april-wine
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Scabbers said:
You are welcome Scabbers.........It's just ben one of those days lol.........
How many People are Happier with their cyber friends than their own Spouse?? and how?
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You are welcome Scabbers.........It's just ben one of those days lol.........
sch00lteacher
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This is cyber world, I do not live in cyber world. When I turn off my computer I return to reality. I prefer reality.
If you have trouble telling the two apart then you are in for a rough ride.
I have some great friends here. I want to keep them here. I have no desire to meet them, or to run off with them. If things start to blur then I need to stay off the computer and out of the net.
If you have trouble telling the two apart then you are in for a rough ride.
I have some great friends here. I want to keep them here. I have no desire to meet them, or to run off with them. If things start to blur then I need to stay off the computer and out of the net.
lovetoread
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StLBob said:
Yes. That is true.
But...
that is the beauty of this cyber world. (I have posted this more than once and here I go again.) The person you aren't allowed to be in the real world comes to life online. I am probably more my real self online than in r/l. Why? My personal r/l doesn't allow me the luxury of saying "fuck me" "tease me" or "make me cum"
But online.. I can say it all I want. Nobody cares. I am myself, to a certain extent.
Want to add one more thing. It really isn't anyone's business who fucks who here or anywhere else online. Married or unmarried. Personally, I don't consider myself married when I am online. Who I cyber, who I phone fuck or who I fuck in r/l is no ones business but my own and my partners.
Cassidy,
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plasticman33
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juicylips said:
Yes. That is true.
But...
that is the beauty of this cyber world. (I have posted this more than once and here I go again.) The person you aren't allowed to be in the real world comes to life online. I am probably more my real self online than in r/l. Why? My personal r/l doesn't allow me the luxury of saying "fuck me" "tease me" or "make me cum"
But online.. I can say it all I want. Nobody cares. I am myself, to a certain extent.
Want to add one more thing. It really isn't anyone's business who fucks who here or anywhere else online. Married or unmarried. Personally, I don't consider myself married when I am online. Who I cyber, who I phone fuck or who I fuck in r/l is no ones business but my own and my partners.
Cassidy,
back to being sweet and so, so innocent
Right on, Cassidy!! We just have a lot of small minds out there! Who can't tell the difference between reality and make believe!
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I wouldn't say that I'm happier with my online friends than I am with my spouse. I have a different relationship with them than I do with him, certainly, but it's not a black and white issue.
My friends online, and the ones that I have in real life, offer me something that my spouse either can't, or won't. They offer support, insight, argument, and fun.
Yes, the net is an escape for me, in a sense. But it's not somewhere that I go looking for the next father to my children. It's a place I come for release, relaxation, and to exercise my brain. If I happen to meet someone incredibly special, I'll let them know how I feel, but I'm not in a position to fall head over heels, even if I wanted to.
My marriage has been rocky for quite some time. None of our problems stem from my online relationships. Rather, I would say that the relationships are a symptom of everything else that is wrong.
We've done the counseling thing, and we've seperated and reconciled. We're seperating again in the spring, if not sooner. Will I meet the people that I have relationships with online? I don't know. If I do, will I expect them to be exactly the same person I met online? No.
The medium/forum in which friends are made is no indcator of the quality of that friendship.
My friends online, and the ones that I have in real life, offer me something that my spouse either can't, or won't. They offer support, insight, argument, and fun.
Yes, the net is an escape for me, in a sense. But it's not somewhere that I go looking for the next father to my children. It's a place I come for release, relaxation, and to exercise my brain. If I happen to meet someone incredibly special, I'll let them know how I feel, but I'm not in a position to fall head over heels, even if I wanted to.
My marriage has been rocky for quite some time. None of our problems stem from my online relationships. Rather, I would say that the relationships are a symptom of everything else that is wrong.
We've done the counseling thing, and we've seperated and reconciled. We're seperating again in the spring, if not sooner. Will I meet the people that I have relationships with online? I don't know. If I do, will I expect them to be exactly the same person I met online? No.
The medium/forum in which friends are made is no indcator of the quality of that friendship.
wildrose70
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Well this is one subject I do know a lot about....but first of all I have one thing to say to "gutless" wonders who like to come on threads and spout their mouth off...GET A LIFE!!!
ok now where was I ...if you dont know me on this part of the Lit board...let me introduce myself...I'm WildRose...and prbly the oldest person on this site...and I can speak for myself what happens with online relationships....I was married for 49!! yes 49 years....got a computer about 3 years ago..simply to email friends..got involved ...started meeting people on line and talking to them...and when I mentioned the fact that my marriage had reached a brother-sister relationship and had been that way for the last 16 years..I got lots of advice..not just from men but from my 2 dearest gal friends...whom I have never met in person...but I slowly found out that I wasnt too old to have a life of my own...with some romance still in it...that just because you reached a certain age..it didnt mean the end of sexual fulfillment too....I made the decision after being involved for awhile online...althou I am not with the person...I haven't regretted my decision to leave..in the past year I had had at least 5 marriage proposals...met many new people and enjoy my freedom...
ok now where was I ...if you dont know me on this part of the Lit board...let me introduce myself...I'm WildRose...and prbly the oldest person on this site...and I can speak for myself what happens with online relationships....I was married for 49!! yes 49 years....got a computer about 3 years ago..simply to email friends..got involved ...started meeting people on line and talking to them...and when I mentioned the fact that my marriage had reached a brother-sister relationship and had been that way for the last 16 years..I got lots of advice..not just from men but from my 2 dearest gal friends...whom I have never met in person...but I slowly found out that I wasnt too old to have a life of my own...with some romance still in it...that just because you reached a certain age..it didnt mean the end of sexual fulfillment too....I made the decision after being involved for awhile online...althou I am not with the person...I haven't regretted my decision to leave..in the past year I had had at least 5 marriage proposals...met many new people and enjoy my freedom...
