Sweet you.

 

[L0GIC]

Nothing about this post makes sense, but I'll answer anyway. This guy would argue that there is a thing as too many orgasms. Now, it's not "sex." However, I'm sure he never wants sex again. Enjoy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfhmG_9ZqAs

 

[Hulk781]

If it's quality you're given you don't need to have soo many partners. They will continuously come back for more and more. In saying that I am no way judging I am no moral standard when it comes to sex. That is my greatest sin and sometimes I still work on.

 

[clistenovena]

Nothing about this post makes sense, but I'll answer anyway.

I don't make much sense to myself most days...so, okay.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfhmG_9ZqAs[

Holy orgasmic hell, Batman!

I once saw a documentary much the same, but it was a female suffering with the same condition. I'm slightly surprised the man seemed as traumatised by it all as the woman was.

If it's quality you're given you don't need to have so many partners. They will continuously come back for more and more.

Now there's a statement. I wonder? Is it a quality that in innate, or can it be developed? A bit of both? Thanks for the thought.

 

[Hulk781]

I don't make much sense to myself most days...so, okay.

Holy orgasmic hell, Batman!

I once saw a documentary much the same, but it was a female suffering with the same condition. I'm slightly surprised the man seemed as traumatised by it all as the woman was.


Now there's a statement. I wonder? Is it a quality that in innate, or can it be developed? A bit of both? Thanks for the thought.

Certain things can be developed. If you love seeing your woman cum you can learn where the spot is. When I finger my girl while shes laying on her back. My fingers go inside her pussy and on an almost like saying come here with my fingers and that's her spot. I study and pay attention. I also listen to professionals about sex and read articles. I also watched certain females who love sex on a documentary syle scene. I especially learned from Porn Star Nina Hartley not watching her have sex but talking about sex. I need for my woman to enjoy sex otherwise I can't enjoy the sex.

 

[Jamiegeo]

Interesting topic Heres my 'Handgrenades worth'.
I abstained from voting as i dont think there is a quantifiable 'ideal number'. (Sorry Nova ::ROSE:: )

If its purely physical ive met people with confirmed big figures that were shockingly bad at giving pleasure(to my liking at least).. And then one or 2 that have limited experience and been wonderful.

If its mental and physical: it has NO bearing i believe both moralistically and materially. Virginal Kindred spirits that find each other are going to appreciate each other just as much and maybe even more than 2 experienced romancers are i feel.

Ps(i don't have a HUGE one.......Number i mean;-) )

 

[clistenovena]

Certain things can be developed... I study and pay attention. I also listen to professionals about sex and read articles... I need for my woman to enjoy sex otherwise I can't enjoy the sex.

That is some seriously good developing you've got going, Mr. Hulk.

~rushes to research "how to make a clone of someone~

 

[clistenovena]

Interesting topic Heres my 'Handgrenades worth'.
I abstained from voting as i dont think there is a quantifiable 'ideal number'. (Sorry Nova ::ROSE:: )

~takes the rose~ No worries. I wish I hadn't done the poll, looking back. I just really wanted the discussion. But I was kind of interested if the Lit group's results would be so different than that not-in-here survey. It's really pretty similar. I'm a bit surprised by that, truth be told.

If its mental and physical: it has NO bearing i believe both moralistically and materially. Virginal Kindred spirits that find each other are going to appreciate each other just as much and maybe even more than 2 experienced romancers are i feel.

See? This is what I really think it's all about. The connection! You just can't figure that in to any survey like this. To me, numbers can't matter, and I don't think it's quantity that's going to determine if a sex partner is decent at it or not.

Ps (i don't have a HUGE one.......Number i mean;-) )

No matter the number, your ideas say so much.

 

[just4friends]

Certain things can be developed. If you love seeing your woman cum you can learn where the spot is. When I finger my girl while shes laying on her back. My fingers go inside her pussy and on an almost like saying come here with my fingers and that's her spot. I study and pay attention. I also listen to professionals about sex and read articles. I also watched certain females who love sex on a documentary syle scene. I especially learned from Porn Star Nina Hartley not watching her have sex but talking about sex. I need for my woman to enjoy sex otherwise I can't enjoy the sex.

Fair is fair, Hulk. You have a spot she could use to enslave you as well if you let her try. Let her milk you.

 

[CharityLynn]

New Title: Is there Such A Thing as Too Many Sex Partners?

Hi all. There may be a similar post somewhere around here, but I couldn't find it in the search. I thought I'd put it out there.

I was reading an article (this one) about a survey taken in the U.S. and Europe regarding sexual history.

The purpose: "In an attempt to define the "ideal" number of previous partners, respondents were asked how many partners they would want their partners to have had."

I was a bit curious about the numbers in the article's survey, and it made me wonder about the difference out there and with attitudes in Lit. The question here is a bit of a change up from the article's query: Is there an ideal number of sex partners you think you or another should have? Does it make a difference at all how many partners one has had?

Thanks in advance for the responses.

I don't think it helps much to know numbers. Honestly, I don't know mine. I didn't count and there were times where I was with several men in a row or even simultaneously, during college and the few years after. I do think it makes a lot of difference how many partners someone has had, but the difference it makes can't be defined. For some people it effects them badly, for others it doesn't. For some, like me, it sort of trained me for my husband. So I think it depends on factors that can't even really be identified, much less quantified.