How much does writing a story turn you on?

[peterheer51]

Anyone else like me?
Writing a story always gets me horny, like right now, and I have to jerk off.
Currently writing an incest/taboo story and have had to stop to get myself off.

 

[ElectricBlue]

The way I see it is: if you don't turn yourself on, don't expect to turn someone else on.

Just remember to edit in the morning .

 

[MsNatalie99]

This is a phenomenon I'd only recently discovered, and well damn. It gets to me, because I feel like I have to keep typing. I know if I stop to vent, it'll result in a nap. Then again, in that state, I can barely form a sentence or spell my name.

 

[Seadog777]

If the story doesn't get you horny, then how can you expect it to get the reader horny.

I actually have to dial it back for my stories, LOL.

That was one of my wife's many complaints. Once I get going, I got for a long time, and "damn it Sean I gotta be able to walk around at work tomorrow."(direct quote)

 

[Emilymcplugger]

Anyone else like me?
Writing a story always gets me horny, like right now, and I have to jerk off.
Currently writing an incest/taboo story and have had to stop to get myself off.

Sometimes. It depends on what I’m writing.

With some sex I build it up like a painter with glazes and varnish, coming back, adding a bit, changing things, building description and that can be kind of flat.

BUT if I write the scene in my head first, or work out the beats first, that’s when I tend to get aroused by it.

But often, no.

I guess each person is different.

 

[MsNatalie99]

Sometimes. It depends on what I’m writing.

With some sex I build it up like a painter with glazes and varnish, coming back, adding a bit, changing things, building description and that can be kind of flat.

BUT if I write the scene in my head first, or work out the beats first, that’s when I tend to get aroused by it.

But often, no.

I guess each person is different.

I think it was the build up that does it for me. I've written some things that would send E.L. James to church, and not had a problem. Maybe the extra investment in character and story?

 

[Emilymcplugger]

I think it was the build up that does it for me. I've written some things that would send E.L. James to church, and not had a problem. Maybe the extra investment in character and story?

Oh, I love character and story stuff, that’s still my favourite.

My favourite bits of my first story are the gags and character work. When I get one of those right I feel like I’ve really hit the mark, because I know if I’ve crafted characters that people care about it will make the sex have more meaning, because of that the sex sometimes is more like a device or mechanism. I don’t get scared when writing scary things and action scenes don’t make me tense as I’m just in the zone narrating.

But working the beats can be interesting (in fact working the end scene where Kate gets off in part 5. THAT was a massive turn on).

 

[MsNatalie99]

Oh, I love character and story stuff, that’s still my favourite.

My favourite bits of my first story are the gags and character work. When I get one of those right I feel like I’ve really hit the mark, because I know if I’ve crafted characters that people care about it will make the sex have more meaning, because of that the sex sometimes is more like a device or mechanism.

But working the beats can be interesting (in fact working the end scene where Kate gets off in part 5. THAT was a massive turn on).

Like I've written one or two scenarios that in themselves turned me on. That was without character work or context. But as you said, it becomes so much more rewarding when the sex has meaning. There are a lot of writers on the site that produce a lot of very steamy scenes which do arouse. However, more often than not I find that I can't remember the name of the story once I've finished reading it. On the other end of the spectrum, there are those stories where are the steamy tidbits are more implied, or were reduced down to a simple one-off sex act, and I find myself reading them over and over. "Deviant but Romantic", kinda hits the nail on the head for me.

 

[TadOverdon]

Depends on what I'm writing. With the exception of a couple of scenes, the most fun I had with the last book was the parts that weren't sex scenarios as such. The settings interested me more, sometimes, than what the characters were doing with each other.

 

[SamScribble]

I write to entertain - both myself and others. And if the entertainment arouses some, then I'm not going to stand in their way.

 

[neuroparenthetical]

If only I could get myself off by writing, rather than reading. My productivity would skyrocket. It would also fall into a rather predictable ebb-and-flow pattern.

I can barely get aroused from reading my own work when it's complete. It's always a project, first and foremost. It engages my critical faculties, and that pushes arousal to one side.

 

[AWhoopsieDaisy]

This is gonna sound fucking stupid but hear me out:

Mess drafts!

A mess draft has no consideration for grammar spelling, or anything of the such. Its all about getting the events and key dialogue to exist at all. For me personally I write all of my mess drafts on my phone in red text.

pretty easy to do one handed if you know what I mean .

Each line is a summary of a paragraph and it really helps plot out a story. When I write the story for real I write the paragraph in black underneath the red text.

So this in my mess drafts:

Peter asks if he's Eddie Brock and Eddie replies "no thats some other asshole" only to be stopped by the front desk and have to say his full name to get in.

Turns into this in the final:

Peter squints at the blonde before making the connection. He saw this guy on TV a few years ago. It's hard to recognize him without his rugged leather jacket. Seeing the guy in a tie and dress pants is kind of alien. "Are you Eddie Brock?"

Eddie knows by now that most people who know him by name don't think too highly of him. "No, that's some other asshole." He lies. He looks around the elevator as if searching for an exit. The elevator has a door on two sides. One for the a and b sections of any given floor.

