How important is receiving a load of cum?

[BenHoping]

I don't squirt cum anymore.

Prostate meds cause all my orgasms pump the load into my bladder where it gets pissed out later--"retrograde ejaculation" it's called.

My urologist says: "It still feels the same."

Nope--I miss feeling a load pumping through my dick, not that I have any choice now.

My occasional FWB says fine by her, it saves on cleanup, but there sure are a lot of cum-loving posts on the forums!

So, ladies and gents, I'm curious--if you had your choice, would you rather:
>Receieve a load from your lover; or
>Have him cum without squirting? and
>If you like the cum, would you kick him to the side for cuming up dry?

 

[JamiesJamys]

I could easily fall under the category of cum-lover, if you’re being polite. However, I actually have had partners in your exact situation. I didn’t kick them to the curb (over that), either. It took some getting used to - hell, the first few times I thought he was fucking with me - but ultimately we started looking at the other advantages like your FWB. Cleaning it has never been that annoying to me but it was cool that he could now finish with my nose buried in his pubic mound and there was no chance of me choking on cum and getting it in my nasal cavity.

 

[gtnlynn]

All of my wife's sex in college was with condoms, so she only got cum inside her one time when the condom tore. After we married, all of her sex has involved getting a load of cum in her or on her. She says she obviously enjoys sex more when it is bareback, but she isn't that fond of the mess. I shoot a large load, so there is a mess.

 

[Escierto]

I love getting a load of cum from my girlfriend but if she was in your situation and could still fuck but without the cum, it would be fine. As long as we can be intimate together that’s all that matters.

 

[Dreamer110]

My wife never complained no matter how much she got. Actually the more the better.

 

[Bisexguy70]

Ive sucked a few older guys and they were disappointed and apologized for not cumming much volume. I didnt care, they were hard and enjoyed themselves. That was the point and im just glad they had an orgasm. Did i kick them to the curb… hell no i kept cumming back to suck those hot cocks!! Its about the journey of getting there, not just the destination. Ive never been one to swallow so it was ok. I agree with @JamiesJamys as the fact it didnt choke me. I prefer a guy cum all over me just in the fact that i love feeling cum hit my skin and i enjoy watching a guy orgasm. Its when he doesnt have any kinda of relief that concerns me. I want to have the guy enjoy it just as much as i have. Ive had some guys say that its ok but i always make sure that i go the extra mile to return the favor.

 

[live4thebj]

If I could cum without spewing cum I would be okay with that. I save on tissue purchases.

 

[womaneater58]

I don't cum any longer either and haven't heard any complaints.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I am not on the recipient end, but I can share my experience. At my age, it seems to take my body a long time to produce enough semen for me to ejaculate, at least during intercourse. As a result, there are times when I experiencei the muscle contractions of an orgasm without anything coming out. This sounds like what you are describing. Using a bit of viagra seems to contribute to this. I won't comment on how it feels to me, since that is not what you asked about.
But I will mention one benefit for my wife. When I ejaculate, I am done. When I have an orgasm like this, I can maintain my erection and keep going., which generally enables her to have multiple orgasms.

 

[MaxwellSmart86]

There are times when my wife and I are having sex and my body just can't get to the point of cumming. Factors such as lubrication (my wife gets so wet sometimes that there is not enough friction) or my body tires out (my cardio is in the shit right now due not enough exercise) or we are interrupted by the kids or dogs. When those times occur, my wife does get a little disappointed because of how much she loves to feel me cum in her (she usually has another orgasm triggered by my climax). But if we got to a situation in our lives where I just couldn't shoot cum anymore, I have no doubt that she would be ok with that because it wouldn't diminish the rest of our sex-capades.

 

[Cupcakess]

I don't squirt cum anymore.

Prostate meds cause all my orgasms pump the load into my bladder where it gets pissed out later--"retrograde ejaculation" it's called.

My urologist says: "It still feels the same."

Nope--I miss feeling a load pumping through my dick, not that I have any choice now.

My occasional FWB says fine by her, it saves on cleanup, but there sure are a lot of cum-loving posts on the forums!

So, ladies and gents, I'm curious--if you had your choice, would you rather:
>Receieve a load from your lover; or
>Have him cum without squirting? and
>If you like the cum, would you kick him to the side for cuming up dry?

