How does an aspiring writer deal with negative comments for cuckold stories

[dreamy_shreya]

I have been a long time fan of Loving Wife stories, specially the ones with cuckold theme. I have enjoyed them so much that they have inspired me to write my own version of it and give back to the community.

Good news: I have started my journey towards writing my first ever story!

Now comes the tough part. As much as I am enjoying the process of writing, in back of my mind, I cannot help but imagine how readers would react to my writings.
Browsing through the comments of cuckold tagged stories in Loving Wife category makes me feel so low. There are occasional good comments, but most comments are spiteful and judgmental.

I understand that if I am going to put my work out in public domain, people would be judging it and I am all in for it. In fact, I would want them to judge me and offer feedback, but it should be based on merit of my writing.

Some commenters just post hateful comments based on the cuckold theme of the story. It doesn't make any sense to me. Why do they even read cuckold-tagged stories if they hate the theme?

It makes me question myself: why am I writing if majority of people are going to hate it anyways?

Should I consider posting my story in other section like Fetish or Novella and escape the trolls? Or should I bite the bullet and post it in Loving Wife category as this is where my potential readers lurk around. I want my story to reach the maximum number of audience who enjoy such theme.

 

[SimonDoom]

If you want to get the maximum number of readers, favorites, votes, and comments, but you don't mind a lower score, you probably should post it in Loving Wives, because it has more readers, on average, than all categories but Incest/Taboo.

If you prefer to get a friendlier reception and a higher score, then you might try another category. Pick whatever seems closest. I've had good luck posting "hot wife" type stories in Exhibitionist and Voyeur.

Good luck!

 

[AlinaX]

Plenty of cuckold stories go elsewhere, esp. Fetish. I have one in N&N and a couple of infidelity stories in other categories. The two stories I put in LW got a tonne of comments, including some very nasty ones.

But here's the thing... I love writing on Lit because the stuff I used to put on my blog would be read by maybe a handful of people, and if lucky I would get a comment or two. The stuff I publish on Lit gets thousands of people reading it - wow - and I get comments from time to time, which is great. I love comments.

You'll see threads in the forum here about whether negative comments are better than no comments, and in general yes they are. We authors thrive on interaction, and if the comment is really bad you can choose to delete it. My philosophy is that abusive comments get deleted, while merely negative comments stand. And, sure, it's nice to get good comments, but the best way to get them is publish in the popular categories like LW and I/T.

Plus, since you know that cuck stories in LW attract the haters, publishing there is a bit like poking the anthill and seeing what happens. Kinda fun, in a way.

 

[MajorRewrite]

I’d definitely post the story in Loving Wives. There are cuckold stories in LW with scores above 4.5, so don’t assume your story will be trashed. After a “sweep” your score will certainly increase, so keep that in mind if your score starts out low.

Dealing with comments is easy: laugh at the truly wacko ones and then delete all comments that are dumb. It feels good to flush the dumb comments away! Enjoy the experience.

 

[oggbashan]

Just expect them and delete the worst...

 

[KeithD]

Just expect them and delete the worst...

^ This.

 

[Omenainen]

You can also link it to story feedback section. It’s possible you’ll get less opinionated and more constructive feedback on your writing there. But, if LW is what you want to write, I encourage you to just buckle up and publish it there. Try not to get discouraged by the nasty comments. They come with the category, or so I’ve heard

 

[windar]

I wrote one cuckold story just as an experiment, since quite honestly the subject doesn't really interest me. Most of the negative comments were directed towards the characters in the story, not towards me. If I create characters who behave badly why should I take offense if people dislike them? That's sort of the point of creating a villain isn't it?

The comments regarding the writing were actually quite favorable, since I put a few unusual twists like phrasing the story as a letter from the lover to the husband.

If you aren't going to write what you want for fear of someone not liking it, then why bother writing at all?

I think one needs to distinguish between readers who dislike your topic-which begs the question of why they read your story when there are several hundred thousand other stories here-and those who don't like the writing. The first has nothing to do with you. The second are worth honestly considering, though you may end up disagreeing with them.

