How much is too much?

[curious2know]

I realize at this point my life, that I have missed out on being fully penetrated, both in length and width and I hope to recitfy this situation by placing an ad in" Adult Friend Finder".

I realize that every woman is different in their anatomy and one size fits all, will not work, but information must be available as to how one can make this determination, either through personal knowledge or a website that provides such information. I want the most that I can get, but, do not want to suffer pain from the penis being too long and hurting .

This is a serious question and not an invitation for males to respond, telling me of their atributes and what they can do for me- period . But, if they can provide the information requested I will appreciate their input;otherwiseI hope to hear from females that are knowable .

Thank you.

 

[silverwhisper]

let me ask a stupid question: have you tried using toys first to see how big you want something to be?

ed

 

[curious2know]

measuring

Thank you for your reply and your response was certailny not stupid, it made sense and I should have thought of it myself, but, the problem being is that I do not own a vibrator and having to go through the elimanation process to determine how much I can take could be costly and time consuming.

Any other suggestions that you may provide will be appreciated. There must be websites that provide general information about this subject without going into individual specifics which I realize would be impossible . But, if the information is available, I want to know as much as possible concerning this topic.Perhaps it is covered in sex education courses, but, that is after my time to attend them.
Any information will be greatly appreciated. I am going to be pentrated to the maximum extent and hope I can make an educated decision regarding this.
Ther have to be women faced with this decision that have proceded with satisfactory results.

I have no intention of fucking anybody and everybody until I find the right fit is found and therein lies the problem- I am a loving housewife who just wants to have been there and done that.

Please?

 

[silverwhisper]

well, you've clearly been with at least one guy. how big was he and was it what you wanted? did you want more?

btw: if you go the toy route, note that the size of the dildo <> the ideal size for a man.

ed

 

[Ezzy]

well, you've clearly been with at least one guy. how big was he and was it what you wanted? did you want more?

btw: if you go the toy route, note that the size of the dildo <> the ideal size for a man.

ed

This is also a thread by Curious2know!

Hidden deisires

This post has no relevence what-so-ever and does not deserve a reponse, but, if anyone cares to , I will be appreciative.

Perhaps, this may be applicable to some one other than me- I am a male, married,and enjoyed wearing my wifes's under garments in private, until she caught me , which ended our sexual life, i to this point, consisted of my phantasing of my being the one being fucked, rather than her,unknowingly to her.

After the demise of our intercouse, since she conculded that Iwas a pervet.

I resorted to reading erotic stories where I was the female.
Still, this did not satisfy my sexual cravings, which were that I was female to the point that I wanted my breasts enhanced and to be a female without eleminating my male sexual parts.

This sounded impossible until I was made aware of transexuals existed.

I have not been there, but fully intend to do so- I want to be fucked in the ass while masturbating- to me this is the best of both worlds, I only wish that I realized my sexual inclations while younger in the hopes that it may have actually happened.

Anyway, I can hope for the best.

The stretchability of the anus is much less than that of a vagina, and therefore you might want to re-address the question of what size fits, with that in mind!

 

[rthnck]

Different strokes for different folks

I certainly will be excited to read some of the female perspectives here. IMHO this is such a personal thing it really can't be answered by anyone but you. The scientific community agrees that the vagina will stretch to fit. With practice women can take entire fists.

At the risk of being accused of taking the easy way out, there are numerous threads here that discuss this topic.

There are several threads here that might be of interest:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=14204
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=274466
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=244573
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=62512
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=149430
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=29580
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=422753
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=11676
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=14204
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=321028
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=318770



You really have to experiment yourself either with vibrators/dildoes or common household items to determine what works for you. broomsticks, cucumbers, soda cans, etc.

Length vs. girth is another common debate. Some women could care less about length but adore the beer can girth while others hate the girth but love the foot-long.

Good luck with the experimentation...

 

[SweetErika]

Thanks for the detective work and background info, Ezzy. I was about to type out a reply on cervix-hitting and how it depends on where we are in our cycle.

Curious, you need to edit your post to reflect the fact that you're talking about ANAL sex so the good people here don't waste time telling you about vaginal. Apart from prostate stimulation, gender doesn't make a difference when it comes to the ass.

I always tell my husband he's on the upper end of what I'd want to have anal with. He's perfectly average, at nearly 6" long and 2" in diameter. I could go bigger with a toy or time and practice, but don't have any desire to, since he satisfies me.