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You are a fucking bitch. Go to hell.
You are a fucking bitch. Go to hell.
KillerMuffin
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I adore my online friends as much as I adore my offline friends. Maybe a little more because the online ones just don't interfere with my writing like my offline friends do. It's one of those things.
But the StudMuffin is all mine and I'm all his. He gets the best parts of me. I reserve all the important stuff for him. When I have a problem or I feel lonely, I talk to him, not to any of my friends, offline or on. He loves me when I'm happy and he loves me when I'm using words to fillet him like a trout. That acceptance of me, all of me, is what love is. He gets the same from me as well.
I wish I could share Lit with him like Wizzie and Skitten and Laurel and Manu do, but he doesn't like it here very much and I don't think all ya'll would like him much either. He visits and he reads over my shoulder on occasion, but that's okay. I don't like going fishing either.
I answered no. Online friends do not come between me and my guy. My ego does, but hey, I'm one of those writer freaks with an ego that looks like the great wall of china on the front, but it's a plywood mock up held up by dowel rods.
But the StudMuffin is all mine and I'm all his. He gets the best parts of me. I reserve all the important stuff for him. When I have a problem or I feel lonely, I talk to him, not to any of my friends, offline or on. He loves me when I'm happy and he loves me when I'm using words to fillet him like a trout. That acceptance of me, all of me, is what love is. He gets the same from me as well.
I wish I could share Lit with him like Wizzie and Skitten and Laurel and Manu do, but he doesn't like it here very much and I don't think all ya'll would like him much either. He visits and he reads over my shoulder on occasion, but that's okay. I don't like going fishing either.
I answered no. Online friends do not come between me and my guy. My ego does, but hey, I'm one of those writer freaks with an ego that looks like the great wall of china on the front, but it's a plywood mock up held up by dowel rods.
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IMO anyone who would leave their spouse for a geek looking for love on the net, because he can't find it in real life, is basically just a dumbass.
For Example....Look at BratCat. I mean how many different on-line guys has she tried to kick it with? She has even sent them dirty pics...all behing little hubby's back(not for long)...and with kids at home? For Shame...For Shame
Of course she isn't the only idiot here...that will all change though...Soon Very Soon!
IMO anyone who would leave their spouse for a geek looking for love on the net, because he can't find it in real life, is basically just a dumbass.
For Example....Look at BratCat. I mean how many different on-line guys has she tried to kick it with? She has even sent them dirty pics...all behing little hubby's back(not for long)...and with kids at home? For Shame...For Shame
Of course she isn't the only idiot here...that will all change though...Soon Very Soon!
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**rolling eyes** trying to ignore the trolls..
because apart from their general vindictive innanities...
This is a great conversation you're all making me smile alot.
Go Rosie Go!
This is a "fresh" topic for me, until i came here..
i hadn't cybered, LOL,no the pun wasn't intended
It hadn't interested me, now it does, i met someone on here that i'm very, very fond of.
I know little secrets about him, i hear about his day often, i tell him my troubles, and my triumphs, we share alot more in text than i would feel comfortable sharing in real life with another man, But that's the point..it's TEXT.
The feelings i have for him are very real, yet transgress none of my highly idiosyncratic ethical boundaries
it may be passionate, but it's still a platonic, simple and oddly "courtly" form of love.
Which in no way lessens it's impact
My "friend" has come to mean sooo much to me, his kind/wicked/thoughtfull words and sexy images have earned him a place in my heart forever.
Does this detract from my real life relationship? No.
The sense of my own worthiness he bestows upon me, helps me to keep my over-reactive, jealous nature in check in real life.
<====she has big green eyes for a reason, lol.
I love my boyfriend, with a "Real Life" complexity and intensity that all long term couples who are still in love share.
There are a million tactile-sensual memories that make up the common history that binds me to him.
his body is Home, his touch a Benediction.
I would Never cheat on him, or leave him, and anyone who believes otherwise is 967583 different kinds of fool.
INMHO..The trolls aren't just lacking in subtlety in what they type..but*ahem* also in how they can feel and think..*snicker*
because apart from their general vindictive innanities...
This is a great conversation
you're all making me smile alot.Go Rosie Go!
This is a "fresh" topic for me, until i came here..
i hadn't cybered, LOL,no the pun wasn't intended
It hadn't interested me, now it does, i met someone on here that i'm very, very fond of.
I know little secrets about him, i hear about his day often, i tell him my troubles, and my triumphs, we share alot more in text than i would feel comfortable sharing in real life with another man, But that's the point..it's TEXT.
The feelings i have for him are very real, yet transgress none of my highly idiosyncratic ethical boundaries
it may be passionate, but it's still a platonic, simple and oddly "courtly" form of love.
Which in no way lessens it's impact
My "friend" has come to mean sooo much to me, his kind/wicked/thoughtfull words and sexy images have earned him a place in my heart forever.
Does this detract from my real life relationship? No.
The sense of my own worthiness he bestows upon me, helps me to keep my over-reactive, jealous nature in check in real life.
<====she has big green eyes for a reason, lol.
I love my boyfriend, with a "Real Life" complexity and intensity that all long term couples who are still in love share.
There are a million tactile-sensual memories that make up the common history that binds me to him.
his body is Home, his touch a Benediction.
I would Never cheat on him, or leave him, and anyone who believes otherwise is 967583 different kinds of fool.
INMHO..The trolls aren't just lacking in subtlety in what they type..but*ahem* also in how they can feel and think..*snicker*