 

[Blind_Justice]

Bring thick skin. Learn to seperate baseless bullshit from useful criticism. Also, since you're publishing on the Interwebz, be aware that people are even bigger assholes than in Real Life because their perceived anonymity makes them feel tough and qualified even if they haven't written more than a tweet in their lives.

But most important is having thick skin. The old adage about "If you can't stand the heat, get outta the kitchen" and all that. Don't let the naysayers and trolls get to you. The best thing you can do is being professional - either reply to their criticism in a calm manner or delete their nonsense. Don't smite them with angry retorts, that's when they know they hit a nerve.

 

[lovecraft68]

Fetish category is also an option, lower readership than Loving Wives, but a little better than E/V and the crowd is pretty accepting there as the men are actually men and not incels.

Once you write a few and get more confident you could think about the selling market as well. Hotwife/cuck does well there and being its where people pay for your material its a far better class of readership who appreciate what they're buying.

 

[Lifestyle66]

My first stories were to the LW, and the very first one wasn't even a cuckhold story (story about a couple driving home, and she gives him a BJ). It still got nasty comments. So, many of the followers of that category are negative haters.

If you post to that category, then look for ratings about 1 point lower than other categories. Erotic Couplings or Group Sex will average 4.75 or 4.63 for their top 25 rated stories, while LW is 3.57. Also, your story rating will start very low, with my one LW story in the series hovering below 2 for the first few days (now at 3.4 with 45 votes).

But, as others have said, you will get more views there. So, if you just delete the hateful comments, and expect the lower ratings, then appreciate the more views.

Adjust your expectations.

My latest story will post to Group Sex mainly because I've used EC and GS as the categories for this series, and I'll include "cuckhold", "swinger", and "shared wife" as tags.

 

[TadOverdon]

I think that if you're going to post in LW, if it's possible you should get into the mindset that the abuse there is a condition of the environment and has nothing to do with you or your work. Not a thing. Whether you're a "good writer" or a "bad writer" is irrelevant to the hatred those cats spew.

We can hate the trolls or try to take apart their motivations or talk about how things might be different, but the rain's gonna fall in there.

 

[Agiel]

I have been a long time fan of Loving Wife stories, specially the ones with cuckold theme. I have enjoyed them so much that they have inspired me to write my own version of it and give back to the community.

Good news: I have started my journey towards writing my first ever story!

Now comes the tough part. As much as I am enjoying the process of writing, in back of my mind, I cannot help but imagine how readers would react to my writings.
Browsing through the comments of cuckold tagged stories in Loving Wife category makes me feel so low. There are occasional good comments, but most comments are spiteful and judgmental.

Writing for Loving Wives is akin to walking through a minefield and hoping you don’t get blown up. Many of the people who vote aren’t readers they are just miserable sods who get enjoyment by trashing the scores of stories whether the story is good, bad or indifferent. But that doesn’t mean that no stories get 4.5 plus.

I’ve only submitted one story using this name and it could have gone in Erotic Couplings, Exhibitionist & Voyeur, Interracial Love, or Mature. Even Novels & Novellas. However, I’d written it specifically with Loving Wives in mind so that’s where it is and will remain.

The point being that even if you have a cuckolding content it doesn’t necessarily have to go in Loving Wives. Put it in another category and you will get less views but you will also get a higher score.

 

[CyranoJ]

Given the infamous reputation of "Loving Wives," I personally would not post cuck stories there. I'd post them wherever the next most proximate kink in the story, or aspect of the story, dictates. It's just not worth it, otherwise.

I fully understand that when you're not being paid, feedback is the primary motivator and negative feedback kills motivation. I would be VERY free with the banhammer for commenters if I ever did post in Loving Wives (an unlikely event) but even having to do that can sap the juices, I get it. So I would just on balance avoid the category.

