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SweetDommes
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This is a good place to start, there are lots of people who are willing to assist (as well as those who are just jerks, but you get those everywhere, so ... *shrug*). There are lots of threads on the boards that would be worth your while to peruse, on many of the kinks and variations of the lifestyle. And feel free to ask questions ... just make sure that you read them carefully before posting them - word them carefully, some people are touchy about certain topics (and admittedly, I'm one of them), but in general, we are willing to help people who truly want to learn.
Miss Karen
Miss Karen
Miss Karen,
I read your profile, and am quite interested with your situation. Can you tell me more about your "pet", such as how you treat him, what's expected of him, is this a 24/7 thing?
My intent is not to offend anyone, I just want to learn from people who already have experience.
Kane
I read your profile, and am quite interested with your situation. Can you tell me more about your "pet", such as how you treat him, what's expected of him, is this a 24/7 thing?
My intent is not to offend anyone, I just want to learn from people who already have experience.
Kane
Moose's Lady
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kane4430 said:
Read lots! Read everything you can get your hands on about the subject(s)! I can recommend tons of books and websites, and I'm sure others here have even more. Helpful bunch they are too!
Talk to everyone you can find about everything! You'll find a 1000 variations of every known kink, fetish, like and dislike......
Know yourself! first you have to believe, understand and listen to your heart and soul before you can go forward.
Take your time, get to know people. Take your time when you think you've found a partner. Know their heart and mind as you let them get to know yours. It takes trust, and trust doesn't come in a day, but little by little as you grow closer.
Last but not least..... enjoy the learning
SweetDommes
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kane4430 said:
Our situation seems to be rather unusual from what we have seen/heard about from others online and rt, so it would be wise to ask others the same questions, but I am willing to share our take on the lifestyle.
We treat our pet quite well. He is a pet, which means that he is to be well-cared for, as any cherished pet would be. It is 24/7, he lives with us, and future boys will be expected to as well (eventually, at least). He has a job, so he isn't stuck in the house with us all the time. He helps us with housework - cooking & cleaning, etc. - when we require it of him, he bathes us, shaves us, dresses us, he fetches us things, gives backrubs, takes care of us when we're sick ...
And in return, we take care of him when he's injured or not feeling well (we discovered an unfortunate animal allergy shortly after he moved in - damn the luck), we cuddle with him and give him affection as well as domination - both of which he desires and needs.
Miss Karen
Miss Holly
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A little shortcut to finding the info you want here when you are new: use the search function at the top of the page, and look in the bdsm library thread. There is lots of Great stuff there.
LovingDaddy
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Moose's Lady said:Read lots! Read everything you can get your hands on about the subject(s)! I can recommend tons of books and websites, and I'm sure others here have even more. Helpful bunch they are too!
Talk to everyone you can find about everything! You'll find a 1000 variations of every known kink, fetish, like and dislike......
Know yourself! first you have to believe, understand and listen to your heart and soul before you can go forward.
Take your time, get to know people. Take your time when you think you've found a partner. Know their heart and mind as you let them get to know yours. It takes trust, and trust doesn't come in a day, but little by little as you grow closer.
Last but not least..... enjoy the learning
VERY good advice Moose's Lady. I agree with you completely.
s'lara
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Hello kane and welcome to the board.
Please click on the link below (from our Library) and you will find a number of very good sites for those new to BDSM. Good luck in your explorations.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=73517
The Library Link is available as a sticky located at the top of these threads.
lara
Please click on the link below (from our Library) and you will find a number of very good sites for those new to BDSM. Good luck in your explorations.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=73517
The Library Link is available as a sticky located at the top of these threads.
lara
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kane4430 said:
My first submissive was my first serious girlfriend when I was eighteen. We were very close, we began experimenting and that was the first time I had the dominant role. The labels were not clear but the experiences confirmed that this was for me.
Believe it or not, I have met all of my submissive girlfriends through normal channels. I have had more first dates than 98% of vanilla men but not as many second dates because it is quick to sort things out. If there is promise and after getting to know them a little but before things become physical, I start revealing various things about my tastes and preferences. It either continues down the path towards a relationship, ends amicably or they just become platonic friends. It might sound lonely but it is not so bad. Some might say this is less efficient than placing personal ads but I find it more fun and interesting than spending so much time waiting behind a computer for one chance....and maybe even a long distance chance involving airplanes at that. Even if the date doesn't work, I get to visit a nice restaurant or go watch a movie that I wanted to see anyway.
It is safe to say I am the exception around here. Lots of people go to local BDSM groups and mingle in that social circle to find partners. If people determine you are not a psycho, they will give you references and provide extra help so you can find someone. And the rest of people use the internet...message boards, personal ads and chatlines. There is nothing wrong with using any approach and it is healthy for people to pursue any available avenue to find happiness.
Anyway, good luck with your pursuits.
