How it's really done...

[NightL]

I apologise sincerely and unreservedly to GILF2TryAnything69 for doubting that you have everything perfectly in hand that suits you.

As this is indeed a discussion forum, my opinion is that many, either gender, would feel less than hot'n'bothered if they came home to find their partner had been home early and once again neglected to pitch in.

Instead of a quickie before dinner - a little more thought could been put in the writing about having the house perfectly in order for when the partner arrived. Children off to the grandparents for the night, candle lit meal prepared timed just perfectly to be served after the waiting scented bath - again candle lit - wine - and hell why not - rose petals scattered.

Now that they would have the house totally to themselves and not having the laundry to worry about or any other trivial matters (because they all have been taken care of) - post dinner would start with a slow sensual massage with warming perfumed oils leading on to a whole night of love making.

A little different than a quickie with the laundry, children and dinner still to be dealt with?

So I raise the question here GILF2TryAnything69, how many here would consider the male to be pussy-whipped if they had gone to that effort for their partner who comes home significantly later?

I disagree with the original post title "How it's really done"

Enough discussion for you?

You see - that is how it is done in "Night's little world" - go figure

 

[2TryAnything]

You both make some valid points. However, GiggleLeGasm, my wife started this thread 13 months ago. And while I followed it with as much interest then as I've done recently, there were a few positive and/or indifferent comments and then it kinda' died. I'm not sure what caused it to be revived but I think it may have been someone checking out her profile and posts who then decided to chime in. Then, as now, I'd have been delighted to read some details about what others do to spice up their love lives. Instead, the thread's resurrection resulted in ill-informed commentary about how much work a man should do around the house before he is justified in seducing his wife. As helpful as those opinions might be to some, they didn't seem to be in keeping with the intent of the original post - so I got involved and said my piece. That hardly seems like a "game" nor does it make this a "my husband likes to watch other men get off on my stories" board (although I do like the idea of people getting off on my wife's stories - that's another discussion for another day).

NightL, I certainly like your most recent post better than your others. I'm not sure why you would assume that I "once again neglected to pitch in". Who's to say that, on other occasions, I haven't done the romantic and attentive things that you described? The fact that I didn't perform household chores to your satisfaction on that one day tells you nothing about what I do on other days. I've already danced around this point a little but, you don't know me and you haven't got a clue how much effort I put forth for my wife and my family - both in and out of my home. That being said, I am forced to wonder why you've taken the tack you have...judgment followed by incredulity followed by sarcasm. Did all of this perhaps touch a nerve a little too close to home?

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I didn't mean "game" to be offensive.. I think sexplay should be full of playful games...
and I think a lot of men like to watch

 

[2TryAnything]

I didn't mean "game" to be offensive.. I think sexplay should be full of playful games...
and I think a lot of men like to watch

Well, this makes me wish Lit had a "Like" button ala Facebook.

 

[NightL]

I am forced to wonder why you've taken the tack you have...judgment followed by incredulity followed by sarcasm. Did all of this perhaps touch a nerve a little too close to home?

I will be very clear this time. In my observations and on the opinion of many, women write of erotic or indeed romantic encounters very differently than men. They also throw insults very differently as well. Generalising - and yes I am, women are far more likely to elaborate or explain than come back with an immediate somewhat ill thought out attempt at an insult. That is usually the domain of males trying to save face.

On viewing the writings of the OP, do I believe their gender is most likely male? Yes I do. Is 2TryAnything and whatever_69 one and the same person - maybe. Maybe after 2TryAnything's first response here they also could be trying to save face by taking on the role of husband to George.

Who knows? So many possibilities...

Now if I am completely wrong in my assumptions, I still think you should take a good look at the points I have made in my replies - because I've never known of any woman who would say "Don't bother with all that effort honey - people will think you are pussy-whipped - come strum me like Eric does when you are not around".

Who knows? So many possibilities...

 

[bailadora]

I'm not sure why you would assume that I "once again neglected to pitch in". Who's to say that, on other occasions, I haven't done the romantic and attentive things that you described? The fact that I didn't perform household chores to your satisfaction on that one day tells you nothing about what I do on other days.

Since you asked.....

Several months ago, I went back to work full time after having been a part timer for years. Most nights, I get home significantly later than my hubby because I commute by train. I walk into a house with children, a grandchild, mind full of what I need to do for dinner, how much laundry I need to get done, can I sit for 5 minutes before tackling everything. Last Thursday night was no different.

Not trying to be judgmental, but it DOES beg the question. Just sayin'.

 

[2TryAnything]

So, if a woman tends to have a "mind full" of the things she needs to get done that means she's the only one doing them? Isn't it just possible for people who are getting plenty of help around the home to still have a mind full of the things they want to tackle? I wonder why some folks are making such efforts to read into the original post something that isn't actually there.

In any case, I originally wrote a pretty long diatribe here but I decided I just don't have the energy for this anymore.

More power to all of you. I hope you get whatever you're after.

Ciao'

 

[bailadora]

So, if a woman tends to have a "mind full" of the things she needs to get done that means she's the only one doing them? Isn't it just possible for people who are getting plenty of help around the home to still have a mind full of the things they want to tackle? I wonder why some folks are making such efforts to read into the original post something that isn't actually there.

In any case, I originally wrote a pretty long diatribe here but I decided I just don't have the energy for this anymore.

More power to all of you. I hope you get whatever you're after.

Ciao'

There's a big difference between need to do vs want to do. I can't speak for everyone but from my own experience, if my mind is preoccupied with things I need to get done, it's because 9 times out of 10, it falls to me to ensure that it does, in fact, get done. If I have plenty of help in a particular area, I'm more likely to be surprised to walk in and find that someone else hasn't already stepped up to the plate.

I'm a stay at home mom, and because I am present in our home for much longer than my husband is, I take care of most of the cooking, cleaning, what have you. This is by mutual agreement. He helps out where he can but the lion's share falls on me. I can guaran-damn-tee you that he's never preoccupied with whether or not the laundry has been done, the grocery shopping has been completed or if dinner has been cooked. On the flip side, I never worry about taking care of the yard, balancing the check book or filing our taxes - that's his job.

I'm not judging you, at all. Well, I guess I could, but that would be pretty hypocritical of me since I lead a similar lifestyle. That said, the way that OP was written DOES suggest that GILF is primarily responsible for cooking, cleaning and the rest of the household maintenance. If it works for the pair of you, more power to you. But the suggestion that a husband who voluntarily steps up to the plate to relieve some of the burden on his wife is somehow "pussy-whipped" is just sheer stupidity.

 

[Lord Pmann]

*nods*

That's why I hang my hat on HT; it's a wank free zone and we make damn sure we keep it that way.

Wank free zone?!?! Are you kidding?!?! Posts about anal prolapse, unbirthing/rectal cranial inversion, anal fisting, wanking whilst looking at the brown eye in a small mirror, etc. make for a wank worthy forum if you ask me.

*grabs the rubber fist and anal lube*

 

[Eilan]

But the suggestion that a husband who voluntarily steps up to the plate to relieve some of the burden on his wife is somehow "pussy-whipped" is just sheer stupidity.

And that was the point at which I decided to bow out.

 

[blksoldier]

wow

this is why I love lit so much, this is a place where you can shake hands and come out fucking! i'm just saying freedom is a wonderful thing. And you guys make it worth fighting for!