How do You....

[Missingmeds]

vent out your frustrations at things that are obvious to you but seem not to be to anyone else?

For instance, if you know that someone lied, and you have caught them doing so several times, but yet when they do it, noone but you can seemly see thru it?

 

[NaughtyLil1]

Hi Missing!

Maybe you can start a journal; it really becomes a helpful companion.

 

[CaptainAhab]

That's not very specific so it is hard to tell you how to respond.

I usually try to stay far away from people who I don't trust ... this includes anyone who has repetedly lied to me.

If others can't see through the lies ... well, if it is very important you can try to expose the person as a liar. In most cases I would try to just remove myself from any situation in which the liar might be involved.

 

[intrigued]

I would stay the heck out of it, the truth alway come out, in the end. When you go blabbing, you run the risk of not being believed, and it just makes you look like a trouble maker.

Besides, it's not as if we're the "Liar Police". Let people do their own mind making.

 

[Missingmeds]

That's not very specific so it is hard to tell you how to respond.

I usually try to stay far away from people who I don't trust ... this includes anyone who has repetedly lied to me.

If others can't see through the lies ... well, if it is very important you can try to expose the person as a liar. In most cases I would try to just remove myself from any situation in which the liar might be involved.

And if they are lying to others about you? Then what do you do?

 

[CaptainAhab]

In that case, I would tell the "others" the truth ... set the record straight without calling the other person a liar.

The "others" will then have to decide who is telling the truth. If you are a person of integrity (and I assume you are) your friends will have every reason to trust you over the liar. If they don't trust you over the liar ... then the "others" might not be the kind of friends that you need ...

Know what I mean?

 

[watergirl]

Let it go.

My advice would be to walk away. I used to work very frequently & closely with someone I thought was my best friend. Then I discovered that she was bad-mouthing me to our co-workers because she felt threatened by me. My solution was to stop working with her. She moved away soon after, and the work came back to me, and I now realize that people saw her insecure bullshitting about me.

Truth will out on its own, so leave it be.

 

[Missingmeds]

The walking away is not an option here. Unfortunately this person and I post on the same website and I won't leave that site.

But I know that this person is doing the same thing at said website that they did somewhere else. Caused no end of trouble for other people.

 

[Beloved]

If there's anyone who can vouch for you I'd ask them to do so, but remember that spin control can be a well practiced art form in cyber space and if the rumor mongers are determined they'll make up what they can't dig up.

Be secure in your own knowledge of what is true and know that in the end it all comes back around.

 

[Missingmeds]

In that case, I would tell the "others" the truth ... set the record straight without calling the other person a liar.

The "others" will then have to decide who is telling the truth. If you are a person of integrity (and I assume you are) your friends will have every reason to trust you over the liar. If they don't trust you over the liar ... then the "others" might not be the kind of friends that you need ...

Know what I mean?

I do and I hope how soon that the other people involved wise up and figure it out on their own.

Thank you all for the suggestions and if it were possible to just not go to the site I would. But I have friends there that I have had for years and don't want them dragged into the mess. I don't post on the site, but I do use the private message system, like the one here.