 

[Andrew1968]

If you want to write cuckolding/hot-wife themed stories, then write them. If you want to post them in LW then do that.

My advice: 1. delete every damned rude comment, delete every one - exercise your power, 2. don't be emotionally attached to your score at all - wear your low score with pride.

Expect the trolls and clowns in LW to chase you around this website and give you a low score on every other story you write and post in a non-LW category - assume/expect this will happen.

People who appreciate/like cuckolding/hot-wife themed stories will read yours and you will pick up some favorites if you write well.

Get used to this - you are going to be attacked by many angry right wing traditionalist males, who believe white masculinity is under attack from the people who like the cuckolding/hot-wife lifestyle and associated stories. That angry right wing traditionalist position is the biggest load of shit. It is what it is though...

 

[windar]

If you want to write cuckolding/hot-wife themed stories, then write them. If you want to post them in LW then do that.

My advice: 1. delete every damned rude comment, delete every one - exercise your power, 2. don't be emotionally attached to your score at all - wear your low score with pride.

Expect the trolls and clowns in LW to chase you around this website and give you a low score on every other story you write and post in a non-LW category - assume/expect this will happen.

People who appreciate/like cuckolding/hot-wife themed stories will read yours and you will pick up some favorites if you write well.

Get used to this - you are going to be attacked by many angry right wing traditionalist males, who believe white masculinity is under attack from the people who like the cuckolding/hot-wife lifestyle and associated stories. That angry right wing traditionalist position is the biggest load of shit. It is what it is though...

I think there is considerable exaggeration of how terrible the comments are on cuckold stories at least based on the one I did for fun, which is here
https://literotica.com/s/dear-steve-i-just-fucked-your-wife?comments_after=11256461

4 comments were very positive, 2 didn't like the story and the rest said what they would do if they were the wronged husband-mostly see a divorce lawyer, which is not an unreasonable reaction. I didn't delete any of them. Nor do I have any evidence that any of the commenters have followed me to my main story in N&N, which has perfectly reasonable scores and a bunch of extremely positive comments.

Now admittedly, I'm an experienced writer with many stories on pay sites, and don't much care if someone on a free site is unhappy. Beggars can't be choosers as they say. But none of those comments would have stopped me if I were new. No comments might have, though...

 

[yukonnights]

My view is; I write for enjoyment and some satisfaction. A boatload of trash talk and unjustified rating manipulation isn't satisfying. I'd feel that posting my efforts only to be trashed would be self-defeating folly — self-flagellation.

To that end, I concur with those recommending a different category and forget about the "massive comments" the LW category is known for. Frankly, I can't understand why anyone would value useless hateful comments, the high views that aren't an accurate count since many just click on the story to flip you the finger and a one bomb, and the resulting disappointment from turning my work over to people who hate it Been there and done that once and that's enough for me. But to each their own.

 

[SimonDoom]

Frankly, I can't understand why anyone would value useless hateful comments, the high views that aren't an accurate count since many just click on the story to flip you the finger and a one bomb, and the resulting disappointment from turning my work over to people who hate it Been there and done that once and that's enough for me. But to each their own.

People don't value hateful comments. They value good comments. Although there are a lot of nasty comments for certain kinds of stories published in Loving Wives, there are good comments, too.

I think two things are true:

1. If you publish a cheating wife/cuckold story in Loving Wives, you will get nasty comments and, probably, a lower score than if you publish it elsewhere.

2. If you publish a cheating wife/cuckold story in Loving Wives, you will get more favorable comments and more favorites and more views and votes than if you publish it elsewhere. You will actually have MORE total readers who like your story than if you publish it elsewhere.

If you are a thick-skinned person, you can ignore the negative and focus on the positive. In Loving Wives, there's more negative, but there's ALSO more positive.

 

[Emirus]

I think there is considerable exaggeration of how terrible the comments are on cuckold stories at least based on the one I did for fun, which is here
https://literotica.com/s/dear-steve-i-just-fucked-your-wife?comments_after=11256461..

