How Many Of You.....

[Killswitch]

Have learned your lesson to not get involved in a single serious thread here, and stick to the blurt, music, panties, or dildo size threads only so as to avoid being flamed?

How many of you are willing to jeapordize freindships, and approval rating by jumping in a serious thread with your bare bones honest contributions?

 

[Cheyenne]

Have learned your lesson to not get involved in a single serious thread here, and stick to the blurt, music, panties, or dildo size threads only so as to avoid being flamed?

How many of you are willing to jeapordize freindships, and approval rating by jumping in a serious thread with your bare bones honest contributions?

You won't find me in the blurt threads, or the music threads. I may have read a panty thead and I'm sure I've seen a dildo thread or two.

I post here without regard to what it means to "approval rating." You'll find me in the serious threads many times.

 

[Guest]

I respond to things I can relate to. If I can relate or have something remotely intelligent to say... I do it. It matters not what other people think.

People usually have a set opinion about others anyway...so who gives a fuck

 

[Lost Cause]

Half the fun......

Is in the battle of wits, in most cases, they are terribly unarmed!

 

[bknight2602]

Only to the extent of the "serious" posters making personal attacks instead of simply sticking to the opinions wthout the:

You're a fucktard

Numnuts

What planet are you from

Etc

 

[juicylips]

I respond to things I can relate to. If I can relate or have something remotely intelligent to say... I do it. It matters not what other people think.

People usually have a set opinion about others anyway...so who gives a fuck

Once again, jp says exactly what I think.

You know how I feel, K. It's a matter of choice and I made my choices a long time ago as to how and what I want to say on here. People can take me or leave me.

 

[bluespoke]

People can take me or leave me.

And given a choice, most would............................................?

 

[juicylips]

And given a choice, most would............................................?

I think I know your answer.

You're a darling.

 

[Killswitch]

Argh Boyeee.......Serious threads my hiney.....Everything always reverts to a flirt fest here!

 

[Guest]

 

[AardRiven]

Well with my # of posts here on Literotica I dont have any friends or anything of the sort, but same as any other place, real life or virtual, I am myself.

Oh, and why would you care about being flamed anyway?
You either have friends, and if they ARE friends they will back you up, or you dont, and it doesnt matter.

Worst case scenario is you have somebody WRITE few bad words about you which only shows their immaturity. And friends I lose because of speaking my mind werent my friends then anyway.

 

[Killswitch]

I post where I please.

I've had a few disagreements, but haven't lost friends over it. I'm of the opinion it is possible to disagree with friends, so long as the dissenting opinon is posted rationally and constructively

Well thats why I asked this question and thats why I am pissed off.
I believe I posted rationally in a thread I started, conducted myself with class, modified my stance on serious issues after listening to opposing viewpoints, only to be flamed privately by someone who was and probably is no longer a freind.

Ive been on bulletin boards long enough to have learned the ebb and flow of relationships on them. And I have many times been ready to throw in the towel and either leave, or just stick to the safe threads and posts. I have also lost my cool like I eventually did in the thread I am refering to.

But I dont leave, wont leave, and will not stop posting what I believe to be true, and I will not stop learning from others who have differing opinions, and more than likely a better understanding of any given situation than I do.

 

[Killswitch]

Well with my # of posts here on Literotica I dont have any friends or anything of the sort, but same as any other place, real life or virtual, I am myself.

Oh, and why would you care about being flamed anyway?
You either have friends, and if they ARE friends they will back you up, or you dont, and it doesnt matter.

Worst case scenario is you have somebody WRITE few bad words about you which only shows their immaturity. And friends I lose because of speaking my mind werent my friends then anyway.

Well said AR.

 

[Guest]

 

[kiwiwolf]

Have learned your lesson to not get involved in a single serious thread here, and stick to the blurt, music, panties, or dildo size threads only so as to avoid being flamed?

How many of you are willing to jeapordize freindships, and approval rating by jumping in a serious thread with your bare bones honest contributions?

I post what I want when I wan't. Since I don't believe in bullshit here or in R/L all of my posts are honest. If people get offended by that I guess I'll have to deal with it when and as it happens.

 

[sexy-girl]

being honest i don't really know people that only post on blurt threads or only fluff

i mean often you can find people are nice and funny when they just post like that but you don't really get to know them in my opinion


killswitch part of why lit is cool is that people can be passionate about their opinions and what they disagree with without holding grudges or taking it to heart

i don't think you got treated badly in your thread people just disagreed with you but i doubt anyone that did disagree with you will hold a grudge or anything



edited to say i probably wouldn't of opened this thread if i hadn't debated with you on your other thread and got to know you a little better and that you have opinions and views ... so even if we disagreed pretty strongly with each other im more likely to read your posts now and found out more about what sort of person you are

 

[The Heretic]

I never learn my lesson - I am just stupid or stubborn that way.