Finally, the door opens. The notorious J. Jonah Jameson is having a one sided shouting match with what Eddie would assume is the editor. Eddie can't help but flinch at the noise. Jameson stops his tangent in his tracks. "Mr. Brock! Where have you been!" The man is still shouting but Eddie can at least tell the guy is joking around, "I needed you in here years ago!"

 

[Blind_Justice]

By the time I sit down and type, the idea which had me raging hard suddenly becomes a monstrous obstacle, so vast its hard to find the right words for it. No wonder I'm cursed to rewrite many of my initial drafts and that my sex scenes skew towards "awkward".

 

[jpro56]

I'm currently on part 3 of a story that has precum leaking every time I get time to sit down and get into it. It started as a dream I had one night and right now, I can't see an end to. I haven't published any of it yet but a friend has read parts 1 and 2 and made some suggestions and encouraging comments.

 

[Duleigh]

When I'm writing long stories I actually avoid the sex scenes otherwise I'll never advance the narriative, I leave placeholders so I come and spend the time appropriate to that particular scene. When writting a "stroker" it's damn the torpedoes and you know, the thing!

 

[ChestyLaRoux]

Oh I get super horny. Like, soaked horny, but I save it for my husband later.

 

[stickygirl]

I’ve never made a secret that I find writing sex a chore but this is an interesting question all the same. I do get horny but only in my head - it never makes it beyond my brain. I will deep dive into a scene to immerse myself, notice details I might miss and find the sensations that aren’t obvious, then attempt to put the experience into words. That’s all an intellectual exercise but it is sexual if only by proxy.

This may touch on how our brains process emotion and sensory stimulation: some people live in the moment with every feeling fully experienced while other people ring-fence their physical reactions or else be overwhelmed by them… just a thought. I’m no shrink but now I’m intrigued by the underlying psychology.

 

[Emilymcplugger]

I’ve never made a secret that I find writing sex a chore but this is an interesting question all the same. I do get horny but only in my head - it never makes it beyond my brain. I will deep dive into a scene to immerse myself, notice details I might miss and find the sensations that aren’t obvious, then attempt to put the experience into words. That’s all an intellectual exercise but it is sexual if only by proxy.

This may touch on how our brains process emotion and sensory stimulation: some people live in the moment with every feeling fully experienced while other people ring-fence their physical reactions or else be overwhelmed by them… just a thought. I’m no shrink but now I’m intrigued by the underlying psychology.

This is a really good summary that I largely agree with.

I’m working on a scene that involves a guy watching his girl and her best friend in the shower. When I ran that imagery through my head it was hot (for the sake of me creating the story her look is like Dua Lipa) but getting it down, not so much.

There has been an exception of two and that’s the game play scenes in parts 3 and 5 of ALL THE DEVILS ARE HERE. The escalated bets were a tad …interesting.

 

[CurvySassyAJ]

Like others in this thread, I write first for me. I try to write out the fantasy story that comes to my mind, if I am not turned on by it the writing is either scrapped or stopped until I think of a scene that does turn me on.

Secondly, I write for my friends. If intend to publish it, they get previews of scenes to make sure, for me, that others might get what I am trying to say in a scene.

 

[windar]

When I first started writing, I mostly focused on my own fantasies, so I frequently got turned on. As I wrote more, I found that I would either have to repeat myself endlessly, which I didn't want to do and which would have lost its punch if I had, or branch into more character and plot based stories, which was what I did. I will usually insert a scene or two that I find personally arousing, but it's more like a 2 or 3 chapters out of 25 or 30.

If the story doesn't get you horny, then how can you expect it to get the reader horny.

It that were true. the porn industry would be out of business...

 

[Seadog777]

When I first started writing, I mostly focused on my own fantasies, so I frequently got turned on. As I wrote more, I found that I would either have to repeat myself endlessly, which I didn't want to do and which would have lost its punch if I had, or branch into more character and plot based stories, which was what I did. I will usually insert a scene or two that I find personally arousing, but it's more like a 2 or 3 chapters out of 25 or 30.

It that were true. the porn industry would be out of business...

No it would not.
Some people are better stimulated through reading, than they are through watching porn.
I respectfully disagree with your last sentence.

It's normal to get aroused when writing erotica.
It's playing over and over in your mind, as you type the scene.
That happens to me and to a lot of the writers here, that I've spoken with.

 

[HeyAll]

Not at all.

I treat it like a job. That's what makes it fun for me.

 

[windar]

No it would not.
Some people are better stimulated through reading, than they are through watching porn.
I respectfully disagree with your last sentence.

It's normal to get aroused when writing erotica.
It's playing over and over in your mind, as you type the scene.
That happens to me and to a lot of the writers here, that I've spoken with.

And I disagree with your statement that you can't arouse others without arousing yourself. I've done it and so have many others. As for what's "normal", i think caution is warranted before making statements like that...

 

[Lovecraft_Lore]

Normally I write the story, then go back to add the sex scene later.

 

[Seadog777]

Normal - conforming to a type, standard of regular pattern: characterized by that which considered usual, typical or routine.

Normal working hours
Under normal circumstances
Normal average day

Nice try scooter.

Done with this now.