I’ve just read “Dear Steve, I just fucked your wife” and it did make me laugh. Definitely worth a 5 and I’m sure if it had been in Erotic Couplings it would have a much higher score. I don’t know so much about comments on cuckold stories being exaggerated. I think it depends on the quality of storyline and writing.

 

[windar]

I’ve just read “Dear Steve, I just fucked your wife” and it did make me laugh. Definitely worth a 5 and I’m sure if it had been in Erotic Couplings it would have a much higher score. I don’t know so much about comments on cuckold stories being exaggerated. I think it depends on the quality of storyline and writing.

Thank you for the kind words. I always appreciate comments from fellow writers much more than from Anonymous...

I submitted it to the dreaded LW, but because it's in the form of a letter it got moved to Letters and Transcripts. I think that would have happened regardless of where I had submitted it to.

Today is Festivus, the day for The Airing of Grievances. I'm not going to air any. We should all be positive. A comment means your story moved someone to write. If it's a stupid comment, that's their problem, not yours. Any score over 3 means the story had a positive approval rating. How many of our political leaders can say they have that these days???

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Be a duck. Those that leave comments that say your the worst person in the world and a wimp, delete them and move on.

My theory is that anyone who goes out of their way to read a cuckold store and then leave a derogatory comment is a cuckold who doesn't want to be but is too weak to tell his wife that.

Other than that you could just turn off comments and voting.

Most of the comments on mine, I just have a good laugh then delete the ones that are personal attacks. Why? Because I can and they can't.

 

[Lifestyle66]

I think there is considerable exaggeration of how terrible the comments are on cuckold stories at least based on the one I did for fun, which is here
https://literotica.com/s/dear-steve-i-just-fucked-your-wife?comments_after=11256461

4 comments were very positive, 2 didn't like the story and the rest said what they would do if they were the wronged husband-mostly see a divorce lawyer, which is not an unreasonable reaction. I didn't delete any of them. Nor do I have any evidence that any of the commenters have followed me to my main story in N&N, which has perfectly reasonable scores and a bunch of extremely positive comments.

Now admittedly, I'm an experienced writer with many stories on pay sites, and don't much care if someone on a free site is unhappy. Beggars can't be choosers as they say. But none of those comments would have stopped me if I were new. No comments might have, though...

I've received some negative comments:

"What sort of self-hating asshole wants this sort of disrespect and a whore for a wife?"

"Lol. What disgusting trash. Deviant losers."

"Why be married? Lousy story. Stop."

So, there are the haters who look for titles they know they'll hate and rate & comment accordingly.

 

[Djmac1031]

I don't write cuckold stories, but from everything I've read here, it seems negative comments on them are simply part of the deal.

For whatever reason, there exists a legion of trolls who simply enjoy trashing them.

So MY thoughts would be that the more negative comments you got on a cuckold story the BETTER, because it means your story really got their attention.

 

[MrPixel]

My take? Publish to LW with the expectation of being pummeled by creeps and lowlifes. As the others have mentioned, there are constructive comments, kernels of learning amid the chaff.

Above all, do not take any of the comments personally. "They" don't know you and never will, so how can it be personal?

I don't delete the idiot comments as it is my belief that the (lack of) quality of the comment and person making them is self-evident. Also, you may trip over the bad of the bad, somebody who takes offense at their input being "censored" and decide to mess with you in revenge especially if there is a scoring system involved. I have personally experienced this on other forums, so it does happen.

 

[windar]

I've received some negative comments:

"What sort of self-hating asshole wants this sort of disrespect and a whore for a wife?"

"Lol. What disgusting trash. Deviant losers."

"Why be married? Lousy story. Stop."

So, there are the haters who look for titles they know they'll hate and rate & comment accordingly.

It seems to me that the first 2 are directed at the characters in the story, not the author, which is a BIG difference.

I have created some evil characters in many of my stories. If someone hates them, that's to my credit because that means I wrote a believable bad person, which is not easy if you are a basically wonderful human being like myself...