How do you treat people you tiffed with after it's over?

[KillerMuffin]

I'm just wildly curious. I fight around these parts all the time. Then I have to live with the people I've fought with long after the fight's over.

For me, when the fight is about me, it generally goes like this. Fight, it's over, it's forgotten. Most people aren't so sanguine.

I've had a few doozies in the past while I've been here. Like the one with cym. Wasn't that one the most embarrassing fiascos on my part. But we're pals now. I tiffed with Siren, can't remember exactly why. Doesn't matter, we've gotten past it and become friendly again. Then there was that Ramlick creature. I think he's in stealth mode, but I've still got the radar. MP, for those that remember her, and I got into it. I don't think either of us has gotten over it. We're polite. I had a run-in with estevie. I think she's a lovely human being and she think's that I'm {insert whatever she thinks}. We don't talk though. Of course... we never really talked in the first place so that means back to status quo.

So, if you get down and nasty on the boards, whattya do afterwards? Snideness? Forgive and forgetness? Just plain forgetness? Apologies? Studied ignoring? What?

 

[freakygirl]

KM.. first a question. Have you and I ever had a fight?

My memory sucks. I forget what I did this morning. Let alone what I did weeks or months ago.

I don't hold grudges..

 

[Cath!]

For me, when the fight is about me, it generally goes like this. Fight, it's over, it's forgotten. Most people aren't so sanguine.

I try...but it aint always so easy.

You and I have had MANY tiffs...but I respect your kickass opinion on most things...and if you shout at me, then I know I deserved it.

 

[cymbidia]

I forgive and forget. (Usually.) I don't have room for too much ongoing antipathy in my heart and don't want to find room for it, either.

And Muff? I think you showed incredible poise and sophisticated coolness after you ran me over like a Mack truck all those months ago - after the fact, anyway.




However, it's going to be a cold fucking day in hell before this last thing goes away for me. I almost never hold grudges but this time, with her, over this, i'm deadly sure that's what it's gonna be. Sometimes there's no second chance. Sometimes you fuck up so badly, and so callously, that you piss away your chance of people overlooking your "errors".

Just being very clear in this matter in case...anyone...is intending to come back all lightheartedly smiley like none of it ever happened.

 

[lavender]

 

[Tyrael]

I'll let you know after I get into my first really big fight here.

Be sure to be first in line to get your tickets to that one!

 

[freakygirl]

I forgive and forget. (Usually.) I don't have room for too much ongoing antipathy in my heart and don't want to find room for it, either.

And Muff? I think you showed incredible poise and sophisticated coolness after you ran me over like a Mack truck all those months ago - after the fact, anyway.




However, it's going to be a cold fucking day in hell before this last thing goes away for me. I almost never hold grudges but this time, with her, over this, i'm deadly sure that's what it's gonna be. Sometimes there's no second chance. Sometimes you fuck up so badly, and so callously, that you piss away your chance of people overlooking your "errors".

Just being very clear in this matter in case...anyone...is intending to come back all lightheartedly smiley like none of it ever happened.

In this case.. Yes, I would hold a grudge also. But most "net" fights.. i forget about. Not worth getting my panties all in a wad over.

 

[SexyChele]

For me, it depends on what the "tiff" was about, if it was simply a misunderstanding that got out of control, or if the person truly meant to be malicious and hurtful. (along with a bunch of other stuff in between!)

Normally, I'll try to deal with the person privately, see if I misunderstood something or was overlysensitive to a remark they made. This usually resolves itself, and we go on - forgiven and forgotten.

However, if the person meant to be hurtful, or if they rebuff any overtures at trying to reconcile, I have no choice but to ignore them, bite my tongue at times, and look to other people to brighten my day.

 

[heterotic]

I get over an actual difference of opinion very quickly. In fact, I'm very civil and friendly during an actual argument (at least I think I am, and try to be).
If somebody's intentionally going after me, personally, though, I get less friendly.
And the better they are at pushing my buttons, the worse (of course) I get.
I really don't have too many major buttons left, though. Most are worn soft through overuse

 

[estevie]

I had a run-in with estevie. I think she's a lovely human being and she think's that I'm {insert whatever she thinks}. We don't talk though. Of course... we never really talked in the first place so that means back to status quo.

Ya know what, Muff? I'm getting damn used to ya! I think Angel (I think thats who said it) said it best when she said you had a heart of gold under that ruff-tuff exterior...I'm inclined to believe that.

Now on to the question...

There are very few who I can't get along with. I don't hold grudges. I can forgive and ask to be forgiven. I can be 'nice' to anyone, even those I truly dislike.

 

[heterotic]

That was scary. Two posts, identical in basic message, written at the same time.

 

[April]

I've been in one major fight here. I don't carry a grudge, exactly, but I keep my eyes open for any of this person's shit, and will call them on it if it happens. Some things you simply can't forgive. Like threats of physical violence.