There are statistics on the length of the average rectum; it looks like most credible sources say it's around 6-8 inches, but yours may be 4 or 10 inches. Pounding the top end can be very painful, and even dangerous if it's hard or sharp enough to cause tearing. The width one can accomodate depends largely on procedure, how much time and practice they put into stretching and taking large objects. Again, not doing it properly can result in a lot of pain and problems.

 

[Cathleen]

How did you all know Curious was talking about anal? I still don't get that...

 

[Ezzy]

How did you all know Curious was talking about anal? I still don't get that...

Perhaps, this may be applicable to some one other than me- I am a male, married,and enjoyed wearing my wifes's under garments in private, until she caught me , which ended our sexual life, i to this point, consisted of my phantasing of my being the one being fucked, rather than her,unknowingly to her.

The fact that he said (in another of his threads), he was male gave us the idea that if he is going to be the fuckee, prioir to full reconstructive surgery, he was most likely talking about anal.

 

[Carnevil9]

The fact that he said (in another of his threads), he was male gave us the idea that if he is going to be the fuckee, prioir to full reconstructive surgery, he was most likely talking about anal.

Unless he has very deep ears......Carney

 

[curious2know]

Thanks

I appreciate the information that you provided, but feel that some clarifacition is needed in that both my husband and I both post under the same name which is apparent if one reads all of our posts.aand we both read the responses.

If you have any doubt what-so-ever as to whether I am female or not, please do not respond .

Thank all of you that responded and gave helpful advise.

 

[Ezzy]

I appreciate the information that you provided, but feel that some clarifacition is needed in that both my husband and I both post under the same name which is apparent if one reads all of our posts.aand we both read the responses.

No problem, but why would I want to read every post you ever made?

Anyhow, if you can remember the size of your husbands penis, and you can remember whether you thought it was satisfiying in its length or its width, you could most likely work out if you want bigger (longer or wider) or smaller!

 

[hugefella]

If you are uncertain about what it is really going to take as far as size goes then may I suggest you look at adult toys. They have variety packs that go from the smallest up to the ones that look like they were molded from a horse. Once you know what you are looking for vaginally or anally then you can start looking at taking the next step, but keep in mind that if you are going to be looking at experimenting outside your current relationship you need to be prepared emotionally.

 

[Cathleen]

The fact that he said (in another of his threads), he was male gave us the idea that if he is going to be the fuckee, prioir to full reconstructive surgery, he was most likely talking about anal.

Leave it to me to confuse the fuckee from the fucker! Thanks Ez

 

[Cathleen]

I appreciate the information that you provided, but feel that some clarifacition is needed in that both my husband and I both post under the same name which is apparent if one reads all of our posts.aand we both read the responses.

If you have any doubt what-so-ever as to whether I am female or not, please do not respond .

Thank all of you that responded and gave helpful advise.

Hmmm, perhaps if you are seeking information and/or advice it would be most helpful, to you mostly, if you are more clear. How would anyone know who made this post -- you or your husband? But I think you might be right, it's best not to bother an attempt to share or help.

 

[Hard_Rocker]

I realize that every woman is different in their anatomy and one size fits all, will not work, but information must be available as to how one can make this determination, either through personal knowledge or a website that provides such information. I want the most that I can get, but, do not want to suffer pain from the penis being too long and hurting .

If you don't want to go into a novelty shop, you could buy a box of condoms and an assortment of cucumbers.

 

[Eilan]

Hmmm, perhaps if you are seeking information and/or advise it would be most helpful, to you mostly, if you are more clear. How would anyone know who made this post -- you or your husband? But I think you might be right, it's best not to bother an attempt to share or help.

My thoughts exactly.

Why not have a his and hers Lit account? After all, they're free.

 

[Cathleen]

My thoughts exactly.

Why not have a his and hers Lit account? After all, they're free.

You know... you do get what you pay for.

 

[Cathleen]

If you don't want to go into a novelty shop, you could buy a box of condoms and an assortment of cucumbers.

Love it.

Cucs are 2 for a buck at my market, I'm willing to buy the first supply.

 

[tryptamine]

Getting your hands on a varied assortment of different dildos is going to be much less inconvenient than getting your hands on a varied assortment of men with big cocks, tremendous flexibility of the internet notwithstanding.

You might want to think about that before you recruit twelve dudes off adult friend finder and have them stand in line "smallest to largest please".

Just a thought.