How Important is Physical Fitness?

[spartan509]

I ask because I used to be quite big in high school, but over time have trimmed down a hell of a lot.

I've noticed a marked increase in interest from the opposite sex, but am still kind of baffled since my last girlfriend was when I was still of a heavier disposition.

 

[Lyricalli]

I ask because I used to be quite big in high school, but over time have trimmed down a hell of a lot.

I've noticed a marked increase in interest from the opposite sex, but am still kind of baffled since my last girlfriend when I was still heavier.

I'm kind of baffled by what you're trying to say in that last sentence. Are words missing?

 

[spartan509]

Indeed. How much a difference a word makes.

 

[Noor]

Weight and fitness are not the same. I wish people would stop perpetuating this myth.

I know many "fat" girls that are incredibly fit, also some skinny ones who are couch potatoes.

 

[spartan509]

Well, I suppose I should mention at this point that I was around 263 in high school but have trimmed down to around 160. I'm not trying to perpetuate anything.

I only seek to discover how important body composition is to the opposite sex.

 

[Noor]

Well, I suppose I should mention at this point that I was around 263 in high school but have trimmed down to around 160. I'm not trying to perpetuate anything.

I only seek to discover how important body composition is to the opposite sex.

Oh, you mean fat to muscle composition? I don't really consider it. I watch how a guy moves and whether he can keep up with me on a level I am comfortable with.

 

[Lyricalli]

Well, I suppose I should mention at this point that I was around 263 in high school but have trimmed down to around 160. I'm not trying to perpetuate anything.

I only seek to discover how important body composition is to the opposite sex.

What's baffling you? That someone found you attractive when you were heavier?

What people find attractive varies from person to person. I've been attracted to people of all shapes and sizes. Sometimes physical attraction might come first, and sometimes it may happen more slowly.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Oh, you mean fat to muscle composition? I don't really consider it. I watch how a guy moves and whether he can keep up with me on a level I am comfortable with.

Keep up with you?

 

[spartan509]

What's baffling you? That someone found you attractive when you were heavier?

What people find attractive varies from person to person. I've been attracted to people of all shapes and sizes. Sometimes physical attraction might come first, and sometimes it may happen more slowly.

I understand that people can find others attractive based on several things. But I don't believe being fat is a necessarily attractive quality. I think there must be something else.

I don't know. Maybe I'm just hard on myself.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Attraction is based on how horny you are. Its the same process for hunger and thirst, too. If its been a while everything looks good.

 

[Lyricalli]

I understand that people can find others attractive based on several things. But I don't believe being fat is a necessarily attractive quality. I think there must be something else.

I don't know. Maybe I'm just hard on myself.

Actually, there are people who find heavy people very attractive. So, again, different people find different things attractive.

I really have no idea what you're questioning here. You've lost weight, and you've noticed that you're getting more notice from women. This would support your idea that not being heavy makes you more attractive, would it not?

As far as there being "something else" that makes you attractive aside from your body type, one would hope you had more to offer than just a nice body.

 

[spartan509]

You make a lot of sense. I'm just not used to it. Thank you though, for your interpretation.

Different strokes for different folks and all that.

 

[hashtag45]

Sorry, spartan, but. Duuh… If we were honest, none of us would trade fab for flab.
But it's more than that: a person who is happy about his/her looks and life exsudes confidence and a certain '"care-free-nness". And That is sexy.

BTW - I fell for a quite a few "made up stories" since I joined this forum. And I would feel like an idiot if that happened this time as well.
Please assure me that you're not JackAssJim like some users said. Or, if you are he, assure me that you are 21.

 

[spartan509]

Er, I'm not this jackassjim. Then again, it's hard to prove a negative.

Is there really gossip about me at this stage? Hmm.

But I am who I say I am. I'm a 21 year old student who is moving from Georgia to South Carolina for college. Beyond that, I'd prefer to keep private. Unless I get to know you.

 

[hashtag45]

Er, I'm not this jackassjim. Then again, it's hard to prove a negative.

Is there really gossip about me at this stage? Hmm.

But I am who I say I am. I'm a 21 year old student who is moving from Georgia to South Carolina for college. Beyond that, I'd prefer to keep private. Unless I get to know you.

