How is it any different?

minsue

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Dr M posted a thread singling out one person for ridicule and it was greeted with a rather disturbing glee.

Sack posted two threads singling people out for praise and they were greeted as a slap in the face, by many of the same people that thought Dr M's thread was all in good fun and Dr M himself.

Now I can understand completely why the list threads are viewed as insensitive. What I honestly don't understand is how that's bad, but singling out one person and mocking them is all in good fun?
 
minsue said:
Dr M posted a thread singling out one person for ridicule and it was greeted with a rather disturbing glee.

Sack posted two threads singling people out for praise and they were greeted as a slap in the face, by many of the same people that thought Dr M's thread was all in good fun and Dr M himself.

Now I can understand completely why the list threads are viewed as insensitive. What I honestly don't understand is how that's bad, but singling out one person and mocking them is all in good fun?

Personally, I love singling out one person and mocking them. It's my main joy in life. :p
 
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carsonshepherd said:
Personally, I love singling out one person and mocking them. It's my main joy in life. :p

All well and good when you're not the one being publicly humiliated.
 
I didn't read his thread as deliberate ridicule, but as a miscalculation based on another personality who wasn't the least embarrassed when the same issue was raised in the past. Men aren't always sensitive to each other's personality traits when they know each other well; so it's not surprising to see a man in this environment misread someone else. You or I would have predicted that Tolyk would be embarrassed. Women pay attention to unspoken clues; men take what people say at face value. You or I would have said something in PM or we would have said nothing. Dr. M explained that he thought it would be received poorly in PM, like extortion. I take him at his word because I've never seen him strike out in anger at anyone here except in defense of someone else. Hurting Tolyk deliberately would be out of character.

The big difference between sack's threads and Dr. M's is that Dr. M apologized publicly and without a hint of defensiveness or sarcasm.
 
I'm talking about the thread about Joe not the one about Tolyk.

It struck me as completely out of character then as did the pages of posts after it. The question then being was it simply that I am a poor judge of character?
 
Let me illustrate my theory, min:

Man thinking:

Author T uses picture of his hand on his dick as his AV, therefore Author T is not someone who will be embarrassed if I say, "Hey, can you keep your dick out of my breakfast cereal, my kids are in the room."

Woman thinking:

Author T is caressing his penis because his pride in it is a source of comfort in a world that sometimes must intimidate him. I'm glad I don't have kids in the house. Nice dick, Author T.

See the difference? I've been married, trust me on this Min. For every woman who thinks a man is being deliberately insensitive, there's a man who wonders why she gets that look on her face every time he tells her how pretty her sisters are. Shouldn't that make her happy?
 
minsue said:
I'm talking about the thread about Joe not the one about Tolyk.

It struck me as completely out of character then as did the pages of posts after it. The question then being was it simply that I am a poor judge of character?

That thread? That's easy. Joe had been acting like a jerk and had it coming.
 
One last try and now I'm off for a bit before I go mad (too late ;)) -

I was referring to the thread about JOE, not about TOLYK.

Nothing to do with cock pics in the least.

I'm talking about the stupid fucking pink belly thread, for god's sake.
 
In my opinion it is all needless, but whenever someone does something in public that is disliked by anyone else (definately multiple people, mob mentality rules it all then) they will be attacked.

Sack was attacked in his own threads, and and others attacked in their own personal thread as well. What is the point of this? Nothing.

It can all be accomplished in a PM, which is much more effective anyways. If I recieve a compliment in a PM I tend to feel it is more sincere than a thread talking about my coolness or beauty.

Now, if a thread is started in my name and isn't about any of that stuff, just used to get my attention, and draws a crowd to it, then I am overjoyed at the people who pay me a small amount of respect with their courtesy, or show of friendship.

I could go on, but I think that is sufficient.
 
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See above.

Illustration:

Man thinking: If we were in the same room, my fist would be in contact with his face right now. I can't hit him, but I can yell at him to vent my frustration.

Woman thinking: If I were a man, I'd be looking for a way to hit him with my fist. Oh look, the pink belly! That works too.
 
minsue said:
Oh, well in that case.....

You would kind of have had to be following the thread before the thread. You know how sometimes you just want to throw something?
 
shereads said:
You would kind of have had to be following the thread before the thread. You know how sometimes you just want to throw something?

To be perfectly honest, SR, I know that feeling quite well right now.
 
shereads said:
You asked.

You're right, I did. And I do appreciate that you answered, S. I may not care for the answer, but I do respect that you gave it.
 
The difference is:

Fun at Joe's expense (I'm not claiming anything for the rest of that thread, just Zoot's first post) which is completely different to:

Proclaiming your clique.


Zoot's tongue in cheek thread was a very light wrist-slap to Joe for promoting the stuffy professor image and sticking to it rigidly, whilst at the same time acknowledging that Joe would 'get it' because very occasionally he lets the mask slip.

Whereas making a definitive list of the 'best' people on the board can be construed as at best divisive and at worst manipulative.


Ill conceived is probably the kindest description.
 
gauchecritic said:
The difference is:

Fun at Joe's expense (I'm not claiming anything for the rest of that thread, just Zoot's first post) which is completely different to:

Proclaiming your clique.


Zoot's tongue in cheek thread was a very light wrist-slap to Joe for promoting the stuffy professor image and sticking to it rigidly, whilst at the same time acknowledging that Joe would 'get it' because very occasionally he lets the mask slip.

Whereas making a definitive list of the 'best' people on the board can be construed as at best divisive and at worst manipulative.


Ill conceived is probably the kindest description.

What he said. I meant that.
 
Why I don't date men.

Wasn't there another thread somewhere about a clique? :confused:

Personally I think everyone's got groups they fit in with better, but it doesn't necessarily make things clique-y.
 
she_is_my_addiction said:
Why I don't date men.

Wasn't there another thread somewhere about a clique? :confused:

Personally I think everyone's got groups they fit in with better, but it doesn't necessarily make things clique-y.

Loads of 'em. Andmore to come no doubt.;)
 
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