How does my wife let guys know she is available?
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mikendel
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Talk about his sex life. If he talks about how great it is then he wont be as interested. If he says he doesn't get much sex the play the poor baby role with him. When he mentions your husband just say oh he is ok with it. Men, our husbands think its easy for us to go just fuck a guy. Now after 40+ men I know if they will or wont want to have sex. Tell her its just sex and there are plenty of men she will be attracted to that will have sex with her.
Good advice I think you are right. I need to come up with a way to tell this guy I'm okay with him spending some intimate time with her.
twister947
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Some of us are shy, some are obtuse, and some have little voices that warn them, "Drama ahead."
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This is all true.
Also, women are generally more attracted to men who appear to have options. Men that they assume can probably get laid relatively easily if they are in the mood for recreational sex.
If he has options, fucking the wife of a friend is probably not his best and smartest option and he probably knows that.
Although telling him that your wife has a hall pass might spark some interest that also puts him in the middle of some kind of of performance and removes the sexual intrigue of the forbidden.
Probably no universally right answer for any particular guy.
A nice, direct approach gambit for her that probably wouldn't be too nerve-wracking would be for her to jokingly tell him that she was thinking of adding him to her approved list. Name a few attractive stars and mention that she has permission to fuck anybody on that list.
At least that's how I'd write it as fiction.
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Married women usta rub my leg with their foot, under the table; a few guys invited me to come over for dinner and some quality time with the wife. A couple gals told me they were climbing the walls for some sex. I even had a couple of moms want me. Women will let you know.
When I did psychotherapy I saw more pussy than I ever saw at a bar.
When I did psychotherapy I saw more pussy than I ever saw at a bar.
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MichaelinChina
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Too easy! Hang a huge fucking sign round her neck!
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For me, I've found most men need explicit invitations. Innuendo seldom works for them.
If I'm slow dancing with a guy and he starts the bump-n-grind, I grind back. Then I whisper in his ear, "this would be more fun naked."
Once I was sitting at the bar while Hubby played pool. I'd been talking to a guy for a while when I leaned close to him, rested my hand on the inside of his thigh, and asked him, "should I tell my husband you're going to give me a ride home and for him not to leave here for at least an hour?"
Other times, I've just told a guy, "Hubby's playing on the dart league and won't be done for a couple of hours. Want to come over to my house and fuck?"
Jenny
If I'm slow dancing with a guy and he starts the bump-n-grind, I grind back. Then I whisper in his ear, "this would be more fun naked."
Once I was sitting at the bar while Hubby played pool. I'd been talking to a guy for a while when I leaned close to him, rested my hand on the inside of his thigh, and asked him, "should I tell my husband you're going to give me a ride home and for him not to leave here for at least an hour?"
Other times, I've just told a guy, "Hubby's playing on the dart league and won't be done for a couple of hours. Want to come over to my house and fuck?"
Jenny
I certainly hope each one of those worked. My wife did tell a guy, "any normal people would have had an affair by now".
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Oh, for Christ's sake.....
That's all I have for this, really.
That's all I have for this, really.
Why waste the time for a reply? Really!
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"Hi. I'm available. My husband's OK with it." (Preferably in husband's presence, so Other Guy knows she means it.)
Non-monogamy is hard. Expecting people to be telepathic will only lead to grief and drama. Use your words to tell people what the situation is.
I would never sleep with somebody who was already in a committed relationship unless I knew that was OK with their partner, (a) because that's wrong and hurtful, & (b) because I don't want the drama.
Even when you communicate clearly, it's possible that the other guy just doesn't want what you're offering, but at least by using your words you can find out.
