How many people here are in love?

[thehatedone85]

And how many of you believe that love equals monogamy? Can you really love someone and still "stray", whether in the flesh or in cyber-form? If you do, does your partner know about it?

Just curious, me. Had a discussion about this with the wife the other day and was curious about your opinions.

 

[mistertripps]

And how many of you believe that love equals monogamy? Can you really love someone and still "stray", whether in the flesh or in cyber-form? If you do, does your partner know about it?

Just curious, me. Had a discussion about this with the wife the other day and was curious about your opinions.

My wife and I have differing opinions on this one. I personally think that you can separate "love" from sexual relations. Hence, I believe I can still be very much in love with her and have an open relationship. She does not think she could still love me if I was have sexual relations with another woman, even if she knew about it. So, because I love her, I respect her opinion and refrain from acting upon my sexual urges. I'm still hoping to change her thinking at some point in the future....

 

[umchick5]

I am very much in love with my husband, and in a lot of ways I relate sexual feelings with emotional feelings. I could never sleep with someone, whether in the flesh or via the web, without having strong feelings for them. This is not a problem with my marriage because I simply don't do much more than flirt here on Lit.

I also believe that even though you love someone, you can also stray because you could have strong feelings (or be in love with) someone else. Unfortunately sometimes we cannot stop our feelings, they are what they are. It's knowing how far you can go without hurting your marriage that creates monogomy.

 

[Crazy_Jezabel]

I'm very much in love with my husband. I would never have sex with anyone else and he wouldn't either. I honestly not sure if he wouldn't have sex with anyone else because he knows my feeling or if it's because he feels the same way as me.

I know there are people who can seperate sex from emotions, but I was never one of those people. I felt if you are going to have sex with someone you should love that person.

 

[kittykateater]

And how many of you believe that love equals monogamy? Can you really love someone and still "stray", whether in the flesh or in cyber-form? If you do, does your partner know about it?

Just curious, me. Had a discussion about this with the wife the other day and was curious about your opinions.

Still very much in love after more than 10 years of marriage.

I'm human and enjoy seeing pics of sexy peple and reading sexy stories, wife understabds that and doesnt mind as long as all my sexual energies and arousal are then directed ONLY at her, which of course it is! Just as she gets to look at pics of other naked guys and I know and trust that I'm the only one she touches in real life.

Guess what I'm saying is, if you have love and trust, you understand about each other's curiosities and fantasies, but trust that's all they are, just fantasies. You also make sure the real deal in the bedroom is a whole lot hotter for both of you, than any fantasy either of you might have.

 

[umchick5]

Guess what I'm saying is, if you have love and trust, you understand about each other's curiosities and fantasies, but trust that's all they are, just fantasies. You also make sure the real deal in the bedroom is a whole lot hotter for both of you, than any fantasy either of you might have.

I agree with you 100%! People always ask how my husband reacts to me posting pics and I tell them that he gets to reap the benefits of my online interactions.

 

[shy slave]

I think you can seperate love and sex.

I have certainly been in lust more than a few times.

I do love Andante but that doesn't mean either of us can't look and admire other people.

We have an agreement of not cheating, although he may share me with others at some point; he will be there and he will be a part of it.

 

[Lurnk]

No, love doesn't equal monogamy. It equals respect.

 

[kittykateater]

I think you can seperate love and sex.

I have certainly been in lust more than a few times.

I do love Andante but that doesn't mean either of us can't look and admire other people.

We have an agreement of not cheating, although he may share me with others at some point; he will be there and he will be a part of it.

Yes you can separate love and lust, but lust is purely physical, whereas when there's love behind that lust, adds mental, emotional, and spiritual dimensions as well as the physical, that takes you to amazing new plateaus of enjoyment that I dont think you can get to when it's just lust without the love behind it.

Like you said, we're human and can (and do) look and fantasize, but love with lust can make the reality MUCH better than the fantasy!

That's my opinion, anyway.

 

[alladinsane]

madly, truly, deeply...

in love...head over heals. got married last year. 40'ish and would never cheat. my wife knows im a pervert and love to look at the sexy ladies here and love to read the dirty stories. never thought of hooking up or searching out another partner as mine fills every need i could ever have.
cheers,
kk