How do you want us to say good-bye to you?

[erosman]

A few years ago, I started a conversation with my wife and children, that resurfaces every year at this time. The certainty of taxes and death, has become the spring-board for LIVELY discussions on how we want our funeral/memorial to be handled. It really gives insight into what a person holds dear. Where their heart is at. A few highlights to add to the lists (yes, the secretary/mother keeps a written list):

The 16 y.o. son wants to be cremated(economic issue he gets from his parents) and have his ashes sprinkled along his favorite running route. He wants 'Pretty Fly for a White Guy' by Offspring played(?) (I have no idea what that is..lol).

The reading Mom only suggests cremation(see above), but I suggested we secretly sprinkle her ashes at a paper mill, in hopes she'll get 'used' in the paper for reading material.

The dad's requests primarily center around no pretentious piety.

We all agreed, that genuine, spontaneous reflections should dominate the eulogy...and of course, celebration.


we also assign certain articles for bequeathment

 

[Private Vasquez]

I'd like Sympathy for the Devil played....and I just hope people aren't all mopey and sad....have some fun!

 

[lovetoread]

I want a party.

Booze,food,dancing and anything else they can think of.

 

[perks]

Fire and Rain by James Taylor

cremated... there is a little island of trees in the field next to the house I grew up in with Birch trees and daffodils... scatter me there.

 

[glamorilla]

This came up last week i believe. I wasn't kidding when I said i want to pretty much explode...or at the very least get cremated. Its just when i go i want it to be as loud as humanly possible (without harm to anyone else of course)...I don't want to have a quiet death. Don't know why,just don't like the idea.

 

[Wiggles]

I guess you could steal some of my organs first, then creamate me and flush me down the commode.

I guess I'd want a little service, funerals seem to be a great way for family's to come together and really be there for each other.

 

[BigDawg69]

I want to be cremated and ashes spread in the Mountains of Western NC. If there is to be a song played, the Sarah McLaughlin's I will Remember You

 

[perks]

I want to be cremated and ashes spread in the Mountains of Western NC. If there is to be a song played, the Sarah McLaughlin's I will Remember You

I love that you have a feminine side<grin>

 

[erosman]

This came up last week i believe.

Sorry for the redundency, glamorilla. I think that might have been the week I was draining the swamp and fighting the gators.

 

[erosman]

I want to be cremated and ashes spread in the Mountains of Western NC. If there is to be a song played, the Sarah McLaughlin's I will Remember You

Oh sure, Dawg, you like all that weeping and wailing...

 

[glamorilla]

Not a prob! Thought it was an interesting thread that got buried.

 

[BigDawg69]

I love that you have a feminine side<grin>

I love that you love a side of me . . .

 

[Lasz]

I sure as hell dont want to be cremated. Bury me in a grave, old fasioned. If I ever die before my mom, play her "tell me momma" by Lenny Kravitz.

 

[tswyk]

Take the organs, cremate me, I don't care where you put me after that ....

As for any type of service, I've always felt that those were for the living, so they should choose the songs and /or words that remind them of me.....

And I would hope that it would be a very joyful trip down memory lane for them.

 

[Northern Lights]

I'm with the cremation & party crowd. And don't forget to scatter my ashes over Wrigley field....from about 500 feet so some of me drifts to those obstructed-view seats that I always seem to get.

 

[freescorfr]

They can have my organs if the'll take them.. The French won't take any British blood because of our mad cows, so I don't know about organs. I want to be buried in my garden, composted.

I'm with lovetoread on the party. My dad died last year and his grandchildren had such a great time that, during the evening meal in a resaurant, several people enquired what we were celebrating and we were all moved into a separate room eventually so as not to disturb the other diners. After the funeral we all went bowling.

mp3 a favourite.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/feedyourhead/files/Incredible String Band - WeeTam - 08 - Air.mp3

If the link works. I think Riff will like it.

 

[Slinky'sWench]

persoanlly, I'm having a quiet cremation to be followed by the mother of all parties and my ashes to go up in fireworks.... don't really know why the idea is now planned out on paper, maybe it's something to do with a celebration for the young children I'm leave behind to cope that bit better or maybe it's just the hope of one final damn good big bang, whatever it is, it's what I want and have picked a lovely area in mid Wales to go off in.

 

[erosman]

They can have my organs if the'll take them.. The French won't take any British blood because of our mad cows, so I don't know about organs. I want to be buried in my garden, composted.

I'm with lovetoread on the party. My dad died last year and his grandchildren had such a great time that, during the evening meal in a resaurant, several people enquired what we were celebrating and we were all moved into a separate room eventually so as not to disturb the other diners. After the funeral we all went bowling.

mp3 a favourite.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/feedyourhead/files/Incredible String Band - WeeTam - 08 - Air.mp3

If the link works. I think Riff will like it.

Ah yes, free, the image grows clearer. I thought the composition was too clean to be translated. It makes sense now.

I mentioned to my wife, that I would take some ashes and use them to give new life to the garden as well. Re-ingest the essence of her gift to me.