 

[modest mouse]

Muff,

My favorite was the way you and I made amends.

Leaning you back onto the bed, only after we calmed down, our anger boiling over to lust. Mouths meeting for the first time, no longer spewing diatribe but seeking each other. Wet, wanting. A spark when our tongues meet.

Your back braced within my arms. I lower you to the bed, never letting my lips leave yours. Your scent provoking my mind and blood flowing south.

Pants slide off so easily and you've shed your blouse in the blink of an eye. Before me, only blue cotton panties and a strained bra between my eyes and your delights.

Working free from my clothing, quickly, with abandon as I see you bra thrown to my feet. My eyes meet your stiffening nipples for the first time, causing me to match your reaction. Ahhhh.

Kneeling between your thighs. Small kisses planted on the inside of each knee. My thumbs hook in your panties and I slide them down, slowly at first but patience gives way to passion. Glistening soft hair and ripening lips lay before like an oasis.

Patnies finally off, pushing your legs wide to look at you. Peering up over your heaving breasts into your eyes. Letting you know with one glance that your pussy is mine, that until you scream my name like a banshee...you are at my mercy.

Kissing up your left thigh, nibbling and tickling. Swiping your wetness across my cheek as I thrust my tongue inside you without warning. Juices pour out as your lips part and thought is lost.

Probing deep, my lips pressed against yours as you wiggle your sweet ass. Teasing you with the tip of my finger as I move my tongue to your now engorged clit. Plying you open and sliding two fingers deep, finding your motion instantly. Thrusting, faster, moving from side to side to feel your velveteen walls hugging me, yearning for my touch.

Dancing on your clit with the tip of my tongue, then letting the course surface run over and under. All the while my speed increases inside you and beads of sweat appear on your legs, stomach, and your breasts are glowing with your heat.

"Cum for the Mouse" slips from my franticly lapping mouth.

Bringing another finger to jump inside of you, spreading you wider and feeling you squeeze tighter, harder, with recklessness. Slapping your clit against my tongue, knowing you are close.

"Oh Mouse, blow my mind baby. Call me 'cheddar' and eat me, NOW!"

 

[lavender]

 

[nasty]

I apologize for what I said. And, try my best to explain why I said what I said. And, that often gets me in bigger trouble. I should just apologize, and, let it be.

 

[Tim1]

Nope

No fights for me yet....I'm just wall paper around here anyways. The only one that really pisses ME off is.......oh shit I forgot who it was. Nevermind.

KM, you and I have never spoken back and forth, but if we ever do and you get mad at me...can I win? I Need the ego boost.

Have a nice day

 

[Rubyfruit]

...
"Cum for the Mouse" slips from my franticly lapping mouth.

Bringing another finger to jump inside of you, spreading you wider and feeling you squeeze tighter, harder, with recklessness. Slapping your clit against my tongue, knowing you are close.

"Oh Mouse, blow my mind baby. Call me 'cheddar' and eat me, NOW!"

LMAO - oh gawd, mousybaby, you're hysterical.

 

[KillerMuffin]

AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!

WHO TOOK THE CONDOMS!!!!!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

*sticks head under the bathroom sink and starts tossing stuff*

 

[patient1]

I think he's catching on !!!

I apologize for what I said. And, try my best to explain why I said what I said. And, that often gets me in bigger trouble. I should just apologize, and, let it be.

 

[DéjàNu]

Question!!!

Hi I'm new here and I've read the KM questions and ask myself one: Is it always only girls who fight with each other in here? and what about guys?

DéjàCurious

 

[patient1]

As my Kung Fu instructor's instructor used to say:

"It's your pride that gets you into a fight."

I'll let you know the first time it happens here. In real Life ,I exchange appollogies & move on. Actually I feel better after a quarrel, because it clears the air about where you stand with each other.

 

[Cheyenne]

I may forgive, but I also remember.

And if broken trust was involved, I never forget.

 

[Siren]

 

[Jacqline]

What I don't understand is why people have to get snide and catty anyway. If people would just think before they post and treat others like they would like to be treated, things would be a whole lot nicer. A few people have had their little digs on things I have said (for whatever reason) and I just shake my head and forget about it...........some people just feel the need to put others down to make themselves feel better.

I personally don't wish to waste my time on people being petty....besides, if we get upset, we are just giving them the power to hurt us.........

There are just too many cool people on here to let a few make it terrible for you..........let it go and go on to have a good time. I am so impressed how so many people here rally around someone who is down or going through something. To all of you in that category, I salute you and encourage you to keep up the good work!!!!!!!!!!

 

[KillerMuffin]

You wrote the memo. Or maybe I did. I misremember. You were wearing this gauzy see through thing. How do you expect me to concentrate on things when you wear stuff like that? I'm a pervert garsh darn it!