 

[Killswitch]

Honestly sexy girl, when I read the thread earlier where you were given praise, I didnt see what all the fuss was about. Mostly because we have had little contact. But your post here has opened my eyes to what others already knew.

But like you saying that posting on issues rather than fluff only allows you to get to know someone is a really great way to have put it. Right on. And I agree whole heartedly.

And in fairness to the reason I am pissed off, had nothing to do with the peoples responses "In" the thread. In contrast I fully appreciated the debate, and learning experience. So much so that I changed my stance on at least one if not more discussed topics in the thread.

It was in private discussion that I got told off.

And it wasnt even so much that I was told off, but I was and am pissed because I seemed to be given absolutely no credit for trying to understand a difficult issue, and being accused of not only being part of the problem, but being the problem.

Had my saftey valves not takin over and had I not lobbed shots back across this "freinds" bow....I believe that in time the freindship could have been salvaged......now....because of my reactions....I doubt it can be.

Paitence, has never been one of my strong points, and I tend to speak quite often before thinking things through for the long term.

 

[Freya]

Trust me KS, standing up for what you believe in can and does get you flamed. At that point, your choice is to decide whether being a person you can be proud of is more important than pleasing mostly anonymous people on a message board.

I too have lost a "friend" over a debate on here. In my case, it was implied that I should choose between two. When I refused to do so, and refused to back down from my opinions, I apparently was judged no longer acceptable to be friends with by this person. I did nothing to directly hurt either of the people, instead I was defending myself and what I consider to be my rights. Had I been proven wrong, I'd have altered my stance a bit - but instead of anyone doing so, I was basically told that if I didn't change my opinions, I would lose friends over it. I chose to be true to myself, and now no longer speak to this person. Frankly two things apply here, in my opinion. One is that the person was obviously not a friend in the first place - and has no actual concept of what one is really like. And second, that I don't give two shits about what strangers on a message board think of me.

 

[candlelight]

I came to Lit to read. I'm shy about posting but most times when I feel the urge to state an opinion, someone else makes a post that pretty much reflects my views. The only person I ever PMed here told me, "It's only words" after I told him I didn't want to be flamed for an opinion. Lot of truth to that.

 

[perks]

Have learned your lesson to not get involved in a single serious thread here, and stick to the blurt, music, panties, or dildo size threads only so as to avoid being flamed?

How many of you are willing to jeapordize freindships, and approval rating by jumping in a serious thread with your bare bones honest contributions?

I am, and I don't think you should stop debating what you believe.

Just because I don't agree, doesn't mean you can't.

Although I am adamant about my views, it doesn't mean serious discussion can't take place.

The thread we were involved with yesterday, was a brilliant debate, with several points of view.

I wish you hadn't gone off the deep end at the end there. I'm sure the PM attack didn't help any. But it doesn't mean you should hide your views.

Live your truth, dude. Diversity is what makes us interesting.

Doesn't mean I'm going to invite you to a Queer Nation parade, but I'll still have an intelligent conversation with you.

 

[Epiphany]

I get more than enough seriousness at work.

Although I don't frequent threads about dildos, I have talked about my panties and sometimes all my brain can handle is the "word association" threads.

 

[zipman]

Have learned your lesson to not get involved in a single serious thread here, and stick to the blurt, music, panties, or dildo size threads only so as to avoid being flamed?

How many of you are willing to jeapordize freindships, and approval rating by jumping in a serious thread with your bare bones honest contributions?

I post on a variety of different kinds of threads, least of all, anything to do with flirting. Personally, I enjoy the intellectual stimulation of discussion and debate here at Lit.

I couldn't care less about being popular or worry about being flamed. I would rather have a smaller "approval rating" based on what I actually think and feel than a higher one based on posting so that other people like me.

As to losing friendships over your views, I would question what kind of friendships they were that your posts would have jeapordized it, and if it did, why losing that kind of a friend would matter?

Keep posting what you think, Killswitch. People may not like your opinions, but they will respect your honesty.

 

[MissTaken]

I get more than enough seriousness at work.

Although I don't frequent threads about dildos, I have talked about my panties and sometimes all my brain can handle is the "word association" threads.

*giggles*

When I first glanced at this post I thought you said, "I have talked with my panties.."



<sorry about the brief hijack >

 

[sexy-girl]

Honestly sexy girl, when I read the thread earlier where you were given praise, I didnt see what all the fuss was about. Mostly because we have had little contact. But your post here has opened my eyes to what others already knew.

thank you ... i don't know you that well but i haven't judged you on just one disagrement

i do think posting serious threads just depends on mood ... some days you just don't feel like the hassle other days its a joy to have an interesting debate