I am sorry to hear you're going through some medical issues. I really enjoy a man's cum from seeing it to feeling it or knowing it is going inside of me. At the same time though I think it would be mean to kick someone to the curb if you cared for them because they were going through something like this.

 

[Twincam1550]

If I could cum without spewing cum I would be okay with that. I save on tissue purchases.

I tried washing the tissues for reuse. it did not go well.

 

[BenHoping]

I am sorry to hear you're going through some medical issues. I really enjoy a man's cum from seeing it to feeling it or knowing it is going inside of me. At the same time though I think it would be mean to kick someone to the curb if you cared for them because they were going through something like this.

Thanks for the reply--Seeing/feeling/tasting cum seems to be an enjoyable but not indispensable thing for most, thank goodness. At least I can still get it up!

 

[Tessinwales]

It's not important for me it is vital.

 

[BenHoping]

Say a bit more?

 

[Wonderer67]

My wife and I engage in orgasm control for me. It makes me super horny and loving and lustful.

I only cum typically every few weeks, but when I do, they are huge cumshots; lots of ropes and good distance and power.

My wife really enjoys watching me cum when it happens. It’s turns her on.

 

[easyoff]

I want what I worked for

 

[CuttingEdge]

For me, due to a medical issue, it is the opposite.

My cum is VERY thick, so now more than ever, I feel it going through my cock as I cum. It is really intense now because it is so hot and powerful, almost a burning sensation, but is not uncomfortable. I am just well aware of what is happening.

I am married, so there is no need to use a condom.

 

[StrongMaster7]

Long ago, I used to drink a lot more alcohol than I do now. I was young enough that I would still get a stiff hardon, but sometimes I just couldn't come. So, me and my also drunk partner would kiss and make out and eventually start fucking. I would usually get her off a time or two. She would be very wet. Then is would be 'my turn' to come. Once I realized that an orgasm wasn't forthcoming, I actually faked it a couple of times. Two or three times at least. And my partner never mentioned that it felt different from the times when I would shoot a big cumload into her pussy.

So, maybe not all women can tell whether a man has ejaculated into her.

 

[Lolaandherteddybear]

Cum every single time. I've had few partners but each one has been bare and don't enjoy covered sex

 

[Islander55]

I am 65 so no longer a young chick but for me the important thing is to be able to make him cum. My husband has had his prostate removed so we had a period of time that he would fuck me, orgasm but no cum. That still worked fine for me. That said, I have no problem with taking a man's cum if he has it. I think giving a BJ would be the time that I would miss a man not being able to ejaculate. When I was younger, I never liked for a man to cum in my mouth but now I rather enjoy it and it seems a sure sign that I did it right.

 

[HoldYouDown]

As an aside, I've always found it interesting how some women want to make their men cum like it's a mission. Not that I judge - I think it's cool. It's just an interesting dynamic to me.

 

[BackwoodsMama]

I wouldn’t kick a partner to the side for not being able to produce cum.

That said, one of my very favorite parts of sex is getting a cummy pussy that stays wet and drips for the hours after. I fucking love that.

 

[Bettytheboo]

I don't squirt cum anymore.

Prostate meds cause all my orgasms pump the load into my bladder where it gets pissed out later--"retrograde ejaculation" it's called.

My urologist says: "It still feels the same."

Nope--I miss feeling a load pumping through my dick, not that I have any choice now.

My occasional FWB says fine by her, it saves on cleanup, but there sure are a lot of cum-loving posts on the forums!

So, ladies and gents, I'm curious--if you had your choice, would you rather:
>Receieve a load from your lover; or
>Have him cum without squirting? and
>If you like the cum, would you kick him to the side for cuming up dry?

Cum for me is an important prize, there are so many ways I enjoy it, from being on my face, feeling it dry on my nipples, to feeling it run down my legs the following day after sex. I am a mature Grandmother and quite kinky and not all women are like me. If it was me, I would see a sex therapist as I am sure there are ways around this issue.

 

[SheWaits4it]

I've been with men who cum and those that can't and those who won't. For me, the experience and satisfaction of the two of us is most important. I have my preference, but just because my preference doesn't happen doesn't mean we both can't be satisfied.