How many women knew as girls they wanted bdsm?

[WriterDom]

Had Ken tie up Barbie or the other way around? That kind of thing.

 

[00Syd]

Me. My mom has tons of photos of me playing with my dolls all tied up in yarn.

 

[Harmony_1985]

Me too.

Not the Barbie doll thing, but I was always the one tied up when we played things like cowboys and indians.

 

[Red_Hot_Mama]

Its funny looking back now. I had never thought about it until recently but I had a friend that use to tell me to do things and I use love doing what she told me to and always was so horny by it. I didn't realize it at the time, though. We were probably between the ages of 8 and 11. And it only took me another 30 years to realize what I needed.....I think I'm a little slow

 

[WriterDom]

Me too.

Not the Barbie doll thing, but I was always the one tied up when we played things like cowboys and indians.

There are cowboys and indians in the UK?

Are there cheerleaders there? They have turned it into a sport here.

 

[00Syd]

Me too.

Not the Barbie doll thing, but I was always the one tied up when we played things like cowboys and indians.

This reminded me of a memory.

I really vividly remember this time when we were playing cops and robbers during recess sometime in Elementary School. I always wanted to be a robber and reveled in being bad and then being caught and put in jail. This one time I remember really well how after being caught and being put in "jail" I sort of pressed my back up against the brick wall and closed my eyes and was breathing heavily and really really got into the feeling of being caught and in jail. Since I was so young the feelings were really obscure, but now I remember it very, very well as a vague, early sexual experience.

 

[myinnerslut]

me as well. from a VERY early age i was actively masochistic and had the fantasies as far back as i remember

 

[eastern sun]

When I was 6, I used to imagine myself posted up naked on the bulletin board at school where everyone could touch me. I learned how to masturbate with that idea.

And apart from kickball, my most favorite neighborhood game was master and slaves. I loved being the runaway slave and would spend hours hiding in my neighbor's yard, long after the other kids had given up and gone home. I don't remember getting a sexual thrill from the game, but the adrenalin rush was something else, cause if you got caught you'd be beaten.

Neither of these experiences gave me any indication that I'd be into BDSM.

Even as a young woman, when I loved being whipped and blindfolded and tied up and covered with dripping wax, I didn't think I was into BDSM.

The only pictures of s/m that I had at the time were gay men in leather and femdommes with stiletto boots.

It wasn't until, a couple of weeks after I quit drinking at the age of 32, when I took my husband to a club, completely unaware at some level of what we were walking into, that my eyes were opened to this part of myself. And because I was a teacher at the time, and terrified that this interest of mine would be discovered, I stayed very, very, very quiet for a number of years longer.

 

[00Syd]

I don't think that the whole "early sexual thoughts" thing is a purely BDSM phenomenon. I think that this is probably, maybe not typical, but I think that this probably isn't as rare amongst the general populace as some would believe. I think that we think and talk about it more since we're the ones so often trying to figure out why we are the way we are. Also early vanilla sexual thoughts usually come in "cute" forms like "playing house" or "playing doctor" or other innocent things like "I'll show you mine if you show me yours."

Although I really remember some interesting games of "Doctor" myself.

Anyway, I would be interested to ask an equivalent of this question to the general public and get some honest answers.

 

[intothewoods]

Not that I recall, though I was into the whole teasing/denial thing from the beginning of my sexual life.

I don't think that the whole "early sexual thoughts" thing is a purely BDSM phenomenon. I think that this is probably, maybe not typical, but I think that this probably isn't as rare amongst the general populace as some would believe. I think that we think and talk about it more since we're the ones so often trying to figure out why we are the way we are. Also early vanilla sexual thoughts usually come in "cute" forms like "playing house" or "playing doctor" or other innocent things like "I'll show you mine if you show me yours."

Although I really remember some interesting games of "Doctor" myself.

Anyway, I would be interested to ask an equivalent of this question to the general public and get some honest answers.

Yes.

 

[Harmony_1985]

There are cowboys and indians in the UK?

Are there cheerleaders there? They have turned it into a sport here.

There is cheerleading, but its not as big as it is over in the US.

 

[FurryFury]

I didn't know what BDSM was.

I didn't know that my desires were okay and not sick until I was past 40.

I did tie up my Barbies and Ken, The dolls did torment other barbies and ken.

I did fantasize about gang rape and other such things.

Ah. The simple joys of childhood!

 

[slavekaity]

What I remember is at 11 or 12 or something, my mom used to have these about 6-foot black lace scarves that I used to tie myself up with at night. I was never tied up when I woke up in the morning. (I'm 44 now. I have never asked Mother about where those scarves went.)

 

[be_ignited]

I always wanted to be the one being chased. (and caught)

In kindergarten, I cried when it got switched to "Girls chase Boys".

 

[unregistered]

 

[gloriann]

I think I had vague feelings with no definition in my early twenties, but didn't truly figure things out til my late thirties.

 

[romantic_always]

I just ripped Barbie and Ken's heads off and played "decapitated mountain climber" with them...

Not sexually weird, but fucking weird all the same!

No, I didn't really have any insight into it, nor do I have much of a desire to do heavy BDSM things. But the sensation of being tied up or chased after is fun!

 

[MarshallGirl]

i had a my size barbie and would do all kinds of roleplaying with it. Looking back at it now i can't believe my parents never noticed

 

[sinnocence]

I just remember having friends over to play with barbies and every game would lead up to the dolls having sex.

 

[CurlyKat]

When playing with Barbie and Ken, yep, same as above, they always ended up having sex. Ken was always the initiator and had to be in control of the situation, and Barbie was always ready whenever he was. Guess that should have been a little bit of a hint, but not really.

My first real hint came in sixth grade, though. I went to a private school that year, where spankings were the primary method of punishment (sixth grade was also considered elementary school, too). I got one once for not turning in an assignment (only because it was my first week there and I didn't know I had to turn it in! I'd done it, but thought it was one of those keep until the end of the month or whatever assignments.) and remember feeling kind of tingly and very confused as to why it felt kind of good. It took a very long time after that to get over the "I can't like that, this is so wrong" stigma.

 

[WriterDom]

I didn't enjoy my paddling in the 9th grade. I did a lot of things in high school that probably deserved one. But it was the only one I got. For talking when the teacher was out of the room. Me and a girl. It was new school. The city school and the inbred redneck county school merged. It finally dawned on me a few years ago that all Freddie wanted was to bust some city ass. I thought about looking the asshole up if he's still alive and giving him a taste of my paddle. But he would have to be 80 years old if he's still alive.

 

[CurlyKat]

I didn't enjoy my paddling in the 9th grade. I did a lot of things in high school that probably deserved one. But it was the only one I got. For talking when the teacher was out of the room. Me and a girl. It was new school. The city school and the inbred redneck county school merged. It finally dawned on me a few years ago that all Freddie wanted was to bust some city ass. I thought about looking the asshole up if he's still alive and giving him a taste of my paddle. But he would have to be 80 years old if he's still alive.

OBVIOUSLY not a submissive masochist!

 

[smexygirl]

I never thought about it until 3 months ago reading a novel that was sexy as hell with some BDSM and it opened my eyes to a bit of interesting power play.

 

[WriterDom]

I never thought about it until 3 months ago reading a novel that was sexy as hell with some BDSM and it opened my eyes to a bit of interesting power play.

Yeah that happened to me. I was trying to read everything Anne Rice and written and was in for a shocker.

 

[curvacious]

my barbies and kens also ended up having sex alot.

i started reading trashy romance novels early on and i can remember fantasising about breast torture.