How does a married guy meet a nice married lady online

[kcbigkid]

Hi, I am a nice married guy in Kansas City who is in a passionless marriage. I would like to hear from others who have met somebody online as a discreet friend for having sex.

Do these type of relationships happen. I have tried a couple of the adult sites like AFF and LavaLife and have had very limited sucess even getting email answered. Most of the folks on them are evidently just there to be a voyer and never answer peoples email to them.

Do like minded married people really find other married people for discreet non commited affairs.......

 

[rob777]

it can happen

hey hows it going?.. to answer your question, it can happen.. do you have 5 years?.. that is how long it may take... thats how long it took me.. but it was worth the wait! i went down the same roads as you mentioned, numerous times... i came to the conclusion that there are very few married women actively seeking a married man for extramarital affiars...most of what you see out here is not what it appears to be... i would say theres a better chance of meeting someone in a bar then out here.. if your married. thats my opinion for what it may be worth. take it easy and good luck..

 

[kcbigkid]

Rob,

thanks for the reply. I guess that I just have to have some patience and give it time to wait for the right women to come along. I know that there must be many out there that are in the same situation.

Perhaps its harder for the women then it is for us men. But to live with out passion for many years is very tough. I am a well educated, fit, clean basically a nice guy.

Any Idea on how to write a better ad that would attract a nice lady in the same situation would be appreciated.

Looking for discreet passion in Missouri.

 

[rob777]

good luck

the only bit of advice i would pass along, is be honest and open.. share small details . thats how i finaaly found the woman for me, almost by accident we met on the internet and its been true love ever since...

 

[CollegeGuy4OlderF]

hey...if yall's wives need some love, send em my way!

 

[skye25]

hey,

I'm replying to let you know that it is possible to meet nice people for descrete sex. I'm in an open relationship and i met someone online about 8 months ago and we've actually become pretty good friends. We get togeather about once a month or so to fool around and it's worked out fine for both of us.

My advice to you would be to just be careful, make sure they aren't psycho or anything before getting too involved. Oh yeah, the site i used was Dream mates. Good luck.

 

[MyOpinion]

You Wrote:

How does a married guy meet a nice married lady online.

Do like minded married people really find other married people for discreet non commited affairs.......

Reply:

I do not have an answer to this except to maybe post in personals or use dating services now online for such. I saw one site that advertised it could hook men up with married women looking to play while hubby was away. You gotta wonder about discretion though, and of course weirdos.

You could try the navy seal's approach as posted in stories section. Hmmm, wonder if it works?

I will be interested to see results of this quest of yours. Keep us posted on your Venture to Passion!

 

[big salami]

Hi, I am a nice married guy in Kansas City who is in a passionless marriage. I would like to hear from others who have met somebody online as a discreet friend for having sex.

Do these type of relationships happen. I have tried a couple of the adult sites like AFF and LavaLife and have had very limited sucess even getting email answered. Most of the folks on them are evidently just there to be a voyer and never answer peoples email to them.

Do like minded married people really find other married people for discreet non commited affairs.......

yeah, it can happen and it does happen! it has happened to me although i am a widower now, i have met 3 different married ladies now who basically just want sex! and i've also met a couple of unattached ladies too! all on sites like these, two on aff, one on alt and 2 on lit! never tried lavalife though, what is that? is it a site just for u.s. contacts?
keep trying friend, it CAN happen but, you've got to be able to catch the attention with a really great and unusual letter to them and... don't expect any replies to your ad. that jusat doesn't happen! YOU have to make the initial contact!
good luck!

 

[kcbigkid]

Hey Big, Lavalife is another dating site that allows Married folks to list. The biggest problem is finding sites that friendly to married folks. Other then http://www.adultfriendfinder.com
and http://alt.com and http://Lavalife.com I do not know of sites that are friendly to marrieds........I would appreciate knowing of any additional sites you all might know.

 

[Scarlet_Flax]

Hi KC Big Kid!

You seem to be a "good guy"..if you would like to write, feel free...... kats_eyes99@hotmail.com Stay Safe...

 

[RomanHans]

Hey Big, Lavalife is another dating site that allows Married folks to list. The biggest problem is finding sites that friendly to married folks. Other then http://www.adultfriendfinder.com
and http://alt.com and http://Lavalife.com I do not know of sites that are friendly to marrieds........I would appreciate knowing of any additional sites you all might know.

Actually, there are several where you can search to see which other members are married or not. These include:

Kiss.com
IWantU.com
SexyAds.net
Adultmatchdoctor.com

Seems like there are several women in my area who post on at least three or four of these sites simultaneously--but the key is that they may not pay to join them. I generally join sites that are more or less free (like SexyAds.net).

Roman

 

[realcitykid]

The trick to AFF is that you have to hang out in the chatrooms. I've been hanging out there for almost two years, on and off, and have met many sexy women. Some were just one-chat-stands, and some have turned into cyber-friends. We cyber and even have phone on a regular basis. Some have wanted to meet me, and I them, but the trouble is that we live far apart. I live in a small southern city, and can't seem to find anyone online who lives nearby. If you live in a large city, you might have a different experience.

By the way, in all that time, I have received ONE email in response to my AFF add. So don't wait for them to come to you! LOL!

