How Does A Married Man Find...
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naturallyexcited
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Just chatting, hmmmmm, almost anywhere.
If you want to hook up, it appears that adultfriendfinder.com works pretty well. Some women there fit most goals. discreetadventures.com is less for hooking up and more for a relationship. I have looked at many of the sites, purely out of intellectual curiousity mind you,
, and these two seem to stand out as pretty popular and populated.
They both cost money to send mail to women to get started. They both seem to have at least a 10-1 ratio of men to women so you have to be articulate, interesting and not sound like an asshole. I've talked with women from both sites and they say they get upwards of 100 emails a day, mostly with genitals, and that turns them off. Sound interesting and interested and it seems to work.
If you want to hook up, it appears that adultfriendfinder.com works pretty well. Some women there fit most goals. discreetadventures.com is less for hooking up and more for a relationship. I have looked at many of the sites, purely out of intellectual curiousity mind you,
, and these two seem to stand out as pretty popular and populated.They both cost money to send mail to women to get started. They both seem to have at least a 10-1 ratio of men to women so you have to be articulate, interesting and not sound like an asshole. I've talked with women from both sites and they say they get upwards of 100 emails a day, mostly with genitals, and that turns them off. Sound interesting and interested and it seems to work.
gingermango
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I don't know about the 10 - 1 ratio. I see plenty of single women and married women looking for something on the side on AdultFriendFinder.com. In fact, that's where GoddessO and I find our playmates - we're looking for couples with our ad but I see plenty of folks looking for one party only. Yes, you have to weed wheat from the chaff there, but how is that any different than a bar?
Good luck with your search. There are folks out there.
Good luck with your search. There are folks out there.
SweetErika
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Personals is a good start, but you've been around long enough to know that.Jonaol said:
I'm not sure what kind of "chat" you're looking for (regular chat including topics like sexuality, or cybersex?), but I've found it easy to meet people through posting, and then one of us will usually send a PM when there's a more personal comment or question. I'm guessing that's how most Lit relationships (platonic or romantic) begin. If you go that route and are looking for more than just cybersex, PMing regarding a post or shared interests in a polite, friendly, intelligent manner is important. I've listed some tips here in our FAQ if you're interested.
AppleBiter
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Jonaol said:
Then you should likely seek out the personals forum.
Eilan
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What she said.AppleBiter said:
My husband and I have a (curently inactive) couple's profile on AFF, and we spent several months trying to participate in what passes as a community over there. I've always heard that the ratio of men to women is somewhere between 7:1 and 10:1. A man seeking a woman has lots of spammers, bots, and fronts for pay sites to weed through to find a genuine person. While there are some lovely women on AFF who aren't fakes, the pics/profiles that seem too good to be true usually are.gingermango said:
That major hurdle that you'll face will be your marital status--not a judgment, just a statement of fact. If you post a personal on Lit you'll probably get a few takers, though. Or not. It helps if, as naturallyexcited said, you make your ad stand out from the crowd.