Don't be so defensive, I'm not asking you on a date. (kidding).
But I feel sufficiently reassured by your answer thanks for that.

 

[spartan509]

No worries. I'm glad you're placed at ease considering the good advice you gave me earlier, which I thank you for.

And I am not being defensive!

 

[Lyricalli]

Sorry, spartan, but. Duuh… If we were honest, none of us would trade fab for flab.
But it's more than that: a person who is happy about his/her looks and life exsudes confidence and a certain '"care-free-nness". And That is sexy.

You are wrong. If you were not wrong there would not be BBW porn sites in existence. Some people like large bodies. Some exclusively.

 

[Noor]

Keep up with you?

I don't sit still very well, use non sequitors frequently, doin a lot of activities and am not a good couch potato.

Then there is the sex, which, when I am feeling like having sex, I like a lot of.

 

[smoothg103rd]

I don't sit still very well, use non sequitors frequently, doin a lot of activities and am not a good couch potato.

Then there is the sex, which, when I am feeling like having sex, I like a lot of.

Understandable.

 

[EllieTalbot]

As far as I'm concerned, it's all tied up in the word fitness, which is (but shouldn't be) subjective.

Fitness, in terms of being physically healthy, is important.

Fitness, in terms of being attractive according to whatever contemporary aesthetic standard holds sway in pop culture, is supremely unimportant.

Succinct in Sussex,
Ellie

 

[hssh345Alt]

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[hssh345Alt]

As far as I'm concerned, it's all tied up in the word fitness, which is (but shouldn't be) subjective.

Fitness, in terms of being physically healthy, is important.

Fitness, in terms of being attractive according to whatever contemporary aesthetic standard holds sway in pop culture, is supremely unimportant.

Succinct in Sussex,
Ellie

Interesting viewpoint.

In my "youth" I was a bit shallow, I admit, and my looks were v. important to me. So being fit was important Only from that point of view.

Now -digressing towards the life satisfaction issue- in my youth I was never really happy in my own skin. Even though, in hindsight, I was athletic/fit/looked ok.
- The paradox is that now I let myself go kinda (aka more sedentary less fit) and I've never been happier within myself.


((ps - I don't quite like using this 1st person pov I I me me, but it appeared to be the best way of getting my point across))

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[hssh345Alt]

You are wrong. If you were not wrong there would not be BBW porn sites in existence. Some people like large bodies. Some exclusively.

You are right, actually.
And that is also due to my habit of expressing myself through generalizing

 

[EllieTalbot]

In my "youth" I was a bit shallow, I admit, and my looks were v. important to me. So being fit was important Only from that point of view.

Now -digressing towards the life satisfaction issue- in my youth I was never really happy in my own skin. Even though, in hindsight, I was athletic/fit/looked ok.
- The paradox is that now I let myself go kinda (aka more sedentary less fit) and I've never been happier within myself.

As long as you're well, because health is about wellness, and I think it's safe to say that most people share your sentiments, at least as far as youthful preoccupation with looks. There's a reason why age is associated with wisdom, and while that's technically true and sounds great on the surface, it also assumes that the naiveté of youth is something that can be overcome with thoughtfulness. But the raw fact is that our rationality is subject to overpowering hormones (or lack thereof), especially at that age.

Maybe one day, some adult somewhere will come up with the perfect way to communicate to hormonally-charged youth that yes, we really do know, we really have been through it, and yes, they really should listen to us. And it will be so perfect that they'll actually take it seriously. Maybe.

Dreamer in Drury,
Ellie

 

[hssh345Alt]

You actually added a 2nd important dimension to what I was saying :
- In that this youth mindset cannot be put down solely to immaturity/lack of life experience(like I said);
- rather, this mindset is also due to fixed biological factors aka hormones, the brain structure at that age etc.


Which also reminds me of all the "grandpas. around us who like to complain : "The youth nowadays are immoral; have gone astray. When I was young… "
- No : the youth have always been like that : a bit hormonal, impulsive and focused on the moment. The only change occurred within the societal norms which allow them to express themselves differently.
- Moreover, due to the same biological factors hormones etc. on top of #life experiences, you can't just drill common sense into youngsters. That will mostly come with age.