R

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Hi, I am a nice married guy in Kansas City who is in a passionless marriage. I would like to hear from others who have met somebody online as a discreet friend for having sex.

Do these type of relationships happen. I have tried a couple of the adult sites like AFF and LavaLife and have had very limited sucess even getting email answered. Most of the folks on them are evidently just there to be a voyer and never answer peoples email to them.

Do like minded married people really find other married people for discreet non commited affairs.......

Does your wife know you're looking? Is this an open relationship? Or would you cheating be hurting her immensely? Maybe before you go down that road, have a conversation with her, and tell her bluntly what you're contemplating, because the marriage is so passionless. She has a right to know that there's something wrong in the marriage, and she has the right to the opportunity for the two of you to make it better.

 

[West Mass Man]

Some serious research has been done here

 

[MightyZor]

Hey man, I know how you feel desiring to get to know other women. I am convinced that it's virtually impossible to meet them online. I mean of course it's possible but I am sure that mostly it's the men looking for women on the net, and not women looking for men. I don't think you should waste your time much on the net. I think if you want fun you're better off finding someone locally. Go to bars, concerts maybe, places where people meet basically. You may find just what you want. I wish it were possible over the net, but let's get real.

 

[jacqui4u2]

Just an opinion

I found your thread, read the posts, and want to add my opinion.

I agree with Vixonshe. I think you should talk to your wife and clear the issue.

In terms of meeting people, just go where people are..

You seem to be really shy.. is the only thing on your agenda sex
or are you looking for a relationship?

 

[damnewc]

disclosure

I agree with Vixie and Jacqui, she deserves to know. I know how you feel. My wife was distant and not really interested in much sex. I never considered going behind her physically, but I did the phonesex thing, and the chat thing and it crushed her when she caught me. And dude, if you are sneaking, you will get caught, it just is a matter of when. It took my baby and I a few years to determine what we were about sexually, but now, we have a very satisfying sexual relationship to say the least. You had enough love and respect for her to marry her, use some of that love now, talk to her man. It may go good for you, it may be a problem, but she is your WIFE, before God, if you believe in that sort of thing..... talk to her.

 

[Tx girl]

Just be yourself

 

[kcbigkid]

I appreciate what you all have said but sadly the relationship between us is almost over. Does she know that! yes, we both know that. We have talked about divorce and its just a matter of time. The only common thing between us is the kids. I have stayed for the sake of my kids as the oldest has special needs. But even the kids know that their Mother and I have no relationship. No love and really spend most of our time away from each other. She moved out of the masterbed room over three years ago. Her choice. After my next child turns 13 it might be time for me to move forward and a life without passion is a life not worth living. Life is too short not to share passion, sensuality and sex with another person. So at this time I would love to find another married lady who is in a simular situation. Is it ok to have a Sex friend? I think so as I have not had any sex with my wife for over five years. So in my opinion it is not cheating.

 

[SeST]

Hi, I am a nice married guy in Kansas City who is in a passionless marriage. I would like to hear from others who have met somebody online as a discreet friend for having sex.

Do these type of relationships happen. I have tried a couple of the adult sites like AFF and LavaLife and have had very limited sucess even getting email answered. Most of the folks on them are evidently just there to be a voyer and never answer peoples email to them.

Do like minded married people really find other married people for discreet non commited affairs.......

ever hear of, 'divorce'?

'discreet friend for having sex'.. basically saying you would cheat on your wife.. god, your pathetic

 

[kcbigkid]

Sorry you don't agree with me but I have stayed to be with my kids. Yes, its pretty bad when you have not had any sexual for over five years. She moved out of the masterbed room over three years ago. I get more tenderness from the occasional kiss from family friends and relatives then from her. She is angry and mean to the kids. There is very little love in our house. So why do I stay. Again for the kids. But we both have talked about a divorce. She will not file for it so I will eventually do it. I wanted to wait until my middle child reaches 13. I try to be a good father but having no passion or joy from a spouse has finally gotten to me. Am I a bad person for having sexual urges and desires. I really don't thing so. I guess that I can hire escorts and have sex with them but its not the same as developing a relationship with a nice lady who I can share some tenderness with. Somebody to hug and kiss, give a massage, perhaps even have sex with. Is it cheating after five years of having none its not cheating in my mind.

So please don't flame me for my opinion until you have spent some time in my shoes.

 

[cowboyfiddler]

Shut the fuck up.

Would all these women saying " just tell your wife you want to fuck another woman" just shut up please. The guy just wants to know how to get some strange. Leave him alone. Good luck bro!!

 

[damnewc]

Re: Shut the fuck up.

Would all these women saying " just tell your wife you want to fuck another woman" just shut up please. The guy just wants to know how to get some strange. Leave him alone. Good luck bro!!

Dude, you are out of line. Advice was asked for, and it was offered. He got different kinds of advice. That is what people wanting advice need. Different opinions in order to make a good decision. One cannot make good choices when one is uninformed. He got different advice and now it is his choice to make. You are outta line.

 

[Rosamund]

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[kcbigkid]

Thanks for agreeing with me, That is exactly the way I felt and still feel today. She left the mairtal bed I did not. But I do have needs and need to feel the warmth that only a lady can give me.